attention seeking husband

money_saving_diva

Has he mentioned it this morning?

Is he saying it was a prank now as you assumed or still unsure what happened?

I think he needs to see a gp if he may have passed out.

I'm so confused by this bizare thread!

patchwork_cat

Had he been drinking? I'm not suggesting that he was so drunk that he was comatose.

balletshoes

p_joker wrote: »

not really looking for advice but wanted a rant really, My husband has really peed me off this evening, I don't know if he needs help or what.....
we have had a good day, both off work I did a bit of painting the kids were at nursery he did his bits and bobs, we had mac donalds tonight as i was feeling lazy everything was fine then when we got home I said to DH would u like to watch our son (he was on the potty) or get their jim jams he said he would go get jim jams, 10 mins later he was still upstairs so I shouted up where he had got to at this point I had already undressed DS waiting to get him ready for bed, I shouted up again asking what the hold up was no answer,
when i got up there he was face down on the landing and wouldn't answer me,
now if I thought he was being real I would have been worried
but over the years he has done this kind of thing countless times
but this time it really hurt, my dad was very ill before christmas, I went and stayed with him for a few nights while he wasn't himself, one night I heard him kicking his bedroom door he was laying on the floor and could hardly breath it was a very scary time for me it turned out he had legionella pneumonia, he picked it up on holiday and ended up in intensive care on a ventilator, My husband had 2 teeth out last week and I was there for him I let him go to bed, brought him up drinks pain killers etc changed his sheets when he got blood all over them but hes still going on about his mouth, hes always saying hes ill and when I don't believe him he starts a row but when its something all the time its hard to believe. We have 2 kids and Im starting to wonder if he feels he doesn't get enough attention

seriously? he needs professional help - and you don't need to be taking care of 3 kids on your own (one of them a very big kid who should know better!). I honestly think you should suggest to your OH that he go to his GP for a start, to discuss his illnesses if he thinks they are real, and also to discuss why he feels the need to prostrate himself on the floor and not speak to anyone.

I felt like laughing when I read your post at first OP, but really, that behaviour is just weird from an adult and a father, in my opinion.

elvis86

This thread has made me laugh so much!:D Just bizarre!

Kay_Peel

p_joker wrote: »

We had mac donalds tonight as i was feeling lazy...

My husband had 2 teeth out last week ...I let him go to bed ......

hes still going on about his mouth .....

hes always saying hes ill .....

...... I don't believe him ....

...... he doesn't get enough attention

I know it's hard for a young working couple to keep love alive and show that you care for each other when you've got small children and a home to run.

Neither of you had the energy to cook a decent meal, so you settled for a sugary, high-fat snack from McDonalds (I know they call it a meal but it's a sandwich and crisps as far as I'm concerned and personally I would not put it in front of a young mum or a grown man - both of them need decent grub.)

If his teeth aren't healing and he's feeling ill and exhausted all the time he may be suffering from Type 2 diabetes. If he has a high sugar hit (ie a McDonalds and sugary drinks), he will feel awful and drowsy.

Treat him as though he had type 2 diabetes for the next month. Prepare some good grub together, eat it together, go for walks with the children of an evening and hold hands, go swimming, do something daft together.

As I said, I know it's hard to make space for your relationship - but it's the one thing that I bitterly regret not doing when I was in your shoes.

Even if he hasn't got Type 2 diabetes he'll feel cared for and loved - and you'll be all the better for it too.

Good luck to you both.

ska_lover

Are you sure he is faking it? These don't sound like the actions of a mentally balanced grown man.

Next time he 'collapses', call his bluff. Offer to call the emergency doctor out - and check his reaction. Or book him an appointment at your GP and accompany him while the kids are at school. If he really is ill, he will want this sorting.

If he is definately faking it, I would suggest he sees the gp anyway for some psychological evaluation.

Tropez

I was about 12 or 13 at the time. My dad and I were working on his car in the garage and dad sent me up to ask mum something. She was tidying some stuff up in their bedroom. I walked in and found my mum lying face down on the floor beside the bed. I must have screamed fairly loudly because my dad came running up the stairs within a minute and even the dog who knew upstairs was out of bounds came charging up the stairs. Mum awoke very startled and said that she must have fallen asleep. I remember my dad, who was normally a reasonably calm person, was absolutely livid with mum for doing that. I also remember this feeling of something rushing downwards from my head to my toes, escaping my body, leaving me panicked and everything rather surreal. I had nightmares regularly for months after that.

It never happened again after that, thankfully. But, if that single incident had such an effect on a boy in his early teens, imagine the effect it might have on a very young child?

Your husband's behaviour is neither normal, nor healthy. Whether it is a symptom of a mental health issue or some form of childish attention seeking it must be addressed, not just for you or your OH but for the mental wellbeing and health of your children.

sashadesade

You need to establish for sure what's going on - are you positive he's faking it? If he insists it's genuine, then you need to make him see a doctor to find out what's going on. If he really is just faking it, you have to have a serious talk with him about how it makes you feel and how it will make the kids feel. Your kids may not seem too bothered now, but the most frightening moment of my youth was finding my mum unconscious on the floor (she had had a brain haemorrhage btw, she didn't just make a habit of that kind of thing). Also point out to him that if he continues to cry wolf then no-one's going to believe him if he genuinely is seriously ill.