3 yr old falling out of bed

motherkitty

I can still remember my daughter falling out of bed when she was about 3. I heard a bump and went upstairs to find her head first in the little plastic basket I put next to the bed to put her dirty clothes in - still fast asleep! After that I put the mattress from the cot down next to the bed (and moved the basket of course!) until she wasn't falling out any more.
And as so many others have said, don't beat yourself up about it. How many mums and dads have felt awful about shutting little fingers in doors etc - happens to us all I'm afraid!

Wilma33

dianek2c wrote: »

Paramedics came out...

Paramedics are for situations where someones life is at risk. You should not call one when a child falls out of bed.

dianek2c

Wilma33 wrote: »

Paramedics are for situations where someones life is at risk. You should not call one when a child falls out of bed.

I wasn't aware that Paramedics could only be called upon the circumstances of the accident/incident. I was under the impression it was the injury sustained from said accident that warranted a paramedic visit.

A young child who has split his ear and hit his head, using several towels soaking up blood is that situation. I'd much rather my taxes went to that situation - any child not just my own - rather than some drunken idiots getting injured.

On another note, thank you for taking much longer than I expected for someone to pipe up with this opinion. It has sort of restored some faith that the holier than thou crowd are somewhat moving on.

I wonder whether the twenty or so other commenters would agree with my decision.

Thank you to everybody else who has experience of this and for relating your tales. It has certainly given me something to thing about with regard the removal/keeping of guard.

meritaten

I would probably have called the emergency services too! I agree with you that where a child is involved you cannot be too careful! after all - you dont even have to have taken a first aid course to be a parent. So, how are you supposed to know if the child may have a serious injury when all YOU see is buckets of blood and a screaming child (although I have learned over the years that the LOUDER they scream the less serious the injury! as a general rule that is).

pigpen

DD2 fell out of her top bunk at 5 and caught her ankle and was hanging by just that until her dad rescued her.. they all fall out of bed DD1 fell out of her high sleeper several times.. thankfully they usually bounce and the odd cut or graze heals.

(FTR, I wouldn't have called the emergency services either, but I am sure they would rather come to see a little boy with a cut ear than get a call in the morning that said little boy had died of a brain haemorrhage because his mother daren't ring for fear of recriminations.)

RuthnJasper

dianek2c wrote: »

Hiya all

My 3.5 yr old son managed to fall out of bed last night and split his ear on a toy fire engine Me and him both are shaken by the whole thing at the minute, there was a lot of blood and he could barely breath for shock. Carpet, teatowels and flannels took a lot of blood and it wouldnt stop coming.

Paramedics came out but he was still too hysterical to let them touch his ear and due to the split inside the edge of ear (where it curls) they couldnt apply stitches without pinning him down. They decided that as it was hidden in side the rim of his ear it shouldnt become infected and not to clean off the blood until today when he was more comfortable. That done, the split is quite visible and to be honest has upset me all over again.

I feel so horribly guilty. I took his bedguard off last week as he wasnt rolling all over the bed anymore and staying in one place. We decided to give it a go with a duvet on the floor for the first week and stopped doing that a few days ago, last night he had put the fire engine on the floor by his bed when he went to sleep ( I didnt know this but wish I had checked)

He has been as bright as a button today and even made me smile when he studied his ear in the bathroom mirror and shouted 'mummy, mummy my poorly ears gone' until i told him it wa the other ear!! That has reassured me isnt in any pain as he doesnt even know which flippin ear it is!!:rotfl:

The cabin bed (mid riser) we have on order for the end of april, will have to be left in the garage until we have got our confidence with the bed situ again.

Anyone reassure me im not a rubbish mummy?? Will this set us back in the bedguard stage?? Anyone reckon my sons cabin bed will be up before the end of this year ????

You are NOT a rubbish mummy - you are a VERY good, loving mummy indeed. I don't have kids myself but I can still remember that my younger brother was always falling out of bed. It's just bad luck that your little lad landed on a toy. The fact that he was probably also startled out of a deep sleep by his tumble certainly wouldn't have helped - even if he's landed on a cloud of marshmallow he'd most likely still have had a bit of a wail.

