my dilema

TRYINGTOSWIM

sorry this is a bit rambled but after some opinions rather than rattle this around in my brain.
we moved house last march,and I absolutely love my home,I am at my happiest pottering around the house.
anyway I was enjoying baking cakes,biscuits most days.making meals from scratch and really giving the house a good clean every day. then I took a part time job,which despite short hours involves a 45 min walk each way so effectively 2 days a week it means i only get about 1hr before the kids get in from school/work.
needless to say I havent been baking much and although in all honesty the house is still clean and tidy on those days its annoying me that I am spending my time cleaning someone elses home(myjob) instead of mine.
I earn £46per week which on paper makes a difference but in reality it just gets used up on bits and pieces we would have done without.
now i know it sounds pathetic to begrudge working part time and I feel a bit of a hypocrite that I brought my boys up to know that you have to work hard but I hate going to work.
today has pushed me to the limit in that the sun is gorgeous and there is plenty I could have done at home but I had to go to work. also there was an note complaining of not ironed the shirts properly last week, which I know I did as I always take great care ironing their stuff. it really made me want to quit there and then, but obviously I didnt.
anyway..my thoughts are could i really justify giving up a part ime job just to have more time playing with my house and making cakes..:rotfl:myhusband would support me either way and leave the decision to me.
am i just lazy ?

Stephb1986_2

No your not lazy I can completly understand where your coming from I run a ironing service and there is nothing worse than feeling unappreciated believe me I see the same items week in week out from the same customers just screwed up in a bin bag and they expect me to send them back like they were brand new.

I wish I could bake all day everyday instead of slaving over a ironing board for hours on end.

Just an idea but couldn't you bake enough and have a little market stall at the weekend that would make up that income if you decided to quit?

Steph xx

ubamother

If you want ways to keep working and make it feel worthwhile, you could squirrel away your weekly money if, as you say, it is being dribbled away on non-essentials. It wouldn't be long until you had enough for a weekend away, a new gadget or whatever floats your boat! Would getting a cheap bike (or free from freecyle/freegle) help the time spent walking to work?
If being at home is more important, but the extra money is nice, could you take in ironing like Stephb1986 - with people dropping it off on their way to work or whatever. That way you could iron between baking etc.
If it is making you grumpy and feeling unappreciated, and you think this might crossover to your home atmosphere with husband and boys, personally I'd walk away, or try and find a cleaning job closer to home.

zarazara

You are not lazy. You do endless jobs domestically,cleaning,baking etc.in your own home That is work even if you enjoy it immensly.
I can only advise what I would do and that is give up the paid work, infact i was in this position last year, chucked the job and settled on a domestic housewife life, i can honestly say i've never been happer and neither has my DH and sons. I am not a doormat, i still get them to help with hoovering and washing up etc etc but we all function well as a family with less stress. So go for it, do as your heart tells you, decide on domestic bliss. And dont forget to build in time for yourself each day, a bit of gardening,sunbathing in the summer,a coffee with friends,paint your nails. Everyones life will be so much better if "mum" is happy.

YORKSHIRELASS

There is so much pressure on women nowadays to go to work. I enjoy being the homemaker, doing the cleaning and the cooking and having my hubbys tea ready for him when he gets home. If you would rather be at home and can afford to do so then it should be your choice. You only get one life and you need to make it as happy as possible.

bananadog

I've sent you a pm as I was in the same boat until today! I made the change and am already happier! xxx

Diflower

If you hate doing it and can afford not to, then stop. Life is far too short. As time goes on you may change your mind and spot something you would enjoy more, whether paid or voluntary, but don't feel you have to.
Choice is a lovely thing to have, don't feel guilty.

Penelope_Penguin

TRYINGTOSWIM wrote: »

anyway..my thoughts are could i really justify giving up a part ime job just to have more time playing with my house and making cakes..:rotfl:myhusband would support me either way and leave the decision to me.
am i just lazy ?

If you can afford to do it, then give up the paid job. You could always work out how much you can save by cooking more from scratch, not paying to travel to work, and other incidental expenses - you may not be clearing as much income as you think

As this has fallen from the front poage of OS, I'll move it to the Families Board where you're bound to get good advice.

Good luck in whatever you choose :T

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McKneff

Maybe find a little job nearer to home.

Does your family help out in the house.

If my OH complained about a shirt not being ironed properly I'm not sure which would get wrapped round his neck first,
The iron, the ironing board or the shirt.

Tell him to iron his own bloody shirts if your attempts aren't good enough.

kazwookie

I think it is the people she 'cleans / irons for' that were moaning about a shirt, not her OH.

honeypop

McKneff wrote: »

If my OH complained about a shirt not being ironed properly I'm not sure which would get wrapped round his neck first,
The iron, the ironing board or the shirt.

Tell him to iron his own bloody shirts if your attempts aren't good enough.

The note wasn't from her OH, it was in the house where she cleans (and does the ironing) as a job.