LiT - starting from the beginning and rebuilding my life

youareallhelpingme

Can you just send some of that energy this way! I have done some washing and some weeding and I've run out of steam :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

life_in_termoil

Well I never made it to see my friend but I did make it to the nearest pub as I had to leave the house as I was furious and if id of stayed I would not of been responsible for my actions!!!

Eldest son who lives with my mum and is a university student has had a phone call tonight from his father (you know the KH that now has his new family and only acknowledges my younger 2 children). KH asked him if he could lend £200!!! Obviously DS said no and then phoned me. Im outraged!! How can anyone stoop so low!! Anyway I had to leave the house so that I did not have access to KHs phone number or a telephone otherwise I might of said a few things and thought it best that I should perhaps keep my mouth shut, so wanting to avoid temptation I tootled off to the local pub and had a couple of vinos to calm my nerves!

Im now back home and have had a couple of missed calls on my mobile and a message on the answer phone. Surprise surprise its KH saying he is sorry for the phonecall on Monday and could I please phone him. Well hes not going to be getting a phone call from me and I am now turning all phones off. If anyone important wants me they can get me on skype or send me an email and I will phone them.

I cant believe I married a low life piece of carp. I dont understand how he is so skint, he works, she works, doesnt pay me any maintenance money, lives in a council house with very low rent and has been splashing the cash whilst they were on holiday, im just baffled. Maybe karma has bitten him on the !!!!!, who knows.

life_in_termoil

Sent KH a lovely email this morning giving him lots of friendly advice on sorting his debts out!! Why oh why did I do that? Why did I feel the need to help him? B0llox never mind hes not replied anyway but noone can say I didnt try and if he doesnt take up my advice then its his problem and forever in debt may he be.

Made onion soup this morning which the kids had with HM bread for their tea whilst I was at work. Not really done much else today really. Oh and ive not spent any money and ive not bought any ciggys!!! YAY!

Moos_mum_2

Well done for not buying any ciggies :T:T

Sounds like the ex is trying to get a reaction from you just ignore him

I believe in karma so what goes around comes around

Hope you are well otherwise

life_in_termoil

Woohooo its Friday!!!

Last shift at work later then the weekend off yay!

This morning I have had a letter from the CSA with the amounts he should be paying for the next 12 months! Its going to cause world war 3!

He has been assessed at £53 a week but because of arrears he has 1 x £218.18 (Month), 1 x £414.17 (month) and 9 x £460.41 (month) he will never pay this and think he WILL quit his job. I think whatever money (if any) I receive I will have to treat it as a 1 off and not add any amounts to my budget as I cant see maintenance as being a regular thing. Ho hum.

Anyway tomorrow we are off uniform shopping which will be no fun whatsoever. I hate it and the kids hate it, they get bored and whine but I will treat them to a Maccy Ds.

Anyway im off to do some cleaning, have a good day everyone x

youareallhelpingme

How'd the shopping go? We got the last bits today, just the name labels to sew in now , I hate that job.

Footiemad_2

Hey LiT
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Hang in there, if he had been coughing up he wouldnt have so much to pay. Lifes tough but thats his problem. What does he think you will being with the money, its for his own kids, just because he has another family, doesn't mean the others should lose out grrrrr.

Anyway enough of that...you have been doing a grand job with everything, all things considered.

Well done on the decorating too. Cough cough, fancy come over here and kick starting my decorating

I am sure your DD will realise where she is best off.

Dont worry about the ciggies either..temporary set back, you have done so well and will be fine.

Catch you later and keep smiling x

life_in_termoil

Uniform shopping yesterday, now £170 lighter and they still need shoes, stationery, bags but seen as though they wouldnt come with me I couldnt get them so its their tough luck.

Today I need to get motivated and get some housework done.

So far today i have:-
put the tesco delivery away
turned the hosepipe on to water the veggies!!

My to do list today is:-
Tidy lounge
blitz kitchen
tidy hall/stairs/landing
do laundry

life_in_termoil

Well ive done the washing and hung it out, tidied the hall/stairs and landing and have masked it off ready to paint, but now i cant be bothered lol OMG i wish i'd never of started this decorating lark! Whose idea was it anyway? Cant of been mine!

Anyway off to clean the lounge and wait for the washer to finish another load. Toad in the hole for tea tonight but wont be having that till about 7.

life_in_termoil

Ive lost focus in all aspects of my life so I need to get my !!!! in gear and sort myself out.

Things I need to do

• restart spending diary
• do at least 3 x 20 mins cleaning per day
• stick to meal plan
• take packed lunch to work so dont spend an hours wage on food whilst im there
• spend less time on the laptop
• finish painting the hall/stairs/landing
• sand down and paint radiator cover
• fill and sand down cracks in lounge
• paint lounge
• paint bathroom
• declutter
• sort out garden
• get the kids organised for school
• get a grip on the budget
• take the dog out at regular times
• keep updating this diary so people can give me a swift boot up the back side

Obviously this is going to be an ongoing work in progress and wont all happen over night but today I will start a spending diary and keep it up. I will also do at least 3 x 20 mins cleaning and I will today finish painting the hall/stairs/landing.