what do you think?

Jinx

I would compliment a man or a woman equally, whether its a nice tie or a lovely top or dress. In my office, a few of the girls like me are jewellery fans so that always gets noticed. However thats not about the persons looks as such... I think as long as its sincere compliments are nice if there are no sleazy undertones!

ash28

I've worked in places where there has been plenty of "banter" and a bit of workplace flirting too - but personal comments weren't usual.

I think it is really unprofessional and having worked with Eastern Europeans in the past I found they take what you say quite literally and don't really understand the difference between being serious and a bit of banter. Often I had to tell to them when someone was joking. The English language and all it's nuances can be a nightmare for someone not brought up here.

The girls you are working with are work colleagues in a working environment not friends in a social situation.

If I was your manager and found out I'd be on you like a ton of bricks. As a manager I've seen more grief through this sort of thing than enough - keep it professional. It's the same with "touchy feely" people - most people mean nothing by putting a hand on your arm or a hand on your back - but it can and does cause grief. I had one guy working for me who was like that - and a number of women complained - he meant nothing by it - I knew that and most of the people at work knew that - but it only takes one. It's the same when it's verbal. Most people might be ok with it - but it will only take one.

One of the categories of sexual harassment at work is verbal - this includes comments about appearance, body or clothes. And remember what may seem like an innocent remark to one person can be deeply offensive to another.

There is no single definition, the test is how the recipient feels about the behaviour - the law favours the victim not the perpetrator.

For your own sake keep your comments to yourself.

lukemed1

Pixiechic wrote: »

You asked, so from what you have said, you sound a bit sleazy to me. You 'can't help yourself' and you like the blonde hair and blue eyes. I wonder if they just tolerate your unwanted advances. Have any of these women flirted with you?[/QUOTE]

Yes they have lol, they love it imo;)

JoJoB

You're either a troll or the deeply delusional workplace sleaze.

Are you in a position of authority at work? Are you in a managerial role?

Because if in a managerial role it is an even worse thing to do as women who feel uncomfortable with your comments might feel they have to laugh it off or not express their feelings on the matter due to fears for their jobs.

What is your reason for making these comments? So you can see if any women are interested sexually in you? It can't be for any altruistic reason as you have already been told it could be offensive or upsetting. Why would you risk upsetting someone? What's in it for you?

I suspect the ration of women's reactions is:
50% uncomfortable
49% !!!!ed off
1% flattered

So you are not really taking the majority of women's feelings into account with your behaviour.

Which is deeply selfish.

lukemed1

Everybody flirts in the warehouse! and no, I'm not a manager, just a normal worker and yes, I do it purely in the hope of getting sex from it tbh

Loanranger

You are heading for big trouble, young man.

londonsurrey

The comment about "I can't help it" says it all.
It is an attempt to not take any responsibility at all for the behaviour.

So, it the girl likes it, then good.
If the girl doesn't like it, well, it's not your fault is it? After all, you're not responsible for what comes out of your mouth or what you do.

Emmzi

Imagine it's 15 years in the future and your three year old daughter is 18 and putting up with "flirting" in her first job because some creep "thinks she is gorgeous" and she is too scared to tell him to sod off and there aren't many other jobs to go to.

Sambucus_Nigra

lukemed1 wrote: »

Everybody flirts in the warehouse! and no, I'm not a manager, just a [STRIKE]normal worker[/STRIKE] skank and yes, I do it purely in the hope of getting sex from it tbh

Corrected for you.

GobbledyGook

lukemed1 wrote: »

Everybody flirts in the warehouse! and no, I'm not a manager, just a normal worker and yes, I do it purely in the hope of getting sex from it tbh

That makes it sleazy/creepy imo and totally inappropriate for the workplace.


There's a man in one of the schools I work in who compliments his colleagues every now and again. When they have a hair cut, wear a nice new top and it's very pleasant. However he doesn't do it purely in the hope of getting sex from it so it doesn't come across as creepy at all.

I'd be careful if I were you, you could end up in big trouble if you are coming across badly.