would you want to know?

Heart_Shaped_Diamond

Additionally, this happened to a friend of mine. The girl he went on a 'break' with, slept with two men within the space of two days. He was heart broken. If she was interested in being with other people - then why decieve my friend and lead him to think otherwise. It's just cruel.

Needless to say, a year or so later they got back together. They're together now, but I don't think he's happy. And I think she does it out of guilt for what she done to him. I hope he finds someone else who will treat him right. The OP needs to find someone who will treat her right.

The_Next_Verse

How did you find out who she was and how did you get her email address?

Facebook?

(I'd leave well alone btw!)

photogifts

In dating only work with what you get if you get nothing then don't work with it,its not fair for you to keep your life on hold for something that might or might not rekindle,the cynic side of me thinks when your in love with someone there unreplaceable
in thoughts and in heart so to be messing about with other girl's maybe he wasn't committed as you thought.

I could be wrong and maybe he is having a real hard time but shouldn't he be letting you in and help not push you away

in my experience move on when your ready and not because of getting even when it feels right for you it will be his loss

Pollycat

heartbroken1 wrote: »

thanks for the replies - I know you are all right - I just wish he'd been honest with me rather than stringing me along with the promise of us getting back together when he had got himself sorted.

I can understand why you're so upset but hopefully in a while you'll realise he was just a no-good scumbag who lied to you in order to break up with you. Not once, but twice.

I would take cgk1's rather blunt advice and get yourself checked for STDs.

I'd try to put him out of your mind and no, don't contact this new girlfriend.
You'll only come across as a bunny-boiler.
Bite you tongue or sit on your fingers whenever you're tempted to contact her, you'll come out of this with dignity.

Good luck

RoxieW

I'd email her and then tell him where to go. Yes I would want to know if I started seeing someone and then they slept with their ex/current/whatever girlfriend. Hopefully the fool will be left with noone, but then Im sure he'll just move onto the nect person.

lala9

Having spent a year with a cheating rotten sod I think the new girlfriend has a right to know what a lowlife he is, she can then make the decision herself whether to stay with him or not. As for you hun, you are well out of it and can do far far better...... I did :-) Probably not what you want to hear right now, but you will thank yourself in the long run.

NickyBat

Heart_Shaped_Diamond wrote: »

I always thought the concept of having a 'break' was having space without the burden of a relationship for whatever reason at the time, but with the possibility that the relationship will soon rekindle after said break.

It's different from splitting up with said person. So she was under the impression that sooner or later things would go back to norm, am I wrong? The whole point is to have ''time by yourself'' not ''sleep around with others''... I'm pretty sure that wasn't part of the deal he spoke about with OP when discussing his depression.

What a weasel OP. You don't need him.

My thoughts exactly!!
Clearly he is getting over his depression, can't really give you any advice as to what you "should do", i know if it were me i would have to give him a piece of my mind but thats not necessarily the right thing to do.

one thing i would not be doing is waiting round for him to decide what he wants.

julie2710

Poor you. Personally I wouldn't contact the new girl, as others have said she will probably just view you as the jealous ex and may not even believe you anyway. What I would do is let him know in no uncertain terms that you know exactly what he has been doing and with whom. Don't threaten that you will tell her, he may well make that conclusion himself but hey let him stew in the fear of if/when you might pull the rug from under his feet! If he asks whether you are going to say anything just tell him you haven't decided!

Keep your dignity and move on. A break is that a break not an opportunity to try a few other candidates before you make your choice. You stood by him and supported him when he was depressed and this is how he repays you. He really isn't worthy of your affection and time and although it probably doesn't feel that way now you will be better off moving on.

Oh by the way my now ex husband cheated on me after 10 years together! When I found out about it and who he was cheating on me with I never threatened to tell her, much as though I wanted to go round and punch her! He told her I knew and she was expecting me to go round too! I just said to him, she can live in fear then as I guess she'll just never know when or if I might bump into her! In the end she phoned me:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Good luck

tiamai_d

Chalk it up to experience, call him all the names under the sun to us (coz we won't tell) and forget about him. I wouldn't email her. It's difficult because you would want to know but you will just end up the bad one.

You deserve better.

jcr16

leave well alone. the new girlfriend will prob think your just a jealous ex . nothing good can come out of it.

but prob best now to draw a line under it and move on. i know easier said than done sometimes.