Friend Committed Suicide Because Of Partners Secret Debt!

chani1 · 26 November 2006 at 5:02PM

what a tragic story i am so sorry to hear about your friend, my thoughts are with you and your friends family at this awful time.

elaine373 · 26 November 2006 at 5:10PM

Thats very sad. I think it must have been more than the debt and secrecy that drove him to suicide. No-one may ever know the full reasons as he is now gone.His partner must have had her reasons why she kept the job loss from him, we shouldnt judge her. My thoughts are with every-one who is involved in this.God bless.

savvykaz · 26 November 2006 at 5:23PM

My most sincere condolences to you too.
My dad committed suicide (19 yrs ago now), it wasn't over money problems, but I know EXACTLY what you are going through right now. DO NOT torture yourself thinking you could have done more - you did everything you could - you were there for him when he needed someone and unfortunately if someone is determined to die then nothing will stop them. Now, all these years later it still upsets me to think I will never see my dad again, and to make matters worse, we have recently been burgled and they took a gold watch my dad bought for my 18th birthday, the year before he died! I'm not bothered about all the other stuff - it can be replaced, but the watch never will be. Sorry to go off on a tangent! - be strong and there for the fiancee if she needs it and love to you in this difficult time xx

oops_a_daisy · 26 November 2006 at 5:45PM

My sincerest condolences go to you and your friends family. It must have taken a lot for you to write all of that down and I hope it helps somebody. As others have said, dont blame yourself - you did everything that you could. Im sure you must be going through an awful time, so many questions but I suppose the biggest one is why? Be strong and you can always come here to talk.

needmoney · 26 November 2006 at 5:58PM

So sorry to hear such a tragic story and for the loss of your friend.

CFC · 26 November 2006 at 5:59PM

It's so terrible when someone commits suicide. Someone I used to work with and was quite fond of did the same last week with pills and drink. Yet no-one would ever have had him down as likely to do so. Relationship problems and debt drove him to it. It's so sad to feel that someone sees that as the only way out.

iwbus · 26 November 2006 at 6:03PM

It's hard to know what to say, obviously condolences to you over the loss of a friend etc. But you must take heart that your apparent financial savvy would have helped him on the right road and may have got him in a much better position had he been without other problems. I hope that your post makes people sit up, think, and be aware as there seems to be far too much stigma around matters of personal finance

taxi73 · 26 November 2006 at 7:01PM

My condolences for your very sad loss...please don't beat yourself up over it...you were were a loyal loving friend to him...it must of been heartbreaking posting this sad news and I can see where you are coming from( hoping it shows at least 1 person that debt is not worth your life)...I wish every person in the universe knew about this site as people should not feel stigmatised for getting in debt...I so hope that anyone else contemplating suicide finds this site 1st..my thoughts are with you at this sad time.