my dilema

busiscoming2

If you don't need the money then enjoy yourself staying at home and looking after your family. Its a very worthwhile job in itself!

Sambucus_Nigra

Sorry - but for £46 a week - it really isn't worth it. You know that and your hubby probably knows that - so tell them where to shove their shirts, make a brew and get some fairy cakes on to celebrate.

Priorities!

Kimberley82

I did cleaning for a few months at the end of last year and beginning of this, its horrible and I sympathise.

Could you not look at doing something you enjoy? how good ar eyour cakes? could you sell them?

Make birthday cakes?

Picnic for people in the summer?

cavework

If you can afford to stay at home , please do it now and enjoy it.
In the future you may not be in this position and have to go to work.
Situations change.
xx

TRYINGTOSWIM

thanks for all replies.i had to smile at the thought it was my husband complaining about a shirt:rotfl: he wears shirts for weddings and funerals only but even then would have limited use of limbs if he complained.
i think its mainly the cleaning job as opposed to the hours at work, and social interaction is zero.
think my decision is made,i am happiest just being a wife and mum,maybe i will look for another job out of choice one day,maybe i will have to find another job out of necessity
thanks

JodyBPM

Well, I work two (full) days a week in a fairly high level job, and have a 4 and a 6 yr old (both at school now), and I consider that I lead of life of positive luxury, so I'm struggling to see how 2 short days is really eating into your time. I also bake, sew, cook from scratch and have an allotment, keep chickens and keep a very shipshape house so its perfectly possible to fit it all in.

Having said that, I earn considerably more than £46 a week, and I can see the benefit from the money I earn, which, of course, helps with motivation. If you put your £46 a week into a savings account, and used it for holidays, treats etc would that make you feel better about it?

If you don't want to work, don't need the money, and your DH is happy for you to stay at home, then I guess the obvious answer is to stay at home. But (sorry!) I actually think you have it very easy, and this is more about you not wanting to work, rather than not being able to fit everything in. Personally, especially now my children are at school, I'd feel pretty lazy not working at all outside the home, but that is a personal thing, I guess.

I agree with others that perhaps you should look at other jobs or opportunities that you would enjoy more, so that you could continue to contribute financially, and also get some enjoyment from it. You also need to think about the future, when the children are grown up - do you intend to not work at all forever? Maybe you could set up a small business venture now that you could grow as your children get older and more independent and you have more time?

chewits

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Is it the job you're hacked off with, or the type of work? If it's the latter, brush up on your skillset and find one that suits your temparament better.

Agreed. I did a few hours cleaning each week when my DS was little, and hated every minute. Couldn't wait to be back at home. Now I'm back in an office full-time, loving every minute, and couldn't contemplate being at home every day

Violetta_2

I would say, if you don't need the money , give it up, hopefully someone who does need the money will get the job,(so you don't need to feel guilty). Take the time to figure out what you would like to do,& maybe doing some courses to further yourself.Nnothing wrong with being a home maker. If we didn't need the money I'd give my job up tomorrow.

onlyroz

Why don't you get some qualifications, so that you can do a more fulfilling job?