Should this be happening at school?

January20

missindecisive wrote: »

I wonder if your childs class teacher actually has any kids of their own ?

Oh because you think that teaching a class of probably close to 30 children, 5 days a week, for we don't know how many years (as we don't know how long this teacher has taught) without mentioning the training the teacher has had, is not enough to know about children?

Of course being parent to 1 or 2 or 3 children makes one so much more knowledgeable than a fully trained teacher!

duchy

The difference is a parent only has to deal with their own standards of acceptable behaviour -whereas a teacher is dealing with children from a complete cross-section of families from those who think willy waving is completely normal and acceptable-to those who feel itis completely unacceptable and insulting-and all points in between . Quite honestly if a seven year old hasn't yet been taught "There's a time and a place" it's high time they were !

Dippypud

January20 wrote: »

Oh because you think that teaching a class of probably close to 30 children, 5 days a week, for we don't know how many years (as we don't know how long this teacher has taught) without mentioning the training the teacher has had, is not enough to know about children?

Of course being parent to 1 or 2 or 3 children makes one so much more knowledgeable than a fully trained teacher!

No, that's not what was said...

Did you have a really sh!tty day at work today?...

[Deleted User]

Dippypud, a little unhelpful, sarcastic and not much help to the op

At the risk of sounding like i'm playing "Mum" in a kids arguement, why can't we all be nice to each other and stick to the point in hand (oops no pun intended OP!!).

Anyway, i digress, i haven't got any exp in this yet, my son is too young, but i'm reading with interest and i hope it works out.

Zoetoes

January20 wrote: »

Oh because you think that teaching a class of probably close to 30 children, 5 days a week, for we don't know how many years (as we don't know how long this teacher has taught) without mentioning the training the teacher has had, is not enough to know about children?

Of course being parent to 1 or 2 or 3 children makes one so much more knowledgeable than a fully trained teacher!

Is this not the sarcastic post?

mrs_marty

My eldest daughter is 7 years old, and yes they seem to be far more aware. Granted I have not long since had a baby and so did another girl in her class and I think two girls had some discussion as to how babies got there and came out.

As for boyfriend/girlfriend thing then yes the most innocent sense of that term, is in my daughters class too, lots of giggling involved lol

I dont think the school does a talk until they are 10 but they do, do an awareness of your own body not just body parts but healthy eating also comes into that too.

I can understand the teachers reaction as a class of 30 children with hormones budding on the side line and considering every parent has a different acceptability level, the teacher would just want to stamp it out before more copy cats take it home and parents may just complain.

TBH I wouldnt be happy if my DD came home and said boys in her class were doing this in front of her and the teacher sat back and done nothing. Nor would I be happy if my son done this either as it's not really how we want them to conduct themselves (my son is 5 and curious about his bits).

Hope it all settles down and any tips on how to handle a 5 year old boy much appreciated lol

sumsup

Let's try to be reallistic - children know by 3 or 4 that boys and girls are physically different. Use the correct anatomical terms ( and tell their teachers you have done so). Everyone make botty noises sometimes (and sneezes!) but it is good manners that means we try to keep it private ( school = give good manners prizes - = my 5 year oldknows hold a door for a lady.. . . . ).

How much biological info you give is a very personal matter, but children never cease to amaze by their ability to accept and absorb new information . . . . .

Mupette

what a lot of parents forget is....

We as parents are also responsible to teach our children right from wrong, why would you think the school should do it all.

He needs to be told there are times and places, it maybe ok for him to do all this at home, school is for learning, and as such should be on his best behaviour.

When my ds started nursery one of the first things i told him and drummed into him was to do what the teacher tells you, not that hard to say.

7 is a cheeky age, but parents need to take responsibility too rather than blame everyone else.

jodie114

i just knew it was a matter of time before this turned into a 'i hate teachers' rant.
Just because i don't always agree with what a teacher says/does does not mean i have no respect for them. They do a bloody hard job, one that i know i could not and i respect them, but i am not going to blindly agree with everything they say either.
I never said that there was a problem particually with the teacher, just that i needed to know if they got any class wide guidence at that age, as we have of course done the home talk, but for the parents that hadn't it would have been nice to have the back up.
I defy most little boys, however well they know that its private to ignore and not be amused by friends talking about private parts etc and getting involved.

kelloggs36

My DS was making 'sexy' gestures by moving his hips backwards and forwards whilst talking about naughty things (he is 7) with another child. The teacher told me that he had been acting 'inappropriately' but she was laughing when she said it. I said I would have a word with him - which I did and said that he can't do that at school as, whilst he thought it was a joke, others may not understand and think he was being rude, and that other children may be laughing at him, but would be going to tell on him next, so he should think very carefully about what he does. He seemed to understand what i was saying - I will just have to wait and see!