Any young grannies about?

skipsmum

DSs girlfriend is having a baby.
Which means Im going to be a granny.
Im 35.:eek:

I had DS very young, and had very little support at all so I want to help them as much as possible. Anyone else in this situation?
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jcr16

nope sorry hun, i'm only 29 so still a mummy, but good luck with it all and congrats on becoming a granny. as you've been in the situtaion your the best person to understand excalty all the worries and concerns they will have. and trust me i'd imagine you have some of the same concerns no matter what your age.

NickyBat

Me neither i'm still a mummy but i can't wait to be a granny.....i envy you.

shellsuit

Funny you posted this, a girl I went to school with is about to become a Gran anyday now and is the same age as you!

You're not her (well I don't think you are lol) but what a coincidence

My eldest son will be 15 in May and my daughter was 13 on New Years Day so hopefully I'll be at least 40+ before I become one!

pebblespop

i am 31 and not even a mummy yet

just be there for them - and give them support.

rozmister

I think the most important thing, whatever the age of the grandparent, is to be gentle and guiding rather than overbearing and bossy. I know it must be hard for parents who already know it all and think their children are doing it wrong when their children are doing their best but I am always hearing Mums (of all ages) complaining about their parents trying to interfere and tell them how to look after their baby.

Maybe you could help them work out what to buy too. My sister (34) had her first baby last Nov and she really struggled with choosing the right things for my niece and felt overwhelmed with all the choice and conflicting advice. My mum wasn't much help because she had me in the 80s and I'm babyless so I just picked out babygros and stuff that needed no expertise. Being young you'll be much more clued up on what's what and able to help them to find their way through the vast range of products.

LJM

im 37 and only have little ones, pebblespop it will happen when the time is right xx skipsmum lucky you hope all goes well xx

nottslass_2

I'm not quite as young as you as I'm nearly 43,but I'm a granny to Ellie who's nearly 4.

I'm also a mummy to a 12 month old - it can get quite confusing when we are all out together,esp trying to explaine to little old ladies that the Baby in the pram is the uncle of DGD !!!

BTW I do refuse to be referred to as Gran.Nan etc and instead I'm known as Omi and my partner (who is 2 years younger than me) is called Baboo,which apparently swahili for Granddad.

jcr16

nottslass my dad has similar situation, when he take my eldest two to the park ( they are 7 and 5) he bro often goes with them. My bro is 14 and my dad is 64 and others assume he is taking all his grand children out. until my brother says dad, quite funny as my dad is a bit deaf so he stands there thinking , whos saying that,lol.

my parents were older when they had a family, dad was 35 when i was born and 50 when my bro was born.

Furny

My mum was a nana at 37 (mum had my brother at 17 & my brother & his wife had a baby when my bro was 20), mum then had to wait another 8 years until her next grandchild came from us.
At least you will have plenty of energy skipsmum! so by the time retirement comes you can enjoy it in peace & not spend your elder years chasing little ones about! ha! .
You know you recieved little support so like another poster said all you can do is be there for them when they need you, but be true to yourself & make sure you still can lead your own life too as the baby is 'there' responsibility & you are still young & need your own life.
My DS is only 5 & I often think what it will be like when I have grandchildren!, can't wait!.

skipsmum

Thanks all! Im actually looking forward to it (DH and I wanted more kids but it was not to be). And Furney, you are spot on about leading my own life, Im just doing an access course and have a university place confirmed for September and Im not going to give it up! But I will do as much as I can to help, and it looks like theyll be living with us anyway when the baby comes.
And I can buy a lovely pram for them, and tiny clothes, all the things I couldnt afford new for ours *dashes off to catalogue, must not take over, must not take over*
Thanks again, everyone xx