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LiT - starting from the beginning and rebuilding my life

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  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    Woop woop all chores done!! Yay go me.

    Ive text KH to see what time they are leaving and what time he will be getting to mine but as usual I havent had a reply. So all doors and windows will be locked before I go to work and he will just have to sit outside and wait till I get home at 10.15.

    I would of suggested him coming into work to collect the key but there is no way he is going into my home without me being there as he has a tendency to waltz off with things he thinks are his (usually my eldest sons xbox games or my playstation or other things).
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • Footiemad_2
    Footiemad_2 Posts: 1,419 Forumite
    Hey LiT

    Hows the hair ;) bet you look fab. Well done on getting the chores done too chick.

    Too right, he has no business in your house. He is ignorant not replying, its not like you want to talk to him!!!!!

    Hope the kids got back safely. ;)

    Catch you later :D
    Footiemad:footie: 2013 - SPC no.1147...Keeep potting!!
    2013-VSP #21 £14.59
    SPC 2012 - £207.44
    SPC 2011 £647
    VSP 2011 £70.37
    23lb/54lb :o
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    Kids back safe and sound and said they have had a good time. Both him n her were rather grumpy, so i made them a brew and they left (after hardly uttering 2 words!) Kids said they had had an argument in the car lol oppsssss but he is a mardy a*se when hes tired. Asked him when he is next having the kids and he said he will have them for afew days over Xmas but cant have them very often coz he works!! Helloooooooo !!!!!! do u think I do!!! Sooooooo throughout the whole of 2011 he will of seen the kids for a grand total of 20 days!!!! What a complete and utter waste of space, dont know why he bothers really. Ah well kids will make their own minds up as to whether they want to go or not.
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    Footiemad wrote: »
    Hey LiT

    Hows the hair ;):D

    Hair is lush!!! Thanks for asking x
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • Footiemad_2
    Footiemad_2 Posts: 1,419 Forumite
    Hi LiT

    Glad the kids are back safe and sound and that they had a good time. :D Hmmm good for you showing them some hospitality, not that he deserves it miserable so and so. Anyway he's out of your hair thats all that matters.

    Speaking of hair, so glad that you are happy with it and its good that you manage to do something for you.I bet you feel great. :D

    Also the kids will grow up and will make up their minds about whether to see him or not. Christmas indeed, how many months are there before then....or does he have a problem counting !!!!!!!!!!!!

    Hope you have had a good day chick ;)
    Footiemad:footie: 2013 - SPC no.1147...Keeep potting!!
    2013-VSP #21 £14.59
    SPC 2012 - £207.44
    SPC 2011 £647
    VSP 2011 £70.37
    23lb/54lb :o
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    Just had a phone call off KH and he has been ranting and raving over the phone at me about how I have screwed him and his new family over. Now he is a: rather thick or b: plain !!!!in stupid but it was over the CSA. He had offered to pay me direct of £75 each to 2 children then £150 to me - totalling £300 a month. CSA has said he needs to pay £54 a week and will be taken from his earnings. Now he paid the kids their £75 each this month and I got diddly squat. I asked him what his problem was as he now pays less than he would of been doing if the paid the proper amount he agreed and he went off on a tangent calling me all the names under the sun and that now ive screwed myself as i wont be getting anything as he is now quitting his job! Well crack on mate ive managed without your support for the past god knows how many months so why would leaving his job affect me...Hummmm pr1ck!
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    Arggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Im so annoyed with myself I could kick myself!!!

    Ive only gone and bought myself a pack of cigs and a bottle of wine!!! £10 wasted and 7 cigs smoked.

    Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    No cleaning done
    no washing done
    no nothing done!!

    KH made me so angry I could cry!!!

    Had a good chat with a great friend on the phone and I think ive pulled myself together. Why oh why do I let that knoob get to me. After almost 3 years you'd think i'd of learnt by now. Anyway lesson learnt so the next time he phones im just going to hang up on him.
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
  • Moos_mum_2
    Moos_mum_2 Posts: 67 Forumite
    Hi

    I couldn't read and run.

    Your story with your ex and him not understanding that the CSA payments will be less for him sounds so familiar. except my ex didn't threaten to leave his job instead he was going to work abroad :D

    My ex's favourite saying is " I've provided enough already for Moo" errmm hello she is only 8 you ain't done paying yet mate and buying her an IPod when she wanted a Polly pocket set doesn't qualify as providing

    My ex now has the csa money deducted from his earnings :D . I think they dislike the CSA involvement as they have to pay and can't muck them about .

    I also have issues with him not seeing Moo for months at a time because he is "working " and like you say kids are not silly they will make up there own mind soon enough

    So I know how you feel , and I always go for ciggies and wine after
    speaking to my ex. Enjoy them and don't let the ex get you down :)
    Emergency fund £0/£300
    Total debt 120/£10,750

    If you think you can you will,if you think you can't you wont
  • life_in_termoil
    life_in_termoil Posts: 1,036 Forumite
    I dont mind so much about the wine, its the ciggys!!! Id done so well giving up and now im right back at square one. Oh well tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards.
    Sealed Pot Challenge member #982
    In 2012 I pledge to:- Save £1 a day, meal plan, be more organised, have NSDs, set myself a budget AND STICK TO IT, throw all loose change into Sealed Pot and not open it till 29th November.:money:
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