16 and pregnant help....

joolsybools

Erm, am I missing something here? Is there any chance of the father doing what's right and getting an income to support his new family?

melbi_uk

Caroline_a wrote: »

I will keep my opinions regarding the termination issue to myself, but I just wanted to say how sad it is that in this day and age we still have young teenagers getting pregnant when there is so much education regarding contraceptives. As some have said, this is going to have a lasting effect on their lives, and nothing will ever be the same for them again. The nephew will have a financial committment that he will have to deal with, whether he stays with the girl or not, and the girl will find that she will suddenly have to take responsibility for another human being.

What do we have to do to persuade these young girls that if you want a baby, at least finish school first!

place an implant in all girls who are able to conceive!

I know, human rights and all that but in all honesty that is the only sure way of preventing teenage pregnancies.

melbi_uk

joolsybools wrote: »

Erm, am I missing something here? Is there any chance of the father doing what's right and getting an income to support his new family?

And if he isn't able to then his parents should be helping.

Zoetoes

joolsybools wrote: »

Erm, am I missing something here? Is there any chance of the father doing what's right and getting an income to support his new family?

As far as I've read it doesn't say how old he is or whether he is working or still at school.

melbi_uk

Aarons_mummy wrote: »

I think this whole post is disgusting. Just because someone has a child young DOES NOT indicate their parenting skills or lack of them.
There are parents of all age that are rubbish and stereotyping every young parent as rubbish is not only misguided and foolish but naive and arrogant.

I am 21, my son was born when I was 19, I am not a 'crap' parent, I am a good role model, I have a finished apprentiship with SVQ's, 10 GCSE's, 3 Highers and 2 Intermediate's and currently at university studying a degree in psychology, I think many posters on this thread have to realise that not all young parents are not typical of the 'Daily Mail' and their ridiculous claims, don'e believe everything you read.

P.S someone who may be illiterate (which is not a proven fact the OP may have been typing in haste and in defense of the rubbish that has been spouted by many on this thread) is not indicative of their parenting method.

Excellent post :T:T:T

DX2

HappyMJ wrote: »

So she'll get CTC's and CB herself and her own mother will still get them if she stays on at school.

If your child has a baby, they may be able to claim Child Tax Credit for themselves if they're aged 16 or over - but you won't be able to claim for them as well. Or, if they're both living with you, you may make a claim for both children instead.

When your child can make a claim

As long as your child is 16 or over, and is responsible for the baby, they can make a Child Tax Credit claim for themselves.
The Tax Credit Office can backdate your child's claim to the date the baby was born as long as they make the claim within three months. If they delay they could lose money. For example if the baby was born on 1 January and the Tax Credit Office only gets your child's claim on 1 June, they'll only get Child Tax Credit from 1 March.
If you're already getting Child Tax Credit for your child and they decide to make their own claim, you won't be able to claim for them as well. So tell the Tax Credit Office about the new baby as soon as possible by calling the Tax Credit Helpline. You need to do this within one month - or you could be paid too much tax credits that you'll have to pay back.

http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/taxcredits/keep-up-to-date/changes-affect/family-change/child-has-child.htm

Sixer

It's a benefits forum and the advice asked for was about benefits entitlement. If the OP had wanted advice about how to counsel this girl about whether or not to go ahead with the pregnancy, she would have posted elsewhere - presumably somewhere considerably less judgemental than this. Posters really should confine themselves to giving the advice that's been asked for.

Oldernotwiser

Aarons_mummy wrote: »

The mother may have the child and go back to school, go onto college, then university, do an apprentiship, have a job, maybe she will go onto benefits but there is nothing saying that she won't go on and do a distance learning course whilst she cares for her child at the same time technically saving the governement paying out top up benefits, childcare etc.

She may and I'm sure that we all hope that she does.

On the other hand it may become the third generation (at least) to be living on benefits. The fact that the boy's aunt is asking about money rather than childcare whilst the girl remains in education (as an example) and the fact that the grandmother's on IS, doesn't leave me that optimistic, but I hope you're right.

moomoomama27

It's complicated as the girls mother is on benefits. So if she claims, her mum will lose some of hers if the girl doesn't stay in full time education.

Citizens advice or connexions would be the best place to visit, they will have dealt with scenarios the same as the one you are wanting advice on.

I would like to add on a personal note, that while it's very difficult to raise a child at such a young age, it doesn't always mean a life of benefits, and struggle! With support and hard work it's very possible to achieve a full life/career and a stable family life! To suggest otherwise is very arrogant.

POPPYOSCAR

mande74 wrote: »

1 i can spell thank you very much ,and yes i did type very fast as i really upset by some peoples words on here i just asked a bit of advice and all hell let loose ....the other thing i dont have to explain to any of you on what the family are or not doing i just asked if there was any help out there at all.. i dont think i will be posting on this site ever again..hope your children dont tell you that there pregnant this evening over yr cup of cocco..(choke)

Please don't let some of the people on here put you off from posting, you will learn to ignore them after a while.As I said before, there are some really nice, helpful people on here who do not sit in judgement and who give very good advice.