As The Workhouse Approaches....How To Do Everything To Avoid It, the Old Style Way

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redlady_1 wrote: »

Well, decisions need to be made at Chez Red...for a while OH and I have been looking half heartedly at buying a house together. We rent mine out (after I have done all this work )

Now, up until now I havent seen anything and knowing how picky his nibs is and the fact we had the OBB I knew I was safe. But today, we have seen a potential house. It really is a lovely place but is very cold inside. It used to be a chantry. I think with a Squirrel in the corner (it is that kind of house, and its a type of wood burner) of the dining "hall" it would be toast. All other heating is electric apart from a mahoosive open fire in the living room.

But I am scared!!!!:rotfl: Big roughty, toughty Red is actually petrified!!! I have lived on my own for 6 years and I was left with nothing. Everyone stays at arms length. I actually have nothing to lose by doing this and everything to gain perhaps another human being besides OH!!! :eek::eek::eek: My feelings for him are not in question.

For those of you on second time around, are these feelings natural about moving in with someone?! Or am I really the weird mat cat woman people think I am!!! And not only do I have to face this fear but there is a chicken run :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Oh, and to keep it on thread, this would be seriously money saving for me!!! :D

I think these feelings are because, although you really love this person, you are not ready to make this step. I suggest you listen to your unease and wait until you have a real peace in your heart about the timing.

Swampmonster

purpleheather2810 wrote: »

I am (bravely?!) taking my girls camping for a couple of nights on Monday. They have been asking for ages - they've never been before. DH isn't coming - he has a bad back and really doesn't fancy it. The girls were a bit disappointed he wasn't coming so I've told them it's a girls only trip... The tent, although it hasn't been used for at least 8 years, seems to be ok (we pitched it at the allotment last weekend). I just need a camping kettle and I think we'll manage. I've asked on freegle. I will take a portable bbq and one of those blue gas burners. I will do a bbq one night and I'm not sure the other night - maybe another bbq, lol.

I've been to B&m bargains today and they had cheap camping kettles.
Pretty sure they were 2-99.

Enjoy yourself!

redlady_1

I had my first day out with the trolley today. I actually didnt feel as if everyone was staring at me and headed to Lidl for the fresh bits. Thanks Jackie for finding it x

Hopefully now I wont need to spend so much in diesel running to and fro the supermarkets

Kimitatsu

redlady_1 wrote: »

Well, decisions need to be made at Chez Red...for a while OH and I have been looking half heartedly at buying a house together. We rent mine out (after I have done all this work )

Now, up until now I havent seen anything and knowing how picky his nibs is and the fact we had the OBB I knew I was safe. But today, we have seen a potential house. It really is a lovely place but is very cold inside. It used to be a chantry. I think with a Squirrel in the corner (it is that kind of house, and its a type of wood burner) of the dining "hall" it would be toast. All other heating is electric apart from a mahoosive open fire in the living room.

But I am scared!!!!:rotfl: Big roughty, toughty Red is actually petrified!!! I have lived on my own for 6 years and I was left with nothing. Everyone stays at arms length. I actually have nothing to lose by doing this and everything to gain perhaps another human being besides OH!!! :eek::eek::eek: My feelings for him are not in question.

For those of you on second time around, are these feelings natural about moving in with someone?! Or am I really the weird mat cat woman people think I am!!! And not only do I have to face this fear but there is a chicken run :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Oh, and to keep it on thread, this would be seriously money saving for me!!! :D

Oh redlady - gosh yes! But I also have to say that it was the best thing I ever did Like you I was left completely in the lurch with two small children and it took me a lot of time and not a small amount of patience on the part of my OH to even go out to dinner with him :eek: I even told him that he could meet the children after many months but if either they or the dogs didnt like him then I was really sorry but that would be it - bless him he still turned up Kids loved him, dogs were fine with him so that was that.

For me I think the way I always looked at it that as I had done it once, I could always do it again, so if I really hated it then that was ok I could leave :rotfl: But I was still scared, and it is hard after having lived on your own to move in with another person, so be warned there will be tantrums and tiaras on the way.

But you know, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and you have so much to gain, and really very little to lose. I do have to make a confession though at this juncture, I have said that when this one pops his clogs I am not training another one, it will be and the cats in a cottage in the woods wearing a lot of purple and being disgraceful!

kidcat

Jedi - congratulations, Rest!!

redlady- forgive me if I am wrong but my understanding is that you would be in a very different situation this time around in that if you and your OH did split you would still have your place to go back to (you said you would rent it out?) as long as you keep your tenancies no longer than six months you would always have the security of knowing you had a way out as it were.

No money saving happening here - its spend spend spend. I am finding it hard to believe how much I am spending on the house.

katholicos

kidcat wrote: »

All this talk of school days - today me dd leaves school. She still has exams to go back for but officially today is her last day.

It was my DS's last day of school on the same day. I now have no school children :eek:...gosh it goes by so quickly!

My DS had his Prom last night....seen some pics of him on FB...my God, i do have gorgeous children...least i did something right during my lifetime! LOL!

GreyQueen

EstherH wrote: »

Was it on here that I read about using bicarbonate of soda and vinegar to wash my hair? Done that and going to dry it now and see how it looks.

