So hard to manage.......

lidlest

Confession - My reaction to a GA is phenomenally bad - I awakening frightened and violent, the bad mood and aggression doesn't shift for a few days. (happened for the first time at 13 with an appendectomy). It's now in my medical notes and my dad is the one who is there when I am bought round.

Maybe a bad reaction to the GA? PTS of the op? Not saying it should drag on, but everyone reacts differently.

Amanda65

emerald21 wrote: »

Why should you have to make it up to him.? It was hardly your fault.

I think if you read my post again you will see that I say it is not the parents fault, however as a caring mother you tend to feel bad when your babies (even the bigger ones) go through anything - or maybe that's just me

When anyone I know has been through an op or a tough time I try and do soething nice to make up for what they've been through. Can't help how I feel - I just care !

Mupette

lidlest wrote: »

Confession - My reaction to a GA is phenomenally bad - I awakening frightened and violent, the bad mood and aggression doesn't shift for a few days. (happened for the first time at 13 with an appendectomy). It's now in my medical notes and my dad is the one who is there when I am bought round.

Maybe a bad reaction to the GA? PTS of the op? Not saying it should drag on, but everyone reacts differently.

I'm glad it is not me then, a fair few years ago high on morphine they took my cup of tea away after surgury ohhh i went balisitc... now on record about me and morphine..



*just been to eye hospital, eyes stull blurry so sorry for spelling

emerald21

Amanda65 wrote: »

I think if you read my post again you will see that I say it is not the parents fault, however as a caring mother you tend to feel bad when your babies (even the bigger ones) go through anything - or maybe that's just me

When anyone I know has been through an op or a tough time I try and do soething nice to make up for what they've been through. Can't help how I feel - I just care !

Yes. I ve read your post again and it was the " make it up to him " part that i picked up on really. I m a caring mother of 3 grown up children who i would do anything for but i wouldn t use the phrase making it up to them as to me that implies it was my fault. I guess we read things differently

heretolearn_2

Is he still in hospital? Is he on a childrens or adults ward? I think the childrens wards are better at getting the kids up and going, especially as you get really sick little tiny kids bouncing around even though they are going through some horrendous things, and it embarrasses you into not making too much of a fuss. Whereas adults like to lie around moaning and milking it for as much as they can, lol.

Time to get tough. They won't let him out until he is eating and mobile and going to the loo. How much longer does he want to stay there? You can say 'I know you are in pain, I know this has been horrible, lets concentrate now on getting you all fit and well as quickly as possible. What can I do to help? Bring in some favourite foods? Buy you some different pajamas that are easier to get in and out of?' offer sympathy and some practical help, without pandering to a 'woe is me' attitude.

And of course he is being horrible to you. He's having a bad time and needs to take it out on someone, he knows you are the one person he can do this to and be forgiven, he's still a kid at heart even though he wants to act big, just ignore it.

pinkclouds

heretolearn wrote: »

And of course he is being horrible to you. He's having a bad time and needs to take it out on someone, he knows you are the one person he can do this to and be forgiven, he's still a kid at heart even though he wants to act big, just ignore it.

Poor kid is only 13 years old - agree with the above poster. Even adults lash out at those closest to them. And no one put up with it as well or as much as your own mom.

Amanda65

emerald21 wrote: »

Yes. I ve read your post again and it was the " make it up to him " part that i picked up on really. I m a caring mother of 3 grown up children who i would do anything for but i wouldn t use the phrase making it up to them as to me that implies it was my fault. I guess we read things differently

Agree to disagree

joeblack066

Thanks all for your replies. I understand that my Daughter is going to do this, I am just struggling to cope with it day in day out! I have taken all you have said on board, and things are a little better today. She is eating a bit more and has turned a corner. Thanks again to all.

Amanda65

joeblack066 wrote: »

She is eating a bit more and has turned a corner. Thanks again to all.

Pleased she is feeling better - get her out for a little walk round the block if it's not raining where you are today. There's nothing like some fresh air to increase the appetite and relieve a bit of boredom

emerald21

Amanda65 wrote: »

Agree to disagree

Yes