So hard to manage.......

Amanda65

euronorris wrote: »

Amanda, sounds like open surgery to me, but I'm no expert. Still holding onto my appendix as tightly as possible, even though it does like a 'grumble' every now and then.

That's what I thoght as well but as it wasn't an emergency as such wonder why they didn't keyhole it? At the end of the day though he's fine so am just glad he has recuperated so quickly

euronorris

Mmmm, I don't know. Maybe they had trouble reaching the appendix properly? Or maybe things were worse than they thought once they got in there, so had to get in quicker?

Glad to hear he recovered quickly

ciderwithrosie_2

When my son (18) had his appendix out last year, he had to have open surgery because it was late evening and there weren't the staff to do it keyhole.
They let him go home the following afternoon. He said the PCA on the ward didn't do anything for him (in terms of pain relief) so all he had was some calpol 6+ as he still can't swallow tablets (or blow his nose) bless! He has a scar about 4/5 inches long.

Amanda65

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

When my son (18) had his appendix out last year, he had to have open surgery because it was late evening and there weren't the staff to do it keyhole

I guess that could had been the case - after hanging around all day they eventually managed to fit him in at half 8 on the Friday evening so perhaps they had the same problem. Love that they gave an 18 year old Calpol :rotfl::rotfl:

toniq

I've just had keyhole surgery and I have 5 small cuts dotted around the site of the surgery.

Really hope your dd gets better soon, maybe offer an incentive, new songs on the ipod for when they get home.

Child is prob very shocked and scared at everything that has happened and just lashing out at closest person.

xxx

sjc3

pigpen wrote: »

Ooh i'd not be able to keep my mouth shut.. you deserve a medal.

I'd say 'fine, lay there whining.. I'm going for coffee and cake... if you want some you best shift yourself.. you've got your phone text or ring when you want me to come back. You are fine.. they have people up and about within a day or so of a hysterectomy.

:rotfl: I like your style, bit of tough love never hurt anyone :rotfl:

OP be kind to yourself. You have had the trauma of seeing your kid rushed into hospital and going in for a major op. Being in hospital is stressful when you are worried for a loved one. On top of all that you are now coping with the moods, upset and distress of a teen who is not feeling at all well. Try saying what pigpen recommended and go and treat yourself, then get out in the fresh air for half hour and have a walk. Claim a bit of sanity time

Errata

HTH - baby gripe water shifts wind just as well on older children and adults as it does on babies.
Fluid intake is really important, and stupid mothers will find some info on it on the net - complete with horrible pictures and descriptions of dehydration - to show their antsy teenage children

Counting_Pennies_2

joeblack066 wrote: »

No one has mentioned before that codeine cnstipates them, or any peppermint medicine? Why do I have to keep asking for everything?? She was throwing up after every meds and eventually I had to point out that she was retaining zero pain meds, and could they please IVsome?? After much rolling of eyes it came. It's just all addng to the stress.

Sadly that is my experience of the NHS, I have learnt when you are in, you have to manage your own care, and it is through experience you get to learn.

Sometimes you get a good nurse who does it all and lets you know why but generally, you have to keep track on everything.

I have had some dreadful experiences in hospital. Given an overdose, not given the medicine needed, an evil nurse who ripped my pressure dressing off when she took the drain out of my stomach without any pain relief. I have learnt from my horrific experiences that you manage your care and refuse if you don't think the care is appropriate to your needs or situation.

Stick with it, only a while longer and you will be home, and able to go into another room and scream into a pillow.

emerald21

Amanda65 wrote: »

You have my sympathy - my DS aged 14 had exactly the same 4 weeks ago on Friday.

Part of the problem for me was that I felt so emotionally drained after the whole thing I ran around like a headless chicken trying to make it up to him. Couple this with an emotionally charged, hormone fuelled teen who probably is generally moody anyway and your feeling of guilt for your baby having to go through surgery (even thoguh it's not your fault) and you have a time bomb ticking away

DS was discharged less that 12 hours after he came out of surgery (I collected him from the recovery room at 11pm on Friday evening and by 10am on Saturday morning he was home) so I was also quite 'tough', (having had a caesarean when I had DS felt it was payback :rotfl::rotfl:) and 'made' him get up and walk around every 20 mins or so, only little circuits round the living room as I know from experience regaining mobility, and having the confidence to walk / stand upright without worrying that your stomach will split open, is key to recovery.

DS was on ibuprofen and paracetomol for 3 days, which I gave alternately every 2 hours (so each med was 4 hours apart) and meant that he never got into too much pain. Chocolate, lots of fluids, smoothies and food little and often soon saw his appetite return and he now cannot wait to get back to playing footbal although still has another 2 weeks to go before he can start up again.

Hold in there, use a bit of tough love combined with encouragement and invite her friends round to see her - it's amazing how much more mobile they become with their peer group in attendance

Why should you have to make it up to him.? It was hardly your fault.

emerald21

pigpen wrote: »

Ooh i'd not be able to keep my mouth shut.. you deserve a medal.

I'd say 'fine, lay there whining.. I'm going for coffee and cake... if you want some you best shift yourself.. you've got your phone text or ring when you want me to come back. You are fine.. they have people up and about within a day or so of a hysterectomy'.. plus I've had 4 sections and major reconstructive surgery following a perforated bowel and was on my feet within hours each time.

I had peppermint oil after one surgery.. then spent 3 days on the loo in even worse pain.. the stomach cramps I got with that were worse than the trapped wind. Moving does shift the air naturally.

Go home, the staff won't eat her if you're not there.. get a nice long bath and a proper meal and ring the ward if you want to see what she's at.. She may just be enjoying the attention take that away and she has to move.

My feelings exactly lol. Kids today are mollycoddled too much nowadays.