Am I being unfair?

charlie792

Well I had a phone-call from my younger sister asking if I want to go to London with her next week for 2 days, apparently she has a job interview down there (no idea what for seeing as she works in supermarket currently!) and she said none of her friends want to go with her, I told her I don't have the cash to go and she said my mum will pay for me to go with her but Im in the middle of writing my dissertation and other assignments and told her so, she sounded really annoyed with me about it...

Cue a phonecall from my mum begging me to go with my sister (she's 18)...

I can't really justify taking the time to go, we live miles apart anyway and are on separate bus routes to london which means we'll either have to go separately and meet her there anyway or Ill have to get back to my folks on the Monday to get the bus with my sister on tuesday and not get back to my own house until thursday, thats a fair chunk of my week gone just because Im expected to babysit her, and its not like I don't have my own life here, someone needs to make lunch, cook dinner, do the washing and Im sure OH won't like me suddenly disappearing and leaving him to it...

I have 2 unhappy family members now or an unhappy OH and I don't know what to do!

Oh and just to note this is the first time my sister has even bothered speaking to me since new year where she got stupidly drunk acted like moo and slapped me one....an apology wouldn't have gone far amiss

zcrat41

Hi,

If she's 18 I'd say she's capable of going to London on her own and doesn't need you to babysit. Don't feel guilty!

ZC

pinkshoes

Go anyway, support your sister, and try and get some work done on the bus!

Perhaps she's nervous and needs some moral support!?

Humphrey10

It sounds like she is nervous, if it is for a job interview that's understandable, as she's 18 I assume she's not been to many before. Like pinkshoes says, can you get some work done on the way?
Also, your mum is paying for the journey, can you go by train - is it any quicker that way?

victor2

If she can't even apologise for her drunken behaviour, she's on her own. Why can't her Mum go with her? Too busy, can't leave rest of family behind?

charlie792

the thing is its money my mum doesn't have as she's been made redundant...the train will cost over £120 and there arn't trains near where my sister lives anyway (countryside) which means a faff of a journey one way or another so Nation Express is the only option...
My uni work isn't something I can do on a bus, I need to type up my diss and I can't do that if Im on a bus and as stupid as it sounds I can't leave my hamster, she's sick and needs medicine 3 times a day which is a two person job trying to hold her still and give it to her which me and OH have to do on a daily basis, she is like our child! - I do realise how stupid that sounds but totally true

traveller

In all honesty, I would not feel guilty not going. Decide what you want to do and what's best for you.I take it your in your final year which is extremely stressful and you've had to work hard and prioritise to get to this stage.Do what is best for you. I agree with Zcrat41.

andrealm

If she can't cope with travelling to London by herself, how will she cope with living in London by herself if she does get the job?

Barneysmom

She wants to work in London but can't even get there on her own? Seems odd to me. Tell her no.

charlie792

Well I dont see why her 'boyfriend' (who is 26) can't go with her, he only works a few hours at the same place she does and Im sure he could easily get time off to go with her....My mum always expects me to babysit her, thats exactly what happened at new years which was a total mess!
Me and my sister are totally different people and unfortunately she still hasn't grown up

Malky

Re; her boyfriend going. It depends on the kind of "work" she's looking for lol
Seriously, I'd tell her you're not going based on unaffordability and no time. Plus it sounds like she's done little for you recently (except slap you lol)