Help with advice on my Children and their mother

NickyBat · 11 February 2011 at 4:18PM

I hope today has gone well for you. Don't give up on your ex, it's nice to hear you say you remember her fondly - clearly she has a problem or several for this to be happening, have you any idea what has triggered it?
Good luck to you......im sure its not easy.

themull1 · 12 February 2011 at 9:55PM

An alcoholic should never be left in charge of kids. Full stop. And yes, my mother was an alcoholic, and spoiled my and my brothers childhood.

JoJoB · 12 February 2011 at 10:09PM

The fact that you have stepped in and taken control of the situation will mean the world to your children - if not now then certainly in the future. It is a tragedy that they are having to deal with such difficult issues with their mother, but the fact that one parent is a source of stability is extremely important to their self-esteem and selfworth.

minimoneysaver · 12 February 2011 at 10:27PM

How did it go yesterday?

Primrose · 14 February 2011 at 10:06PM

I wonder whether you can sit down and have a serious talk with your ex, telling her that her level of drinking has now been recognised by neighbours outside the family home and that because of the Baby P case, you're seriously concerned that if she doesn't get her act together, Social Services may well decide to step in. Try and persuade her that she's now reached a tipping point as far as the children are concerned and that you will try to support her if she gets help, but because her drinking has now come into the wider public campaign, that if she doesn't do something now to change her habits, she could find her whole family life with her children crumbling apart.