Letting off steam - didn't know where to put this.

meritaten

I would contact the Salvation Army hun. you also have the option of self referring to Social Services for help. but in our area the most you will get will be a food parcel, which is supplied by the Sallys anyway! but SS can also help with gas and leccy if you need help with that.
Please come down to Old Style - as other posters have said, most of us have been where you are and have learned how to stretch our pennies until they squeek - or cry out for mercy!
plus if you are not managing on your income there must be a reason and perhaps the OSers can help you out there!

djbum_syd

It is interesting that you mention SS, I always imagined them as this big scary gang that only dealt with child neglect, etc. I never knew they offered assistance for other things! That is something else I will look in to, thank you.

I'm looking through old style atm, there are some great ideas on there and it is proven helpful.
Starting to feel slightly less over-whelmed now compared to earlier. Phew.

The thought of talking to my mum absolutely terrifies me. Lol. Our falling out was mainly because they didn't like the way I was raising my daughter (choosing to return to college instead of staying at home, not staying with her dad, etc.), so I'm not sure how she would react. :-/

meritaten

djbum_syd wrote: »

It is interesting that you mention SS, I always imagined them as this big scary gang that only dealt with child neglect, etc. I never knew they offered assistance for other things! That is something else I will look in to, thank you.

I'm looking through old style atm, there are some great ideas on there and it is proven helpful.
Starting to feel slightly less over-whelmed now compared to earlier. Phew.

The thought of talking to my mum absolutely terrifies me. Lol. Our falling out was mainly because they didn't like the way I was raising my daughter (choosing to return to college instead of staying at home, not staying with her dad, etc.), so I'm not sure how she would react. :-/[/QUOTE

my DIL had to self refer to the SS when her income support, child benefit etc all stopped and the poor girl had no money for six weeks! my son had left (I wont get into that - but they werent on BAD terms and he moved heaven and earth to get help for her and the three kids, the thread is on MSE somewhere (benefits I think), and quite frankly we werent in a position to support all of them for that length of time. The SS were ok, I suppose - they got a couple of emergency food parcels, but they were supplied by the Sallys and did get her gas and electricity vouchers. they were satisfied that the children were otherwise well cared for and as soon as her money was sorted out signed them off. but the Service DOES vary from area to area! I think you can self refer under Section 16 as you have no food in the house and young children.

Its great you have had a look on OS - dont be afraid to start a thread yourself - everyone there is really helpful!

Amanda65

Following on from the suggestion about doing work with your daughter, is there another mum at college who maybe you could share childcare with so neither of you had to use the creche? Or could you child mind for a few hours a week outside of your course?

nearlyrich

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

So sorry to hear of your situation.

Can you not turn to your mum? I know you say you have had a big fall out with family but if I were your mum I would put that aside especially for my grand-daughters sake.

You may get a better reception than you think.

I was just going to post something similar my DD is 23 and I can't think of anything she could do that would make me never want to speak to her again.

When I was a young mum my marriage broke up and some weeks I didn't have enough money to go round, my mum always came through with some cash or she fed us so I didn't have to spend on food.

Hope you can get through the tough times, there will be some funds etc out there to help you, keep posting and get yourself onto the old style board for help feeding yourselves as cheaply as possible;)

djbum_syd

The problem I have with my mum is she is the kind of woman who assumes I would only talk to her so I could "bleed her dry" (words she has used before), and when we last spoke she said she washed her hands of me, so very unsure about speaking to her. But, I think if things carry on the way they are I will just bite my tongue and have a chat with her. I can take the vocal abuse she dishes out if it possibly meant my daughter doesn't go to bed with an empty tummy.

I'm the only person on my course who is a mum (the rest of the class are between 16-18 years old and like to tell me how "old" I am :-O Lol.), and besides the people in my class I don't really know anybody else there.
My other mum-friends work full-time also, one girl did offer to help me out with childcare, but she wanted paying for it (which I don't blame her) and it's the paying for childcare that I can't afford.

There is going to be a way out of this hole, I will find it!

nearlyrich

djbum_syd wrote: »

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There is going to be a way out of this hole, I will find it!

That's the spirit hun, that fighting talk got me through the hard times.

I am sure you should be able to go to college and get your childcare paid for keep checking, it's mad that you are trying to make yourself more employable and you are worse off than being home with your DD...:)

djbum_syd

Sometimes I do just think to myself "Sod, sit at home on the dole", but I don't want to do that. I want to set an example for my child, I want to earn the money I am given. Plus I get bored sat at home. :P

I've always had my eye on the job market since I was 4 months pregnant and found myself without work, but the jobs I have applied for go unanswered. It will happen though, if I try enough! Lol.

escortg3

I Hope you manage to get things sorted and get some help. Come back and let us know:)

winnie81

Hi hun, Sorry to hear of yur situation sounds awful

I live not ar from Swindon and know there is a FoodBank scheme that will help just get in contact with them

http://www.swindonfoodbank.co.uk/news

Hope things start to look up soon for you x