My mum used to keep an old (but clean) mattress - a simple cheapo one (or even a thick duvet - but we didn't have duvets when we were young) under my brother's bed, which she'd quietly pull out after bedtime-story. Quite often, we'd find him asleep on the floor-mattress, none-the-wiser! The thing she really had to worry about was ME - I used my bed as a trampoline and was always whacking my head on the ceiling, hehehe....

But this unfortunate little incident with your son was MOST DEFINITELY not your fault. Even if you were to win the Intergalactic Mother of the Millennia award, little accidents that aren't anyone's fault are always going to happen.

Even Jasper-dog shrieks like a banshee on the odd occasion when he falls out of bed whilst asleep (he hasn't got a fire engine though... I think he prefers Fifi and the Flowertots!).

Good luck to you and your little fireman! xx

sjc3

Oh hun, bigs hugs to you. As much as we may all want to, you cant protect your kids from everything. In the end having little accidents is how they learn what is safe and what isn't and start being careful.

I would suggest putting the bed guard back on. My daughter was a nightmare at night times till she was about 5. From when she started to walk we were in trouble. She climbed up the bars of her cot and through herself out. Hubby and I shot out of bed wondering what the hell had caused such a loud crash in her room. So we changed her to a little bed and she was constantly falling out (bed guard or not actually).

We put big fat pillows everywhere round her bed and removed any toys once she was asleep.

Now at nearly 8 she is still accident prone. Trouble seems to follow her around. I wish you luck. Sit down with a glass of wine and a big block of your fav chocolate and chill out. Unless you relax a bit over their childhood accidents you wont last till they are adult and off your hands. Hubby and I have already aged 20+ years and dd isn't in her flipping teens yet!!!!! Thats a whole other area of trouble we have to look forward to, joy :cool:

Sublime_2

Don't worry about it. They will still keeep falling out of bed to begin with. I used to put a duvet folded in half on the floor next to the bed, for a cushioned landing, and moved all toys, books etc out of the way.

Please don't beat yourself up about it.

pupsicola

You are not a bad mum at all. Accidents happen. My sister and I shared a room and had bunk beds. I was on the top bunk. It was a common occurence for my mum and dad to be sat downstairs and to hear a god almighty crash. Me landing on the floor. It didn't even wake me up ( I must have been a very odd child ). After the first time they scattered pillows all over the floor (cheers folks). Once I was down there I stayed there as waking me and dealing with my sleepy moods was best avoided apparently! My blanket just got thrown over me. Guess this accounts for why I can pretty much sleep anywhere now

RuthnJasper

dianek2c wrote: »

I wasn't aware that Paramedics could only be called upon the circumstances of the accident/incident. I was under the impression it was the injury sustained from said accident that warranted a paramedic visit.

A young child who has split his ear and hit his head, using several towels soaking up blood is that situation. I'd much rather my taxes went to that situation - any child not just my own - rather than some drunken idiots getting injured.

On another note, thank you for taking much longer than I expected for someone to pipe up with this opinion. It has sort of restored some faith that the holier than thou crowd are somewhat moving on.

I wonder whether the twenty or so other commenters would agree with my decision.

Thank you to everybody else who has experience of this and for relating your tales. It has certainly given me something to thing about with regard the removal/keeping of guard.

I would probably have rung for a Paramedic (or, at the very least the bods at NHS Direct) in the situation. Wounds on the head often bleed quite profusely and, despite the fact that I don't have a child myself, I can well understand how alarming this must have been, particularly for a parent. Also, the poor child was probably also hysterical and unable to clearly express what had happened. So all the evidence the mother has to go on is the sound of the thump (the fall), an hysterical little boy and rather a lot of blood. I'm not a paramedic but I am a trained first-aider and I know (as someone else mentioned above)that I would MUCH rather be summoned for an incident that turned out to be less-serious on closer inspection (but where there was genuine initial alarm) than have anyone - especially a child - suffer because no-one thought it was important enough.

It's true that children shouldn't be wrapped in cotton wool - but they shouldn't be left to just "pack-in any whimpering and get on with it" either. I, personally, feel that the mother was quite justified in summoning assistance over this incident. Hope the little lad's making a good recovery. x