combining your shopping when you first move in with your OH!

brokeinwales

spugzbunny wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
hahaha! Cheers for that - better go and break up with him then! I know some things are strange but not buying food together is really high up on my wierd-ometer

Before anyone sneaks through my old posts, I have only been working away from home for 6/7 weeks now so this is all pre-then.

It works for us. He hates to share with a passion where he has been known to throw his dinner in the bin out of protest if I steal a chip. He is also a veg-a-phobe! I am on a diet. We both like to eat as soon as we get in and we both have variable working hours depending on how busy our day is.

And yes- seperate shops. Seperate cars. Seperate days.

What do you do about kitchen equipment and things like cleaning products and tea towels? (Just being nosy here btw!)

donquine

My OH drinks and can't live without meat.

I rarely drink at all (probably works out at less than a bottle over an entire year!) and whilst I do eat, I don't eat a lot of it and have been mistaken for a vegetarian before.

We could slash our food budget if he would give up drinking and eat meat less often, but it's not something he's prepared to do.

Equally, we could cut our electricity bill if I would spend less time in the shower, but that's not going to happen either.

Relationships are all about give and take. There will always be some things you refuse to compromise on, but it's amazing really how much you're prepared to tolerate when you're in a relationship with someone - and how you wouldn't tolerate those same things from someone else.

I think when you move in, the food situation will sort itself out naturally. We sometimes do veggie food where meat is chucked in at the end in OH's portion for his benefit.

split_second

me and my gf are moving in together in a matter of weeks (she is an mse'er too) and spend every day together between the two houses at the moment. we have already agreed that we will alternate who pays for the shopping, i am lucky she wont make anything that interferes with my allergies (i am VERY alergic to peppers for example)

my outlook is she is the woman i love, there is probably loads of things she would eat on her own that i wouldnt touch (cheese and onion crisps for example- bleugh) but if she has run out and its my shopping week, throw them in the trolley, its what a few pounds? its worth it for her

Spendless

This thread is reminding me of one of the stranger aspects to how my parents used to sort out money when I lived at home.:D

On Friday late afternoons the milk round lad used to call at our house for the weeks money. i used to shout Dad to the door (cos I fancied the milk lad and could oggle him for longer;)). Dad used to then pay him from money in his wallet/pocket cos mum was not home from work till later. When mum got in Dad used to tell her she owed him the milk money and she used to pay it back to her ...from the weekly housekeeping money Dad had given her on his pay-day.:huh: :rotfl:

I could have understood it, slightly more if Dad didn't drink milk, but that wasn't the case.

We don't have 'his' and hers' money. Different money might go into different accounts and are ear-marked for different things, but everything is 'ours'.:p

wonderpupp

My husband is a veggie,
I found it easier (and cheaper, healthier too) to just cook veggie food, but I guess your man wont be up for that. Not to say he wont let me eat meat, I just decided it was easier.
We just chuck stuff in the trolley, and say "Baggsy Pasta and garlic bread on Tuesday night, you're cooking."
And generally make a game out of it, taking the mickey out of each other the whole time.
I think you do need a small element of meal planning though, and you will figure out your staples (bread, cheese, pasta, squash), in time.

We like different squash, so there are 3 bottles of different flavours /types in the fridge. And my "dirty bacon" hides at the bottom of the fridge for the weekends...

brokeinwales

We just chuck stuff in the trolley, and say "Baggsy Pasta and garlic bread on Tuesday night, you're cooking."

:rotfl:fabulous!


Yeh, OH is happy to eat vegan when we're together, but he has confessed he finds veggy meals less satisfying than meat ones, and sometimes finds it a bit sad that he can't share more of his favorite dishes with me. (He also, bless him, said it's sad that it's harder to buy me treats because I'm not into cakes, and most chocolate isn't vegan!)

sjc3

It depends on how you two will decide to split your finances when you end up living together. Joint accounts or seperate?

My hubby and I earn similar salaries. We pay an equal amount into our direct debit account to pay all the bills. Also we pay an equal amount into a spend account to cover shopping, petrol etc.

We put the same amount each month into a savings account which covers holidays, treats etc.

The rest of our individual money we keep in our own accounts and use as we wish.

Like you are finding, we have different tastes when it comes to food too. Hubby is a chef and likes to use organic ingredients and has quite fine taste. I am far less fussy and would quite happily eat what he terms as "pub grub" most nights. So whilst I would settle for bangers, mash and beans, he would rather knock up some fancy seafood risotto for us. Its just all about compromise and accomodating each other.

Talk with the only person who can really give you answers and get it out in the open with your oh. Tell him what your concerns are and see what he says. Best to be upfront about it and sort it out rather than worry.

sjc3

split_second wrote: »

me and my gf are moving in together in a matter of weeks (she is an mse'er too) and spend every day together between the two houses at the moment. we have already agreed that we will alternate who pays for the shopping, i am lucky she wont make anything that interferes with my allergies (i am VERY alergic to peppers for example)

my outlook is she is the woman i love, there is probably loads of things she would eat on her own that i wouldnt touch (cheese and onion crisps for example- bleugh) but if she has run out and its my shopping week, throw them in the trolley, its what a few pounds? its worth it for her

What a fab attitude, made me smile

Doom_and_Gloom

Well I'm vegan and my partner is an omni.

My partner works but I don't due to disability so the money that my partner earns is joint - the disability money is spent on my disability needs.
As we are together and live together, and have done for nearly 5 years, we don't see things as mine and his. All of our money is joint.

When we go food shopping we buy what we need and pay for it out of the joint money.
You could either keep it how you do it at the moment and both pay for what you buy or you could try the joint method. Really you need to ask him what he thinks would work for you.

split_second

sjc3 wrote: »

What a fab attitude, made me smile

awww thanks