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sarah*a

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have nothing to add to what others have said already but didn't want to read and run.

{HUGS}

Pixiechic

My sincere condolences and deepest sympathies to you and your family. I cannot imagine the pain that you must be going through but my thoughts are with you.

Counting_Pennies_2

I am so sorry to hear your news.

Anger is usual in bereavement, don't be hard on yourself, but equally try not to be too hard on your brother.

This is the third bereavement through suicide I have heard of since the new year. It is a very tough time of year, and if it helps you, often when someone is nearing suicide, they aren't themselves. They shut off, become a different person.

In terms of coping and helping your daughter, there is a fantastic charity who deal with bereavement and help children understand. They also offer fantastic help on how to break the news to a child. Called Winstons wish
http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/

It is so dreadful that the only solution to your brother was suicide. That his depression was such that he probably wasn't himself at the end.

Depression and grief can affect people in different ways, so while you are angry now, please do remember that he was probably hurting for a long time, and it wasn't selfishly decided you would suffer from his death, that it was his only way out of his pain for him.

hth

thorsoak

Sending you and your whole family my condolences - I sympathise with your loss. {{hugs}}

gratefulforhelp_2

So sorry for your loss. xxx

starjumper

Huge *hugs*.

My MIL committed suicide 11 years ago and I'm still so cross with her and I don't think that will ever go. Thinking back there was an all consuming numbness for months which eventually turned to anger with a hint of guilt which is now just anger, I've nothing to feel guilty about but guilt is a normal feeling however someone dies.

I can't offer much advice really, suicide is such a selfish act, though those doing it probably aren't thinking rationally enough to realise this. I hope you get through it, take time to deal with this yourself and seek help if you feel you need it.

My thoughts are with you x

lr1277

I am so sorry for your loss.

I am not sure how to put this, but did he have a wife/partner? If there was such a person in his life, surely she will be feeling down/frustrated/angry/confused/guilty about this herself.

Can you help each other to get through this?

busiscoming2

I can't add any advice but would like to offer my condolences to you.

the_becoming

I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

mancbird

So sorry to hear of your loss xxx