Really need to cut back now and feel like we had already cut back to the bone.
Because of the increase in personal allowances going up in the budget, we now have slightly more income from my hubbies small pension which has taken us over the income support level. We only got pennies anyway but it meant free council tax, prescriptions, eye test and dentist. We will now be a lot worse off over the year and immediately as eye tests are needed and after what I have just been reading on here I don't want to leave that. So something that was suppose to give us a little more has ended up costing us. Can't work for health reasons.

Well dried my hair and so far it seems okay. I had been using baby shampoo for the last couple of months and that has left it soft without having to use conditioner too.

Have a good day everyone. Looks pretty grim out at the moment here.

God bless. Esther

Hullo Esther, just putting my two'pennorth in; get to answer benefits enquiries as part of my job. Income support (IS) is a passporting benefit for purposes of getting housing and council tax benefits but loss of it doesn't mean that you won't get any help at all. The legislation is that each type of household has an "applicable amount" of income and this is defined by the governent as what you need to live on. It's laughably low. Income over and above the applicable amount is defined as "excess income" for the purposed of calculations and they take 65% of excess income off your entitlement for HB and 20% off your entitlement for CTB. Our benefits assessors in our council ran real claimants circs thru entiltledto website and found it accurate to the penny.

These are means-tested benefits and you may still get help; always try for it. Re prescription charges, eye tests etc, you can ask the pharmacy/ GP etc for an HC1 form to apply for help with NHS costs and you may get full or part certificate. If you have to incur costs between applying for the cert and getting it, retain receipts etc as you can try to claim them back afterwards.

((lora)) hugs....so very sorry to hear about your brother's brain tumour.......you said it's malignant but I hope that they can treat it? I know a person who survived one.....

Today has been very family-oriented. I went to see my Nan who will be 88 next weekend and took her gift and her card. We went as a group and Dad did her garden which he cultivates as if it were an allotment for her benefit and Mum and Aunt M did some chores and I lounged around and chatted until I found that a hearthside display of artifical flowers was caked with dust and I took it apart, gave them a quick swisp thru a sinkful of soapy water then out on the linen line to dry and then re-arranged them fetchingly in their block of Oasis. We also took fresh flowers down to the village churchyard where my granded is buried alongside his parents and where there is a space on the headstone for Nan's name to be added. Felt a bit sad among the family graves, and tearful.

Got some photos done from a family "do" held earlier this month and saw a pic which someone had taken of one of the "family" farms; passed out of our keeping in the 1920s and we were looking at pictures of the boarded-up windows of this listed sixteenth century farmhouse. It's so wrong that the farming conglomerate which owns the land (plus shedloads of other land adjoining) sees fit to let a listed building stand empty year after year and fall into dereliction. Done up, it could fetch half a mil and could be rented for well over a grand a month but I guess this big company doesn't need to watch the pennies and is content to let a large building and its outbuildings rot rather than be used for housing. Sparked off a lively debate about the immorality of wasting buildings when so many are in need of homes.

On a lighter note, I have convinced Mum to try one of her famous rice puddings tonight with Tesco Basics long grain rice rather than "pudding rice" which is 75% dearer. I have made a succession of sucessful rice puds with the long grain and can't see any difference. If it flies, that will be a few more pennies saved.

Noticed in Mr T that soda crystals have leapt from 68p/ kilo to 90p kilo. These are a staple in my home and I socked about 10 pkts into the cupboard a few months ago at 68p so will be making a wee return on those. Thinking if they're going to go up by another third in a few months, should I add some more as they're used up? What do other people think?

Re bicarb and vinegar, I rinse my hair with half a cupful of vinegar to a sinkful of water between shampoo-ing and rinsing and it really seems to help take the hard water residue out of my hair and keep it shiny. Never tried bicarb on hair; shampoo at 22p/ litre does me fine. To be extra MSE , I use vinegar which has already served one use in my h.m picked onions..........:rotfl:

Well, must wander off elsewhere on the web for a while.......hope everyone is having a good evening.

katholicos

mardatha wrote: »

It was "O" and "A" levels when I was alive. I got the first lot but then left school and eloped with a biker before I got to the second lot
I was brought up in a very rough village but got on fine, never bullied and can appreciate the good in all sorts of people. Sometimes the roughest people have the warmest hearts.

They were O levels and A levels during my time at school as well....Mardatha, you're another biker chick eh? :beer:

katholicos

cat_smith wrote: »

Get a dog! Local cats soon learnt to keep out of the garden:rotfl::rotfl:

I have a dog, but the cats still come into the garden...she's full of yap but she doesn't look very threatening I guess....

HoneyBee83

Jedi- Congratulations! :beer:

Its taken me hours to catch up on this thread :o I do try and keep on top but once you leave it for a day or two it snowballs! Goodness you ladies can chat :rotfl:
Veggies are coming on nicely...apart from my runner beans they dont look healthy at all. Not sure what to do really,they are getting warmth from the sun and plenty of watering.
Off to write up a strict meal plan for the next week,possibly two. Big food shop is just over a week away so im busy using up bits and eating from the freezer-which also needs defrosting!

Have happy saturday nights everyone.
Hugs all round x