would you want to know?

Stephb1986_2

I'd text him and tell him what a rotten scumbag he is! and then move on with your life he's not worth your time love

Steph xx

pupsicola

heartbroken1 wrote: »

Hi all!

Im a regular poster on here but have gone anon for this!

Just after new year my boyfriend and I decided to take a break for a bit – he suffers with depression and said he was having a tough time with things and wanted some time on his own while he sorted himself out. While I was gutted about this I agreed to the break.

Over the weeks we have spoken occasionally by text but not actually sat and talked

Anyway, last week we bumped into each and had a really good talk – he said he still needed more time on his own (which I said I would give him) but things were starting to look better…
As they do, one thing led to another and we ended up in bed together – I then found out the following day that he has being seeing someone while we have been on this break.

I am absolutely devastated – Im also really hurt and angry!! I have found out who the girl is and am really tempted to email her and let her know what has happened as I know I would want to know if someone was cheating on me.

Obviously I don’t want to go making anymore rash choices so thought I would get others opinions first – would you want to know???

Yes I would want to know. For all you know he could be cheating on her with all kinds of people.

Pollycat

pupsicola wrote: »

Yes I would want to know. For all you know he could be cheating on her with all kinds of people.

But is it really any of the OP's business?

Maybe he's confessed his one night stand with the OP to this new girlfriend and if she contacts her ex's new squeeze to 'spill the beans' she could just end up becoming a laughing stock and the butt of jokes - maybe even with friends she shared with her ex whilst they were together.

With some of the nasty things spread about via Facebook these days, it could quickly become incredibly embarassing to add to the hurt she already feels.

This may sound very callous but I think this new girl's well-being is nothing to do with the OP.
I can understand why she would want to say something but I really feel the dignified way is the best way.

Move on OP - and be glad you're well rid.

pupsicola

Personally I would want to know. What the OP does is up to her. There are ways of telling her and still remaining dignified. Its how you go about it and what you say. Either this girl will believe her or not. One way or another she will realise what he is like eventually.

heartbroken1

thanks again for the replies - I have decided to leave it as it is.

I have always been a firm believer in what goes around comes around so he will come unstuck eventually - some of our mutual friends are aware of what has happened as they saw him kissing me when we were in the pub. its almost as if he wants to get found out!!!

ERICS_MUM

heartbroken1 wrote: »

thanks for the replies - I know you are all right - I just wish he'd been honest with me rather than stringing me along with the promise of us getting back together when he had got himself sorted.

That just shows what a weak man he is. Walk away from him, start a new life with other people, don't risk your dignity and self respect by contacting the other woman, don't give your ex the satisfaction.

Good luck, you sound strong and sensible - you'll be fine in a short while.


Linda xx