Looking after disabled child part-time..

giz1972

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I agree.

Most dads have their kids on weekends when they work Mon - Fri.

It will also be better for the child to have a routine so he doesn't get confused.

The child can be dropped back home on the Sunday evening so he can be picked up for school from home on the Monday morning.

Your speaking in an ideal world, yes most dads do have the children weekends.
And theres lots of jobs mon to fri in this current climate.
She won't pick him up on a Sunday and theres no address for her at the moment to take the child back to. She's happy with the school bus taking the child to dads Fri and for the bus to pick up Mon.

As for routine, the child is very physically and mentally disabled so i'm only guessing, as no concept of time or routines.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

giz1972 wrote: »

Your speaking in an ideal world, yes most dads do have the children weekends.
And theres lots of jobs mon to fri in this current climate.
She won't pick him up on a Sunday and theres no address for her at the moment to take the child back to. She's happy with the school bus taking the child to dads Fri and for the bus to pick up Mon.

As for routine, the child is very physically and mentally disabled so i'm only guessing, as no concept of time or routines.

I know the world isn't ideal as my daughter & my 2 autistic sons hasn't seen their father since Halloween.

It doesn't matter what the mother is happy with, i'd be happy for my ex to have the kids everyother weekend but it's not going to happen.

What do you mean there is no address to take the child to?

Does the child go to a residential school? If not where does the bus take him to on Mon, Tue, Wed & Thur?

If you bil is having his child the majority of the time he should apply for custody.

Does he have parental responsibilty? Would the mother be prepared to share custody 50/50 so that your bil would be entitled to half of the child benefits etc.

I'm not trying to be funny but your bil is supposed to be looking for & available for work to claim his JSA & it doesn't sound like he is so he needs to figure out another option before he is left up the creek without a paddle.

giz1972

As i've mentioned to someone before in a earlier feed, i feel for the child(ren) with absent parents and we all have our story, me included.
I think i also mentioned the following in earlier feeds but not in so much detail.
She had an address which was about 5 miles away ( the one she moved to when she planned her leaving) about a year or so ago.
To my knowledge, she has moved in with this new guy of 6 months about 15 miles away about a month or so ago, so i guess the school bus knows of the new address. I'm going to offer my BIL to follow this bus one day to find out where she is.

This is all about the money with my BIL ex partner, she sees it that when the childs away, why should she provide anything. I would agree with her if the child wasn't disabled, but the child needs more/alot of care and shes getting disabilty benefits for the child.
She isn't gonna give up anything that means losing money.

As for my BIL looking for work, to right he should be looking, but we all know that as long as jsa claiments show a little bit of looking like print offs of the net, the dole office are kept quiet.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

giz1972 wrote: »

As i've mentioned to someone before in a earlier feed, i feel for the child(ren) with absent parents and we all have our story, me included.
I think i also mentioned the following in earlier feeds but not in so much detail.
She had an address which was about 5 miles away ( the one she moved to when she planned her leaving) about a year or so ago.
To my knowledge, she has moved in with this new guy of 6 months about 15 miles away about a month or so ago, so i guess the school bus knows of the new address. I'm going to offer my BIL to follow this bus one day to find out where she is.

This is all about the money with my BIL ex partner, she sees it that when the childs away, why should she provide anything. I would agree with her if the child wasn't disabled, but the child needs more/alot of care and shes getting disabilty benefits for the child.
She isn't gonna give up anything that means losing money.

As for my BIL looking for work, to right he should be looking, but we all know that as long as jsa claiments show a little bit of looking like print offs of the net, the dole office are kept quiet.

I really feel for your BIL as he has the !!!!!! end of the stick.

He can't get on with his life as he needs to be available for childcare but as he doesn't have custody of the child he doesn't get any of the rights or financial assistance.

Maybe he could get some legal advice? I'm sure alot of places give you the frst hour free or perhaps he could get Legal Aid as none of this is right & this woman can't have all the say in everything as it is unfair.

Good luck to your BIL.