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no house but baby must have everything new

suzie-q54
suzie-q54 Posts: 4 Newbie
in House buying, renting & selling
My son and his girlfriend are expecting their first baby and are very keen to move near to her parents for their support when the baby arrives. They cannot afford to drop the price of her flat to sell it and then buy a house nearer the parents. At the same time, the parents have already chosen the new pram and cot they want to buy even though my daughter has offered to let them borrow a cot and pram which are perfectly serviceable. Seems to me that the price of pram and cot would be a big help in the whole deposit situation. I guess everyone has different values and ideas of what is right.
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  • bodmil
    bodmil Posts: 931 Forumite
    You brought him up with good values then!
  • iamana1ias
    iamana1ias Posts: 3,777 Forumite
    And your question is...........?
    I was born too late, into a world that doesn't care
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  • chocdonuty
    chocdonuty Posts: 929 Forumite
    Maybe the particular cot and pram that is being offered is not to their taste or suits their needs?
    I was happy to have second hand thingsy dd but the pram that was offered by my mil was horrible! Thankfully i persuaded her to keep it at her house to use when she was babysitting :D
    :hello: Hiya, I'm single mom, avid moneysaver and freecycler, sometimes :huh: but definatly :D
  • Running_Horse
    Running_Horse Posts: 11,809 Forumite
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    Are you upset they would rather be nearer the in-laws than you?

    If the in-laws are offering to buy a pram and cot, that can only help the deposit situation.

    Anyway, this is all second hand information. Get your son on here to justify his actions.
    Been away for a while.
  • Sambucus_Nigra
    Sambucus_Nigra Posts: 8,669 Forumite
    I don't understand the question, but surely it is their life to live and their decision to make?
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  • Greatgimp
    Greatgimp Posts: 1,056 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 500 Posts Academoney Grad Name Dropper
    You lot can be so acerbic on here. She's inviting comments regarding the priorities of her son and girlfriend, not outward criticism of her motives. I agree with her.
  • BitterAndTwisted
    BitterAndTwisted Posts: 22,492 Forumite
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    Yes, and so do I but this forum is generally used to ask for advice, not necessarily an outlet for a good and justified rant.
  • aliasojo
    aliasojo Posts: 23,053 Forumite
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    suzie-q54 wrote: »
    My son and his girlfriend are expecting their first baby......... I guess everyone has different values and ideas of what is right.

    I think the bit in bold is the relevent bit (for them at least).

    I also don't think it's got anything to do with values. It's simply a young couple caught up with the excitement of their first child and wanting everything to be 'right'.

    Most of us only gain the wisdom of putting 'wise' over 'want' when we get older. ;)
    Herman - MP for all! :)
  • chris_n_tj
    chris_n_tj Posts: 2,659 Forumite
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    Was the pram and cot new when your Daughter had them?
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  • aliasojo
    aliasojo Posts: 23,053 Forumite
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    Blitz01 wrote: »
    Sorry but you sound very jealous.
    Buying a cot and pram will give them more money, not less surely, as they will not have to fork out for it.

    I think the OP meant 'parents' as in her son and wife...not her parents? So they will be forking out.



    Edit: Maybe I've got that wrong? OP who is buying the pram etc?
    Herman - MP for all! :)
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