Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

debtfreehopeful_2

so if a parent dies moving on and remarrying is acceptable?

but if a partner is abusive its not ok to move on?

or a partner leaves you because they dont have the maturity to live an adult life?

or simply you fall out of love and like with a partner?

being a single parent is hard, my mum did it for a number of years before meeting my stepfather. she was a single parent because my fathers violence escalated to the point of nearly killing her more than once. she left him when i was 9. when i was 12 my stepfather moved in, hes a kind caring man and one im proud to call dad. my mum is disabled and was unable to have more children after me but if she had been then surely you wouldnt begrudge her that happiness?

What im trying to point out is there are dozens of reasons for single parents and dozens of reasons for step-parents to be around. just because one relationship does not work does not mean that person should spend the rest of their life in solitude.

oh for the record im a married student, my husband is a student but works hard to support us as we both feel it is important to have a parent at home for a childs early years. it was a joint decision that he would work and from next year (once our second child is born) i will more than likely be the one working. And yes at times he drives me nuts and i whinge about him, just the same as he whinges about me. How dare people judge someone as lazy/immoral etc from just a few lines of text on an open web forum where more than likely the whole story hasnt been posted.

achtunglady (i think) i do hope you and your dh/dp can sort things out. why not take a few days to stay with friends and leave him to fend for himself with the kids, may make all the difference

Sue

debtfreehopeful_2

double posted sorry

Sue

Horasio

THE_LONE_RANGER wrote:

who belittled who ? age 42 married 18 years ,computors are not my thing realy but you have resorted to insulting me so touched a nerve i suppose its tuesday dont work tuesdays or sundays shock horror , but ive offered single parents work etc ive employed 2 poles they work hard and no complaints and ones a woman o my god i must be mad

You have insulted single women and women in general on this thread. Typically, you can't take someone standing up to you in return.

42 isn't old nor a youngster either. It is an age where you should have more understanding and wisdom.

I am not going to carry this on any further as your intention seems to be hurtful to people on here.

It is Christmas I refuse to get involved in a sad argument with someone who has anger issues.

Merry Christmas

Horasio

debtfreehopeful wrote:

double posted sorry

Sue

MSE was doing an update

Horasio

djdido2 wrote:

cc

you are so hopping mad you had to tell him twice lol

x

:rotfl: :rotfl:

Hee Hee

MSE would have to be doing its update just then

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

if ive upset folk sorry but all im saying a bit of work and some folk think there hard done by .
a lot of people divorce quickly becouse they can hubby wont do this wife wont do this selfish is the main reason ok some are abusive but they are not main reason for divorce .
there are a lot who when they divorce expect to stay at home and bring up kids you lose that right when you divorce whether its your fault or not.
over the next 12 months labour is coming down hard on lone parents long term sick and the like the torys will do the same .
my cousin works for the dss and he has the paper work and as he said there is nearly 2 million on benefits of some sort who are going to have a wake up call a lot a single parents will be called in so its not just my views

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

CCStar wrote:

You have insulted single women and women in general on this thread. Typically, you can't take someone standing up to you in return.

42 isn't old nor a youngster either. It is an age where you should have more understanding and wisdom.

I am not going to carry this on any further as your intention seems to be hurtful to people on here.

It is Christmas I refuse to get involved in a sad argument with someone who has anger issues.

Merry Christmas

im very happy but whingers and free loaders annoy me and this country is about to address the situation and merry xmas to you

djdido2

yes but its the peeps who won't work that you should be having a pop at. not all single mothers are unemployed. its narrow minded to tar everyone with the same brush. we become lone parents for all sorts of reasons. in my case my ex was abusive, controlling, paranoid and lived in the dark ages. the best thingi did was walk away from him. if i'd stayed we'd be secure but i would have gone crazy or turned into a timid person.

you should think about what you say before you post. its annoying when people come across as "i am better than you".

yes you lose that right when you split and you have to work but its bloody annoying when the ex can live the life of luxury with no responsiblity while i have to do ALL the hard work. its not easy being a mum employed or not!

Horasio

I agree that the bludgers need a wake up call but I feel you have hit a nerve with some of the single parents on here.

I have been a single parent that has had financial support whilst my husband worked away and it is very difficult. I truly admire people who manage to work and keep a family together by themselves.

We have also been unemployed after working for 25 years, paying our taxes and it was horrendous. Not a day went by that both of us were looking for work.

Thankfully we are working and things are OK but it is very worrying and you get very little back when you need it.

djdido2

THE_LONE_RANGER wrote:

im very happy but whingers and free loaders annoy me and this country is about to address the situation and merry xmas to you

Also,

why are you assuming the OP is a freeloader??????????