my daughter is upset. i have a 6 year old

Poosmate

Is it ok to allow a six year old little girl to go out to play at 6.00pm this time of year when it's almost dark?

meritaten

Poosmate wrote: »

Is it ok to allow a six year old little girl to go out to play at 6.00pm this time of year when it's almost dark?

Short answer - NO - I wouldnt have! at that time she would be haveing her bath ready for supper and bed!

Bloomin_Freezing2

Poosmate wrote: »

Is it ok to allow a six year old little girl to go out to play at 6.00pm this time of year when it's almost dark?

I didn't want to bring this up so glad you did

No it's not OK (in my opinion). My DD is 5, 6 in July and there is NO WAY ON EARTH she'd be out playing! firstly not out playing in the street at any time, but at 6pm not even in the garden, not this time of year. Anyway she goes up to bed at 6.30pm - lights off at 8pm.

But this thread is not about making judgements on the OP's parenting skills, its about making her DD feel better.

OP - it's horrid when other kids are not seen to be including our own. Do what you can and have some time with your dd to make her feel important. Maybe invite these girls over to play but your dd could still be left to feel like the odd one out. I'd suggest encourage her to play with school pals, have one of them over.

Becles

Just a different angle - are you sure your daughter is telling the truth about not being invited? Sometimes they make things up for attention seeking or other reasons.

I was mortified when a girl's mother turned up on my doorstep upset and asked what her daughter had done. I hadn't a clue what she was on about as the girl is very well mannered and well behaved so she's welcome any time. Turns out my son just didn't want to play with her that day, so he'd told her that I'd said she wasn't allowed in as she was too naughty last time

kelloggs36

When I was very young (primary school age) I used to look longingly out of the window at my neighbours playing in the street - it would be 8pm in the Summer. We always had to be in bed by then and Sundays were the worst! We used to listen to the top 20 in the radio whilst having a bath and having our tea - when number 1 was over, it was bed time!!! Winter was fine but Summer was a killer. I resented my parents for that as I wanted to play with my friends outside then - but it didn't do me any harm I suppose in the long term, other than make me feel like a useless mother as I don't have such a firm routine with my own children! We live in an area where they can't play on the streets, but they do go to neighbours' houses - and I'm afraid that I'm a bit lax with times and let them play for longer than I was ever allowed to play out but having said that, when it gets dark in the summer is a bit later IMO - I would say 8pm at the latest during the school term times, and 9pm in the holidays as a maximum and only if they are in a garden and not in the streets.

JBD

I agree with what other posters have said about inviting other children around to play. Would also suggest finding some sort of activity or club for your little girl to join. You could stay with her at first until she has built up her self confidence. It would also give her a wider group of children to form friendships with.

pinkmami

Where on earth does this poster say the girl is out playing at 6pm???????

She posted the thread at 6pm - that does not mean the lilttle girl was out at 6pm. How about after school? She could have been out then or on weekends.

pigpen

It is posted in present tense OP says her daughter is crying as she is posting... or maybe she should have worded it differently.. but I can't see the child still crying days after an incident... that is how the conclusion these other children were out playing at 6pm was reached. At 6pm it is freezing cold and dark.. I wouldn't let my 15 and 12 year olds walk to church on their own at that time on Friday.

Running_Horse

When my daughter tells me so and so wouldn't play with her at pre-school, usually in a tone designed for maximum sympathy, I just tell her to go and play with someone else. I suspect she does it to others just as much, and refuse to get dragged into four year old social insecurities. You can't be there and intervene every time other kids are unkind; just give them the skills to not get upset and find someone else to play with. Nobody owes you a perfect playmate for your child.

Deals_2

the neighbour has always been weird with me (i think she has her own issues going on) and i think there is a jealousy thing going on for the little kids. she was not out at 6pm at night. dont know how this came up! thanks for all the input