The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

flimsier

flimsier wrote: »

25 for me please. Just about to sit down and watch Saw 6.

Make that 26 and Saw - the final chapter

MrsR all my thoughts are with you. I don't know if he's an alcoholic. I've been there before, so he might not be - but he's certainly dependent. I think the term "alcoholic" might not be a useful catch-all for everyone who is dependent on alcohol! xx

365days

Hello. Long time no speak.

Tomorrow is my 2 year sober anniversary. Hurrah for me.

When I realised with the help of this thread that I had to stop drinking I fought the idea for a long long time. Surely I just needed a bit of a break from it all. Surely I had let myself get into a bad habit and now I had a few AFD's under my belt I could go back to drinking like a normal person. When i finally realised that the only way to control my drinking was not to drink it scared the living daylights out of me. How could I stop doing something that I had done everyday for the last 20+ years? I was a drinker, a party girl, a ladette. I prided myself in being able to hold my drink and boy could I. I don't need to say aymore about how low I hit...it wasn't tragic low. I kept my job, my family and my home. But i lost my self respect, my joy of life and most importantly myself.

I would love to say the last 2 years have been easy. Thye haven't but I'm sure a bottle or two of wine wouldn't have made them any easier either.

I'm 2 years sober. I am an alcoholic. I am happy to 'speak' to anyone here if they want to ask me anything about my journey.

Best wishes to you all. May your drinking be under your control whatever that may be.

caramelcaron

Well as expected I wasn't AF yesterday. We had a very nice (if a bit tense) extended family meal to celebrate my eldest step daughter's birthday and I stuck to my pre-planned 2 glasses of wine interspersed with (very overpriced :eek:) fizzy water. I think I did very well as my DSD1's mother is enough to drive anyone to drink! She doesn't like that I am so close to both SDs, well they did live with us from 13 and 14 until they went to uni. My husband of course was oblivious to all the undertones as he guzzled down a bottle and a half of merlot surrounded by wife number 1, wife number 2, daughters 1 and 2 and stepdaughter (mine from a previous relationship)! Our son couldn't be there as he has just started his first term at uni so the poor man was surrounded by an excess of oestrogen!
Anyway, no alcohol for me today so I'm declaring 6 please Shaggy and 2 for the SNC Bearacus.

365days

jo1972 wrote: »

Hello :wave: looooooong time no see

I just had my first AF day since 1st Dec last year, doubt very much I shall be able to sleep tonight but looking forward to being unhungover

Way to go Jo. Never give up giving up. xxx

caramelcaron

flimsier wrote: »

I don't know if he's an alcoholic. I've been there before, so he might not be - but he's certainly dependent. I think the term "alcoholic" might not be a useful catch-all for everyone who is dependent on alcohol! xx

You're quite right of course; I didn't mean to sound as though I was 'diagnosing' MrR's condition. I use the term for someone who appears not to be able to function without alcohol who depends on it and whose life and the people in their life are affected by it. Of course I have no way of knowing if MrR has a physical and psychological dependency; I apologise if I implied otherwise:o

gien

jo1972 wrote: »

Hello :wave: looooooong time no see

I just had my first AF day since 1st Dec last year, doubt very much I shall be able to sleep tonight but looking forward to being unhungover

Hi Jo! Good to 'see' you again - hope you did sleep OK in the end.

And 365 well done on 2 years of sobriety - it might not have been easy but I'm sure it's worth it!

I've got another 3 AF days to add to my total - and I'm feeling good about it.

MrsR, the amount MrR is drinking is enormous - I really feel for you.

flimsier

365days wrote: »

Hello. Long time no speak.

Tomorrow is my 2 year sober anniversary. Hurrah for me.

When I realised with the help of this thread that I had to stop drinking I fought the idea for a long long time. Surely I just needed a bit of a break from it all. Surely I had let myself get into a bad habit and now I had a few AFD's under my belt I could go back to drinking like a normal person. When i finally realised that the only way to control my drinking was not to drink it scared the living daylights out of me. How could I stop doing something that I had done everyday for the last 20+ years? I was a drinker, a party girl, a ladette. I prided myself in being able to hold my drink and boy could I. I don't need to say aymore about how low I hit...it wasn't tragic low. I kept my job, my family and my home. But i lost my self respect, my joy of life and most importantly myself.

I would love to say the last 2 years have been easy. Thye haven't but I'm sure a bottle or two of wine wouldn't have made them any easier either.

I'm 2 years sober. I am an alcoholic. I am happy to 'speak' to anyone here if they want to ask me anything about my journey.

Best wishes to you all. May your drinking be under your control whatever that may be.

Congrats. Thanks for posting.

flimsier

caramelcaron wrote: »

You're quite right of course; I didn't mean to sound as though I was 'diagnosing' MrR's condition. I use the term for someone who appears not to be able to function without alcohol who depends on it and whose life and the people in their life are affected by it. Of course I have no way of knowing if MrR has a physical and psychological dependency; I apologise if I implied otherwise:o

No need to apologise. I wasn't aiming anything at you at all. I just think it's easy to assume the solution is the same for all "alcoholics" when it's far from the same. Or rather, I assume it's far from the same. I'm no expert either.





I'll be drinking again on Saturday - out with Mrs F for her birthday. I'll be back on the AF wagon on Sunday I hope.

ForeverHopeful_3

Just coming in to say "hello" to all those I know from previous Af'ness :j

Very happy to report my Day 3 of not drinking. Need help to keep going though, so will be back tomorrow. Off to bed now and looking forward to another feel good morning!

Love to all X

ForeverHopeful_3

365days wrote: »

But i lost my self respect, my joy of life and most importantly myself.

That's me! I've stopped drinking for a while before (many times) But this time feels different for your reason above. Most of all the "Joy" bit. I should be so happy. Fab husband who works really hard to provide for us, two gorgeous healthy children and plenty of nice things to look forward to. But my mind was always busy thinking about my next drink. The vicious cycle has got to stop. The day I put a vodka bottle in my wardrobe was getting too close for comfort. I can't believe it even crossed my mind!

Still vividly remember when my mum found a bottle of brandy rolled up in my dad's jumper drawer.

That's NOT me!