How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

shegar

wmf wrote: »

blimey missus - I was in Beccles:eek: - used to walk the dogs in woods at Dunwich! Helped with the school trip to Misnmere twice! Here's me found kindred spirits after I've moved away!

Re retirement age and death. In my previous (miserable) existence as a Shell wife, I remember hearing that Shell had the richest pension fund in the world (exaggeration surely??) because so many employees died within a year of retirement. Many used to retire at 50 ish a few years back. hhhmmm comparing that to my 92 yr old farmer uncle who has just recently gone into a home due to dementia. I know that you can find lots of different statistics for each side of this though.
Re volunteering - I used to run a volunteer centre and recruited through the local high school amongst other places. The result was a great mix of ages. The teenage volunteers were a great hit at the local retirement home as they loved hearing residents' stories about the war, life in the 'old' days etc and also enjoyed visiting elderly people as often their own grandparents lived a long distance away.
We also had some retired volunteers, some in their 70s, who had a wealth of experience and often joined committees to help with accounts, admin etc. I'm hoping that more people will see that volunteering is such a good way to brush up skills, develop new skills and add to CVs in this time of hard to find paid work, as well as finding enjoyment in it.
Cold here today but no rain or snow :T. Yellow split pea soup from the freezer and baked potatoes with something on the menu today.
Take care all
W

Yea its a small world id say...........I very often walk in Dunwich forest such a lovely place for peace ,quiet, all you hear is the birds singing, and see some deer..........:Dmy son lives in Walberswick..........and my husband lived in Beccles before we met, how canny is that ?.......:eek:

ChocClare

fedupfreda wrote: »

Yippee

Got back from work today to be told DH has been offered a job at last - after being redundant since september:j:j

Its only temporary and part time but a jobs a job. Things may be on the up after all.:D

Catch you all later x

Fantastic news, FF. Temporary and part-time schmemporary and part-time. At least he's wanted and at least he's got a job. Brilliant stuff. After four months of being out of work he must be so pleased and so must you.

Hope it's the start of great things. :T

bertiebots

ChocClare wrote: »

kidcat, sorry to hear about your house not going through

If it's any consolation, every time we have tried to buy a house, the one we have "set our heart on" has fallen through and then a MUCH BETTER house has come along and we've been very glad we didn't get the first one. Serendipity? Fate?

Dunno.

Hope it cheers you up though!

kidcat I couldn't agree more with what ChocClare said. I am a great believer in the fact that these things happen for a reason. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it at the time though so (((hugs)))

bertiebots

Oooh more good news on the job front congrats Fedupfreda's OH!! Just caught up...
Re: petrol prices , was watching something the other evening that said the petrol we buy actually costs 39p a litre , the rest is tax.

annie123

ceridwen wrote: »

<Sits back and hopes that a home-owner will now come in and say "I'm a home-owner and I think its fair for home-owners to have to pay...">

I'm about 50/50 with a lot of your views but I'm a home-owner and I think its fair for home-owners have to pay up to a point. The point being continuing health care.

My (late 60's) mum has mental health issues (there's more than just her living in her head) and had a stroke before Xmas.
The effects of the stroke are; uses the wrong words or talking nonsense as she calls it, and her memory is patchy for past events.
She also has osteoporosis and because of that walks with a stoop and has trouble breathing.
I am currently trying to get her home fit for her to go home to.
They are going to try her with 4 visits a day in her own home, if she copes OK with day to day living then that will continue, if not she will need to go into a home.

If that happens I don't think it is right that tax payers should pay for it whilst she has capital tied up in property. She would have had costs running her own home anyway.
In a care home everything will be provided for her, no utility bills, maintenance bills etc
Yes it means we won't inherit the property but she could have left it to a local charity.

The other alternative is I kick my dd out and move mum in to my 2 bed first floor flat, which isn't suitable and nor could I cope with her mental health issues but I would have expected her to sell her property and contribute to adaptation costs etc

Someone has to pay, either hubby and all the tax payers I will never meet through their taxes or mum through her capital investment.

