my daughter is upset. i have a 6 year old

Deals_2

not invited out to play with neighbours who have invited another neighbour out. she is crying away saying she is always the one left out (and it is true). i am not sure what to do. any tips? i was very lonely when growing up myself but i suppose you grow up learnign this.:j

go_cat

Have some special mummy time

Children can be very cruel so make her feel as special as you can

Sublime_2

Hopefully she'll make some new friends. She's only 6 so plenty of time. Don't worry!

Amanda65

Sadly it's a hard life lesson to learn but you can't make other children play with yours (I know from experience with 3 children ) and little girls can be very thoughtless as they seem to 'need' best friends more than boys.

I would try diversionary tactics today - find something to do with DD to take her mind off of it like make some cakes or something crafty maybe? And then invite the other children round to yours to play another time so that your daughter is included and builds up a relationship with them. Do they play together more often or are their mums good friends? All of this can make a difference.

carefullycautious

Turn this around and let you daughter invite someone out to play/or over for tea and play in garden. That way she is the one doing the selecting of friends

Sambucus_Nigra

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not invited out to play with neighbours who have invited another neighbour out. she is crying away saying she is always the one left out (and it is true). i am not sure what to do. any tips? i was very lonely when growing up myself but i suppose you grow up learnign this.:j

Why are you jumping for joy at your daughter's tears?

jamespir

go round their effin and blinding and if that dont help get your fists out .....:)


no encurage her to meet new freinds enroll her in a group or dance classes or something

miss_independent

I was the odd one out quite a few times too, especially when I went to a small all girls school for junior school. Everyone already had a best-friend and I always ended up being the third wheel. I agree what others say, invite someone round but I would suggest not more than one at first until you dd manages to build up more of a relationship as a few times my mum would invite two best friends to play with me and I would still end up alone whilst the other two girls played with my toys! I used to always get told "you're too nice". Can you think of any reason why your daughter wouldn't get picked to go out with the neighbours kids? Is she shy? Poor thing, kids can be so cruel.

rachbc

I don't think there is anything cruel about 2 other kids playing - cruel implys some malicious intent which there is no evidence of from what op sayd..she does have to learn to deal with this sort of thing as its a fairly normal occurence that some kids are better friends...

Are the kids playing out somewhere public or in each others gardens? If the former and she really wants to play with them then take her out and say 'Is it alright if x' joins in for a bit. Alternatively at another time invite one of them over, then the other another time til she builds up a relationship with them. Has she ever called for them? If not then how do they know she wants to play?

meritaten

I had this same situation in my street when my daughter was little. Two little girls (both called Donna and they lived next door but one to each other whereas we lived about ten houses down)..........they were joined at the hip! and although if I took my DD up and asked if she could play with them they always said yes.....DD still felt excluded. So we looked elsewhere for playmates, I made an effort to invite other kids from school DD liked around for 'Playdates' I suppose you could call them - I called them 'tea'! when DD was old enough she went to Brownies and made friends there, and later on she made friends with other kids who had moved in to the neighbourhood. she was and still is very sociable and makes friends easily, but Donna and Donna never did make other friends really - sad for them in a way!

somethingsgottogive

Do the parents of the other girls know that you're happy for your daughter to play outside with them? It might be as simple as the parents thinking that she's not allowed out and discouraging them from asking.

Invite them over to yours to play with DD, if they're a bit timid bribe 'em with cake baking or a film with popcorn or something