How do you find someone..?

spadoosh

Ive got a really nice friend whos looking for love. got his own house almost mortgage free, very friendly nice guy. he's bald though and 30?!?! and lives in preston?! no car

LJM

i think the more you look the more you will not find who you are looking for,it will happen when you least expect it, it did for me and 18 years and 2 kids later we are still very happy.

Scotty1.7

Have to agree and disagree with some of you.

I've been single for 6 years and I've tried the not proper looking, and looking. And its just always failed.

Internet dating doesn't seem to work from my experience- only cause the daft pricks scare the genuine girls and the ones that are left just don't know what they want and have profiles full of lies- or are just fake profiles.

I wish i could find some as well- mainly cause all my old friends, work colleagues are getting engaged and married, I genuinely don't know how many more weddings I can go to as a single person.

Guess there is nothing do but live in hope and keep your chin up. That's all I'm doing, in hope that she's out there and that I can find her.

hieveryone

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Have to agree and disagree with some of you.

I've been single for 6 years and I've tried the not proper looking, and looking. And its just always failed.

Internet dating doesn't seem to work from my experience- only cause the daft pricks scare the genuine girls and the ones that are left just don't know what they want and have profiles full of lies- or are just fake profiles.

I wish i could find some as well- mainly cause all my old friends, work colleagues are getting engaged and married, I genuinely don't know how many more weddings I can go to as a single person.

Guess there is nothing do but live in hope and keep your chin up. That's all I'm doing, in hope that she's out there and that I can find her.

It would be so much easier if it didn't seem stuck up to write in a profile:

Are you good looking?
Are you educated?
Are you employed?
What are your ambitions?

:rotfl::rotfl:

Although, if number 1 is yes, the rest can be ignored quietly... :rotfl::rotfl:

ellie101

The gym is a good way to meet people.. honest! But I wouldn't say in the gym part itself. Join a local health club (I found the council one friendlier, though the posh ones had better facilities) and use the steam/sauna rooms as well as swimming.

People always chat to each other. And if you do the classes regularly you meet mates, who then introduce you to others.

Running clubs are the same but they are a bit more knackering, especially if not your thing. It's just a matter of trying different things and not thinking of meeting someone romantically, but meeting possible friends, who then invite you to more things and you meet others.

anxious_mum

hieveryone wrote: »

It would be so much easier if it didn't seem stuck up to write in a profile:

Are you good looking?
Are you educated?
Are you employed?
What are your ambitions?

:rotfl::rotfl:

Although, if number 1 is yes, the rest can be ignored quietly... :rotfl::rotfl:

Ah, that made me smile. I've got 20 years on you Hieveryone, and if I was ever brave enough to try internet dating I would be asking"


Do you have your own teeth and hair?
Are you sane?
Are you straight?
Are you solvent?
Why are you single?

LOL, it's not easy at any age, but as other posters have said, stop looking, it 's supposed to come to you. I'm still waiting, by the way :rotfl:

Scotty1.7

See I wouldn't take some at face value, I never have and never will. I find it a shallow and rude why to live life. I give everyone a chance, no matter what.

I'm the same age as you, and some people think its strange, but its how I am.

How some one is educated, employed or ambitious should have no barring on things. Love doesn't count on those things-

Its all about trust, honesty- simple things.

Thats the greatest thing about being in a relationship with some one, walks down a beach (doesn't matter about the weather) just holding hands, or lying under the stars talking about anything. It sounds sad and romantic, but that thought of that and the hope of having it again with some one- well it gives me a rye little smile and makes things seem better.

Sure I haven't got it yet, but I have hope that one day it will arrive.

Its like those old romantic novels you read or the romantic movies you watch- I know its just writing or screenplay, but one line from all of those that I've read or watched really sticks out to me all the time.

You'll meet that someone and wonder how you managed without them in your life, the days become brighter and more fun and the stars shine brightly for you.

Don't ask me what book cause I can't remember but the line just sort of sum's up what i would like to think most peoples thoughts on finding love and the relationship

ska_lover

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

First of all, chill out a bit! You're only days / weeks out of a relationship and theres no need to jump right back in. Be independent and enjoy singledom for at least a few weeks before throwing your hat back in.

I totally agree with this. It does no good for your soul to jump in and out of relationships- it takes time to adjust to what has happened - even if you are slightly relieved that it has come to an end. Spend some 'you' time instead of this urgent need to be in a relationship, theres nothing more of a turn off for members of both sexes than desperation (not that i am saying you are! - not trying to be mean) - but you see what I mean.Relax a little and revel in the time you have to yourself for a while.

hieveryone

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

See I wouldn't take some at face value, I never have and never will. I find it a shallow and rude why to live life. I give everyone a chance, no matter what.

I'm the same age as you, and some people think its strange, but its how I am.

How some one is educated, employed or ambitious should have no barring on things. Love doesn't count on those things-

Its all about trust, honesty- simple things.

Thats the greatest thing about being in a relationship with some one, walks down a beach (doesn't matter about the weather) just holding hands, or lying under the stars talking about anything. It sounds sad and romantic, but that thought of that and the hope of having it again with some one- well it gives me a rye little smile and makes things seem better.

Sure I haven't got it yet, but I have hope that one day it will arrive.

Its like those old romantic novels you read or the romantic movies you watch- I know its just writing or screenplay, but one line from all of those that I've read or watched really sticks out to me all the time.

You'll meet that someone and wonder how you managed without them in your life, the days become brighter and more fun and the stars shine brightly for you.

Don't ask me what book cause I can't remember but the line just sort of sum's up what i would like to think most peoples thoughts on finding love and the relationship

So if the gypsy traveller girls on Channel 4 approached you for a date, you wouldn't say no?

I don't believe for one minute that everyone has a 'standard' that they wouldn't go below. As shallow and rude as it may seem, the guy sitting out his face on the floor in the middle of my town holding out a cup could be as nice as anything to me, but I still wouldn't spark up a relationship.

My post was a bit of light hearted fun, but it seems like it was turned into a serious 'I'm so shallow' person... which I'm not.

I'm sure you have qualities that you find attractive in another person, whether that be kind, loving, generous etc.

hieveryone

ska_lover wrote: »

I totally agree with this. It does no good for your soul to jump in and out of relationships- it takes time to adjust to what has happened - even if you are slightly relieved that it has come to an end. Spend some 'you' time instead of this urgent need to be in a relationship, theres nothing more of a turn off for members of both sexes than desperation (not that i am saying you are! - not trying to be mean) - but you see what I mean.Relax a little and revel in the time you have to yourself for a while.

As mentioned in my previous post, I was single for 3 years before this relationship. That guy I went to school with, the guy who I've just split with I knew from years back. So my question was asked more as a passing thought, not as an urgent request on how to find a relationship :rotfl: