Why dont bad days stop at 'days'.....

aliasojo

poet123 wrote: »

Sorry:o I didn't mean to make light of an issue that is clearly and rightly, causing you upset. Difficult to know how to play this one, but I would go on gut feeling, who do you really see doing this, and why? decide on that, and return the compliment.

Then, when it all kicks off re the missing item, a frank exchange of views is in order, and the underlying issues need airing.

Don't be daft, no sorry needed.

Just read back what I'd written earlier...I'd put 'why didn't someone say look MUM, found your t-shirt'. Looks like my subconscious has already found a culprit.

If it was the eldest, then there wont be much 'exchanging of views' going on because of his disabilities.

Savvy_Sue

So is it the kind of thing your eldest would do? I think you've indicated that your DH sometimes has strange ways of (not) communicating ...

aliasojo

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

So is it the kind of thing your eldest would do? I think you've indicated that your DH sometimes has strange ways of (not) communicating ...

Son does do annoying things but hasn't been nasty before, maybe he's starting a new phase.

I think OH is more of a sulky and defensive type rather than nasty and offensive iyswim?

It's disconcerting.

poet123

Maybe he sees it as a game? not overtly nasty ifyswim.

izoomzoom

We had a strange disappearing occurrence earlier in the year.

Granny had bought my two son's an ipod.

DS2 was playing with it one morning, and put it down somewhere when he got his last few bits on before going to school.

Later that day an accessory arrived for the ipod, so I briefly looked for it, but couldn't find it.

What followed was 16 days of extensive searching through the house. We had quick glances through all the drawers / cupboards, then we had proper digging through said drawers and finally complete stripping of everything to look for this bloody ipod. We even moved cupboards etc to see if this item had fallen behind the drawer.

Eventually when we stopped looking (as everyone told us, 'you will find it as soon as you stop looking') DS2 strangely found it on the floor in his bedroom, an area we had looked / searched many times.

Little pixie's ........... ?

Spendless

I get things that randomly turn up after being missing, eg I once looked page by page for my car tax renewal form couldn't find it, then dh looked whilst I was at work and told me it was the first piece of paperwork on the pile, but I'd looked several times!! JK Rowling even mentions it in her Harry potter books that the wizards put some sort of disappearing charms on items to bait muggles, but it's hard to prove cos the muggles just think they ahve misplaced stuff. That is enough to convince me that is happens in most households.

You seem quite sure that someone in your household is doing this to play games though, so I am guessing you either haven't ever experienced the 'it's there but I looked there' before or you have reason to believe that someone is doing this to wind you up?

There_Goes_Trouble

Why not tell them you're having an 'anger amnesty'. Maybe they took the items as a joke and have realised they've gone too far but are too worried to own up. Tell them that you're going out for an hour at *choose a time* and if the missing items are left in *choose a location* when you get back then nothing more will be said.

It won't solve your issue of 'who dunnit', but you might get your items back.

aliasojo

poet123 wrote: »

Maybe he sees it as a game? not overtly nasty ifyswim.

Not beyond the realms of possibility but very unlikely.

Spendless wrote: »

You seem quite sure that someone in your household is doing this to play games though, so I am guessing you either haven't ever experienced the 'it's there but I looked there' before or you have reason to believe that someone is doing this to wind you up?

There are only 2 options, either someone has done this deliberately (for whatever reason) or there is something supernatural going on.

As most of you will be aware, I am on the pc a fair bit therefore am in front of the shelf the monitor sits on, many times in a day. There is no way in God's earth could the bank card have simply been 'overlooked'. It was sitting in full view, it's not even as if anything had to be moved to see it, the shelf is empty apart from the monitor.

The t-shirt was draped over the top of the clothes rail my daughter uses at the moment. She goes there every day for her coat. It was over the top so had to be moved to take a coat hanger out. Again, no possible way it could ever have been overlooked.

Before now, I would never have said any of my lot would have wound me up (in this way) but it seems the only reasonable option.

scottishchick27

aliasojo wrote: »

No it wont. :rotfl:

Edit: Your 'misplacing things issue' (trying to be kind there ) is genuinely accidental, there is no malice involved. With my issue, I do actually believe the taking and then replacing is deliberate, that's why I am so bugged by it.

OK I've had a couple of drinks and may be speaking shoite but do you know any 'friendly police officers' who could have a wee word with your offspring and hopefully 'scare them' or find out who it was and this may stop? Good luck Babe. x

MatyMoo

aliasojo wrote: »

Not beyond the realms of possibility but very unlikely.



There are only 2 options, either someone has done this deliberately (for whatever reason) or there is something supernatural going on.

My sister lived on her own and things were forever going missing only to turn up exactly where she first looked for them weeks later.

This was the year after our beloved young nephew had died.......