Grumpy OH

jackieblack

pinkshoes wrote: »

My other tactic is pointing out that if he needs to keep peeing all night after drinking beer, then perhaps he ought to go to the doctor and get his prostate checked!! (He'll be 40 next year...). The prospect of being prodded and poked "up there" is enough to put him off too many pints!

:rotfl: :rotfl:

sunshinetours

property.advert wrote: »

Sorry but if I knew your other half was going to shovel away a few pints and then drive home the first thing which would happen would end up with him spending the night in the local nick. I cannot believe that as the mother of a new baby you don't see the danger in drink driving, even to the slightest degree. It isn't about being lower than the limit and that being ok but putting the lives of others at risk (I couldn't care if the drunkard kills only themselves). I am appauled you (and presumably your partner) think this is the solution to your problem.

Obviously your partner needs to get responsible and realise that his priorities have changed. At least for the time being, he can do more to ease the burden, even if he cannot feed (you can express and babies will use a bottle - try Avent). Take on other household responsibilities perhaps. As for going out boozing with single mates, then that cannot be a regular thing.

On a financial level, have you enough life assurance, income protection, started a savings plan for the child's education needs etc. If not, then there may be no money for boozing anyway. The bloke has to grow up.

Wow Is there anything you don't have an opinion on from the Op's original posting?!

Personal responsibility is what is missing from todays society not too many nannying rules. OP you just need to find a balance of what works for you as a family whilst keeping everyone happy

For the record you sounded perfectly reasonable in your first posting

Blitz01

RacyRed wrote: »

They have shared responsibility for a baby. He does need to negotiate time off, as does the OP.

With comments like that, it's a safe bet you are either:
a). A wife that 'hen-pecks'
or
b). A spinster
or
c) A divorcee

If you read the OP's messages, you would see she hasn't a problem with the husband going out. She has a problem with him coming home in the early hours.

Now........grab your bra off the fire before it burns completely, and try to have an objective view.

Tropez

pinkshoes wrote: »

He can't help with the night feeds as he doesn't have boobs, and DS won't take a bottle!

There's hormone tablets you could slip into his coffee to fix that.

Tish_P

It's interesting how RacyRed's comment that treats both partners exactly equally - stating that they have a shared responsibility and both need to communicate and negotiate - has been seized upon as some kind of beyond-the-pale female chauvinism. Did I say interesting? I meant "tiresome."

OP, glad you got it sorted. Hope you both sleep as well as possible (and drive safe).

Incidentally, nobody ever burned a bra: http://www.snopes.com/history/american/burnbra.asp

Blitz01

Did I say interesting?

No...and you aren't likely to.

Blitz01

Tish_P wrote: »

It's interesting how RacyRed's comment that treats both partners exactly equally - stating that they have a shared responsibility and both need to communicate and negotiate - has been seized upon as some kind of beyond-the-pale female chauvinism. Did I say interesting? I meant "tiresome."

OP, glad you got it sorted. Hope you both sleep as well as possible (and drive safe).

Incidentally, nobody ever burned a bra: http://www.snopes.com/history/american/burnbra.asp

Selective reading again......shame people struggle with the written word so much.

Messrs_Arthur_and_Terry

pinkshoes wrote: »

OR he gets his mate to pick him up, they stays over at his mates house,

Ouch, guess that's the bit that made him crack the sooks.

treetrunks

A night out of normality is important for both of you. Make sure as soon as possible your out and he returns the favour. Me and my partner both did this and it makes you appreciate the other more.

RacyRed

Blitz01 wrote: »

RacyRed wrote:

They have shared responsibility for a baby. He does need to negotiate time off, as does the OP

.

With comments like that, it's a safe bet you are either:
a). A wife that 'hen-pecks'
or
b). A spinster
or
c) A divorcee

If you read the OP's messages, you would see she hasn't a problem with the husband going out. She has a problem with him coming home in the early hours.

Now........grab your bra off the fire before it burns completely, and try to have an objective view.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Love it! Not the bet laugh I've had all day but appreciated anyway.

OP, glad thinks worked out ok