Am I being spoilt and any childminders?

Mojisola

If I was you, I would feel my Mum was being unfair to me!

If she thought it was so important to make you self-sufficient, why is she enabling other people to stay dependent?

minerva_windsong

onlyroz wrote: »

Is there any possiblity of taking the child to the meeting with you - could they maybe sit in a nearby room with some crayons for a bit?

That would have been my suggestion - when I was little and my mum had to work (in school holidays for instance) my dad would quite often take me to work with him and I'd just sit in his office with books and quiet toys. If he had to go to meetings I'd stay in there and one of the girls from the office would pop her head in regularly to make sure I hadn't wandered off or anything.

nuttybabe

does your nursery offer a wrap around care. my son has a morning place at nursery 8.45 until 11.45 but if i pay £8 he can stay for lunch and get picked up at 3.

faithcecilia

I wonder if, to some extent, your mother has 'adopted' her friends daughter and grandchildrew, especially as you live at a distance? If so, she may well be more than happy to do extra helping out and feel unable to let them down if they give her the close (physically) relationship you can't? I know my mother has done this with a number of families, as she knows it is highly unlikely my brother will give her grandchildren and I definately won't!!

It can be hard to accept your family being close to other people but it doesn't mean she thinks more of them, or is intentionally being tough on you.

pigpen

Have you asked at your daughters nursery if she can have a full day as a one off?

duchy

Sorry another vote for "spoilt" (in the nicest possible way )

I believe we can HOPE others will want to help us out when we're stuck but it's unfair to expect it. Ultimately the child is yours and your husband's -it's down to the two of you to sort it out. It's not like your Mum is saying No-out of bloody mindedness-she's saying no because she has something previously arranged. If you really have no friends who can help then maybe you need to get your husband to do it...... and maybe start building friendships with some of the other nursery Mum's -with an eye to the future.

When my Mum was seriously ill (she was in intensive care for weeks) -I was blown away by the help I got from the other Mums at my son's infant's school- I wasn't into their coffee/social thing as I was busy with uni but did make the effort with them when I could -and was very glad I had ! Their practical help having my son when I was stuck at the hospital -as well as their moral support just about saved my sanity.