Mum would be horrified to think she was a financial burden on the state whilst she had savings albeit in bricks and mortar.
She would want to do her bit to help, always has going back to the soup kitchen she used to run back in the 60's, the oap club in the 70's etc for her the state was there to help those who couldn't help themselves for what ever reason, for however long, and there were times when she needed to use it.

Sorry for long waffle.
But in an old style different time my mum would have lived in the same street a few doors along (instead of 85 miles away) and other family members nearby to help too, the situation would have been a whole lot easier to deal with, care home wouldn't have come into the picture.

Pitlanepiglet

I have no intention of getting involved in the issues that are being argued about but please please please can we stop the arguing. Some of us lobbied long and hard to get this thread reinstated and it would be a shame if it self destructed so quickly as it is very clear that it means so much to so many people

ChocClare

I am happy NOT to discuss care of the elderly or indeed any subject which may polarize views here if it causes disruption and upset, because I think that the whole purpose of the tough threads has been mutual SUPPORT and this is why it is so important for it to continue.

However, just as an aside - if anyone is worried about their parents/auntie/elderly neighbour and is considering care for them BUT is put off by the minefield that is understanding the funding process, then do please feel free to pm me as this is what I do for a living and I am more than happy to talk anyone through what they may or may not be entitled to.

*Maya*

ChocClare wrote: »

I am happy NOT to discuss care of the elderly or indeed any subject which may polarize views here if it causes disruption and upset, because I think that the whole purpose of the tough threads has been mutual SUPPORT and this is why it is so important for it to continue.

However, just as an aside - if anyone is worried about their parents/auntie/elderly neighbour and is considering care for them BUT is put off by the minefield that is understanding the funding process, then do please feel free to pm me as this is what I do for a living and I am more than happy to talk anyone through what they may or may not be entitled to.

That's really, really kind of you. :A

flowertotmum

Hi all..first things first..massive congrats to bertiebots and fedupfreda...secondly..commiserations kidcat..sorry you didn't get the house..we did that once and ended up with a lovely little house..and cheaper too...
On my homefront..hubby had 3 letters from perspective employers that he had interviews with and no job offers at all..poor chap is so down..feel so sorry for him..
Well had an afternoon from hell..fern went to a party that was lovely and very os..games,party food all done by the mum..but it was sooo cold there she was actually shaking..i was frozen to the seat and it got out of hand and a few fights ensued..nevermind ..we got our coats on and left at that point...36 kids screaming yelling and fighting..nice
Going to chill out tomorrow and bake and do crafting with girls..iris is much improved and back to her little cheeky self almost..works wonders does that medicine.
My older daughter still has no news on her fellas job..he has been guaranteed wages again this week..but told me they having a meeting on wednesday with the management..
Had a thought about clothes the other day..my fern is quite small but her jeans are going up her leg a bit..so i have cut them to make them 3/4 length..done the same with another pair but did them into shorts..she has jeans that fit lovely but look faded and worn on the knees..so i have invested in iron on patches off fleabay..a big bag actually..and i have ironed them on her knees not hers but the jeans knees..and they look lovely..
Have been reading my wartime cookery books and by crikey those ladies were thrifty..potato peel soup..sounds awful but i bet it tastes good..going to try that..brussel sprout soup..nice but i bet its windy after..also read the book about homecrafts..they are brilliant too..don't think i need to enamel a bath but they have nice embroidery patterns lol...
Got a clothes swap this wk..girls clothes and mine..swapping with my daughters..should be fun..i have to take my palmiers as dessert too ..cheeky devils...
right got to go..watching outcasts on the beeb...
take care
ftm

annie123

ChocClare wrote: »

However, just as an aside - if anyone is worried about their parents/auntie/elderly neighbour and is considering care for them BUT is put off by the minefield that is understanding the funding process, then do please feel free to pm me as this is what I do for a living and I am more than happy to talk anyone through what they may or may not be entitled to.

Thank you I will remember that in case I need it.