MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: What's more important - MoneySaving or Santa?

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Money Saving Polls
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  • :confused: My sister and I never got many presents from Santa: Our stockings just consisted of:
    • Something to eat like fruit or candy
    • A toy or other item that makes a noise (this can even include nuts to crack)
    • An item that is visually pleasing in any way like jewelry, cuff-links or a coloring book
    • Something that has tactile appeal such as modeling clay, a soft toy, lingerie or even a pair of novelty christmas socks!
    • Any item with a distinctive scent such as bubble-bath, cologne, perfume etc

    This was minimal - but was only to occupy us in our hyperactive early-morning state till our parents got up. We enjoyed looking to see if santa had eaten the mince pies and taken carrots for his reindeer too. :T

    Some children today demand too much, would they really want to be clones of their richer friends :eek:

    If people get to the stage where their children are too demanding when it comes to santas presents - explanations that they are getting more than some children should be given...children can be very compassionate and understanding at times. :A
  • morlandbanksmorlandbanks Forumite
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    Our children have always been told that Santa CHOOSES the presents and Santa DELIVERS the presents but Daddy has to PAY for the presents.

    Hubby works long hours and they're sometimes upset, but I explain that it's all extra presents at Christmas because if Daddy isn't at work he's not earning money. They learn that everything cosmes with a price. I think that's a good lesson to learn.

    Presents from other members of the family and from friends are from them, not Santa, so the children know who to thank.

    I would NEVER go into debt to buy presents. Some years we have really pulled our belts in, other years we can be more generous. It's not all about the presents. This year I've spent our 'gifts to eachother' money on a Tomtom for my husband - so I've told him he'll have to MAKE my present!! LOL. That should be interesting.

    For us, Christmas is about sharing a special family time together.
    Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever - Mahatma Gandhi
  • Logovo69Logovo69 Forumite
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    I thought I'd stir the pot.

    Parents - save up for the whole year. That's what banks are for. if you can't afford your mortgage payment, bills, food and the odd present for your kids - then you really need to consider downsizing your life

    Manage your money better and plan ahead.

    I do, I do! But £50 a week doesn't go far! A modest home, but nope, no expensive gadgets, no holidays (apart from what we can do for free!). No nights out, (we sit and play games with our son and we all chatter, or we take the dog out for walks and play daft word games!). No smoking, no drinking, our meals (balanced and filling) cost less than 50p!!

    I can work wonders with what money we have, but I can't work miracles! - lol

    Doing the surveys can be good. I save up my points over several different sites over the year, and then cash them in about now. I use MSE all the time to look for the best bargains (Thank-you to all those who post, you really do make a difference), and I send for all the useful freebies.

    Given the choice, I'd rather my son genuinely appreciate his things, rather than have a spolied child who thinks that there is a never ending supply of cash and goodies and that it's his right to have what ever he wants when ever he wants, and that he's deprived if he doesn't get it.

    My son budgets his pocket money (Yep! that comes out of that £50 a week too! - lol), but he always saves some of it, and he looks for the best bargains too! He's a delightful, (still cheeky!) happy (not so little!) boy and I am utterly proud of him! (Can't you tell! - lol)

    Lots of love, Suzyxx
    The times they are a-changin' - Bob Dylan
  • Coveredinbees!!!!Coveredinbees!!!! Forumite
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    Can someone explain to me the benefits of telling your kids that Santa exists?

    If you really want to stir stuff up you could ask what has Jesus got to do with Christmas? Lets face it Christmas is the pagan celebration of the winter solstice so in reality it's nothing to do with Jesus either. Still I'll have an xbox 360 if your buying.
    Is it summer yet?
  • TrowTrow Forumite
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    rockhopper wrote:
    <snip> I felt obliged to continue pretending I thought Santa was real, which I found excrutiating. Even now (I'm 29), I still get presents from "Santa".

    You know - I think your parents might be ok now if you let them know that you no longer believe... ;)
  • catkinscatkins Forumite
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    I think it's lovely for children to believe in Father Christmas. Children grow up so quickly nowadays and all too soon learn the harsh realities of life. Let them be children for a while and see Christmas as a happy magical time.

    My parents were pretty poor when I was young but I still love Christmas and get excited about it and I am in my 50's. Only my youngest neice still believes in Santa (she is 9) and last Christmas Eve we both sat on the computer tracking his journey round the world. I am not ashamed to say that I enjoyed it. For one evening at least Santa even seemed real to me!
    The world is over 4 billion years old and yet you somehow managed to exist at the same time as David Bowie
  • I think Suzy (Logovo69) has pretty much said it all. I believed in Santa until I was about 10 and then for several years I played along because my sister was young. We are both adults now and still get 'Santa' gifts every year even though our parents know full well we know the truth - but its a bit of fun to keep denying it - my mum in particular loves wrapping these extra, inexpensive gifts and saying - 'you really must give Santa your new address; he still thinks you live here!'. Luckily my parents can afford it, but when I was very young they could not and the presents were little stocking fillers - like someone else said, 30p colouring books. It was the belief in Santa that made it special, not the value of the gift - and you can't put a price on the smile on a child's face - whatever their age!
    :money: Dedicated disciple of and Savvy MoneySaver :A
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    Calvin (to Hobbes) - "Sometimes the surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere is that none of it has tried to contact us."
  • When I was young, my parents never tried to pretend that Santa existed. I got lovely presents from my parents (not very expensive, don't children prefer the wrapping anyway?) and never felt that I missed out. My Nan still addressed her presents as from Santa but I just felt that this was quite sweet of her.

    Do not think that you are helping your children by deceiving them. At best they will just come to accept it over time, at worst they will feel bitter for a long time. Just give them presents they will enjoy "From you, For them"
  • KleptisVKleptisV Forumite
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    My parents always kept Santa going, and his existence was never up for debate - any queries were always answered with 'well I believe, and he always brings me presents'. Cousins and friends told me he didn't exist and I told them I knew, but secretly hoped and dreamed that he was. Santa is part of the magic of Christmas, and kids often keep playing the game with their parents even when they 'know'. However, I don't think I'd tell mine - its
    Mum's job to keep it going!

    My Dad is a builder, and my Mum a housewife. As the housing market fluctuated, so did my parents' finances, however, thinking back, I couldn't tell you which were the more affluent years, and which ones we were hard up!

    I often had a pretty dress to wear for the day (which then became my party dress for as long as it fitted), and colouring books, new underwear, bubblebaths etc. (Essentials disguised as presents - cunning). If I received items from a multipack they were always wrapped seperately, or shared between my sister and I.

    I can't remember what I was told re expensive presents, but we only got a biggie once every three to five years, and it was always from Mum & Dad (Santa wouldn't be able to get it down the chimney!)

    Oh I love the idea about 'depriving other children' and the smell, touch, see hear and taste presents as well!
  • I have always left a stocking at the end of my 3 kids beds that is from santa, lots of cheap goodies to occupy them until they can get us out of bed. Just little things like chocolate coins, small puzzles, etc...

    All other presents are labelled from whoever bought them, us or other family members. Santa still gets a stocking for each of my kids though they are no longer 'believers'. They are now aged 24, 21 and 15 and we still have a laugh with the stocking fillers.
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