CSA1 Case closed for 5yrs but now REOPENED!

sjc3

infant2801 wrote: »

Why was I stupid?.

:T:rotfl::rotfl::T

Classic, bet you ask yourself that alot

As some other savvy, non gullible poster remarked;

"you went to all those lengths, told all those lies, created all that deception - to what..... get lower assessments for YOUR child.

I still reckon this is a wind up

FBaby

OMG, you were in a serious relationship, you had an affair, didn't tell your girlfriend you were already with someone, didn't protect yourself, and when she got pregnant, your purposely waited to move in with your partner to make sure you paid less towards your child, and then asked your partner to sell her house and move in with her knowing you had deceived her and had a child behind her back?????? And you are saying that you never told your partner but she found out when your affair found her and contacted her? Are you really surprise that your girlfriend did everything to try to get any penny out of you?
If your partner is sticking by you after all this, she is the one suffering from stupidity...

sjc3

infant2801 wrote: »

Kellogs: I never lied on any forms,

:beer: Yeah right, pull the other one mate its got bells on it :beer:

AnxiousMum

infant2801 wrote: »

I've been up all night worried about this, I was only asking for anybodys advice/help. I believe you have been advised on several posts - pay what is due to YOUR child! I've paid more in 6yrs than most fathers pay in a lifetime and I'm being treated like a deadbeat. Because you are putting yourself forward as the deadbeat you describe! You pay child support according to your income - if you don't earn much - then your child wouldn't benefit from a grand lifestyle, if you earn more, your child should benefit from a few extras - just as they would if you were with the other parent living as a family.

No, I was'nt being devious on purpose it was more shock. The shock lasted how long? I can see a panic in the beginning, but you went to great lengths over a long time to ensure you got away with supporting your child to a standard which the child is entitled to. Guess it was hard to carry it on all this time, AND hide the fact you were paying child support out of a family budget which your partner was unaware of. I nearly had a heart attack when she told me she was pregnant. I had to admit to her I already had a partner and could'nt be with her and child, I'll bet your wife is really proud of the winner partner that she has eh? thats when she threatened she would go to the CSA. Obviously not an idle threat......and it's the CHILD'S RIGHT to have the CSA go after deadbeats to help support them.

That's when I knew I had to sell my house, a house I had lived very happily as a single man, hardly any mortgage after completing my 22yrs army service (they even included my pension). A pension which, had you been living as a family with your child, your child would've benefited from right? HAD to sell your house? No, you didn't HAVE to sell it, you chose to, and your plan failed you miserably.

Now they are trying to say that was not allowed under old rules, taking out a higer mortgage within 9 mths of the childs birth, I can't find any info on that. No idea on that at all - but you did it to increase your cost of living so you wouldn't have to pay a proper rate of child support - you say so in your first post. Your choice....back to bite you on the a.s.s.

Can you imagine the worry I had, waiting for years incase my partner found out, So now she knows what a winner/weiner you are right? I even had the CSA dealing through my work address. Its all through those stupid social networking sites that the PWC found her. Aren't they great?

Kellogs: I never lied on any forms, when the 1st and only assessment was made I WAS NOT officially living with my partner. The silly thing is, her 'income' would not have formed a part of your assessment - and if you failed to inform them of a change in circumstances, when you knew a reassessment should be done if you were getting a break due to living costs, then hey ho.....what goes around comes around right? I waited a couple of months after the childs birth, CSA done assessment and THEN my partner sold her property and moved in. See, deviant planning doesn't pay does it?

Thats the grounds I am fighting it on, I didn't lie, so they can't do that, can they?

In this case, I hope that they do whatever they can in order to get what was rightfully due to your child all these years that she was denied a relationship with you as a father, that she was denied the little extras she might've been able to do.

Thank goodness you are the minority type of absent parent.

Marisco

Out of curiosity, just in case there might be someone "real" in the same position, how did he lie on the forms, if he wasn't living with his partner at the time?

pupsicola

infant2801 wrote: »

After 6yrs they started asking for partner details, (partner did not know anything about this child), so I rented a flat and give them the new rented details and said I live there.

They started asking about my property and my partner (I had now explained everthing to her) and we decided to remove my name from the deeds and leeave hers only then inform CSA I had gone back to my homeland.

It worked out better than we expected the CSA closed the case down. Maintenance no longer in force were the actual words used.

This is how he lied. Does he really come across as someone who played by the rules. At every turn he tried whatever he could to pay as little as possible to his own child. Why his partner stayed with him is beyond me. Same type I guess

Shermanator123

My ex partner has done exactly the same but hasnt taken his name off the deeds of the joint mortgage he claims hes living at his mothers address, he isnt of course I am in the process of trying to prove this all I can say is thankgod for that CENSUS form hopefully this will pinpoint where he actually resides

DUTR

Shermanator123 wrote: »

My ex partner has done exactly the same but hasnt taken his name off the deeds of the joint mortgage he claims hes living at his mothers address, he isnt of course I am in the process of trying to prove this all I can say is thankgod for that CENSUS form hopefully this will pinpoint where he actually resides

I'm not quite sure they can use the information on the census form, and that is assuming it was filled in correctly and honestly

Marisco

I certainly hope they cannot!!! That is not what the census is for! On the DT board there is a thread about not filling in the census, and I said I couldn't understand what all the fuss is about! Maybe those who are not filling it in have got it right after all!!! I'm sure many more would refuse to fill it in, if they thought it could be misused like this!

pupsicola

If you know his address all you have to do is look up on the land registry and you can prove whos names are on the title register. It costs £4 and you then download it and send it off to csa.

Also cant the csa check with the council and see who is registered at the address for council tax bills.