What would you do?

Plans_all_plans

Could you get in touch with the officers who spoke to your child and ask how they feel you should handle this situ? Or if not the police, then the children's services dept a the council?

If you don't get a plan of action from either of these sources, then if I were you I'd speak to the Head to speak about the allegations and find a way forward that protects all of the children (including the accused).

peachyprice

messysituation wrote: »

Do you think its ok for me to phone the school and say that I do not want my child sharing a room with Child B?

Absolutely, yes.
Infact, as the school are aware of the situation I would expect them to preempt the situation and put all four involved in different rooms to each other.

Sambucus_Nigra

You might find in the circumstances that the school cancels the trip anyway....not sure any teacher would want anything escalating with this going on in the background under their watch.

onlyroz

Is there any evidence that this is something other than natural curiosity on the part of the children?

KiKi

onlyroz wrote: »

Is there any evidence that this is something other than natural curiosity on the part of the children?

As the OP says, it's still the subject of a police investigation so that hasn't yet been determined.

Until that point the OP is absolutely right to speak to the Head and ensure her child will not be sharing a room with Child B. It doesn't have to be made into a big deal for Child B (who may be completely innocent), but it should be taken into account when allocating rooms.

OP, on your point about telling other parents - don't do it. The police are investigating it, and at best you could be seen to be interfering. This child could be completely innocent, just curious to know what another gender or another child looks like. Worse still, the child may have been abused themselves and just assumes this is normal behaviour. The damage of a false accusation could be horrendous.

Hopefully the investigation will be concluded pretty quickly, but absolutely speak to the Head in confidence.

KiKi

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

It's all very well separating A, B, C and D from each other - but what about if I have my child, M, placed in the same room as the one being investigated? To put it mildly, I would not be a happy bunny at them being potentially put into harm's way, especially if I were to find out after my M was molested that the child had already been investigated for inappropriate behaviour.

Apricot

Personally I don;t think the child that is being investigated should be sharing a room with any of the children. I know about innocent until proven guilty etc. but in this case innocent children are at risk and so the situation should not be put in harms way. I think you should speak to the police and the school regarding the situation as there should be some sort of policy in cases like this.

esmf73

Difficult one. I would certainly expect the school to separate the 4 children involved, but equally would not be happy if anything happened to my child whilst sharing a room with child B. The thing to do is to say that child B should be excluded from the school trip - but that is assuming they are guilty before being proved. So what the school should do is to cancel the whole trip. I am sure it can be rearranged at a time when all the investigations have been carried out.

Another concernI would have is the ages of the children - they must still be in primary schools, so will continue to be in the same class as each other until they go to secondary school. I would be uncomfortable with this. Especially as girls are becoming "fertile" much earlier now - what are the school proposing to do in the future - as this more and more will experiment.

Bloomin_Freezing2

If the police are informing the school there's no way the kids would be together. But as others have said, no kid should be put with child B.

What a very tricky situation, I do hope it was just kids being curious and nothing awful happened.

I am sure it will be dealt with in the appropriate manner, I blooming hope it will anyway! What a horrid time for you to be going through,

peachyprice

OP are these girls, boys, boys & girls?
What age range are they?
What are the the sleeping arrangements, it is dorms, rooms for 2, rooms for 4?
How far away is the adults accomodation?

You need to know the facts from the school on all these points. Some situations are obviously more risky for the other children than others.

I don't think they can exclude child B from the trip until he/she has been proven guilty, but there may be ways of segregating said child without penalising him/her for something that may not have happened.

As above, the only alternative is to cancel the trip altogether.