Autistic teenagers

Ms_Magnetite

Of course, a way to stop the calls without giving him the chance to hurt you is to call the phone company and say the phone has been lost/could they block it? He loses the phone but isn't within range of you and your bump. Then don't get him another one.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Thanks to everyone for taking the time to reply & sorry I haven't been able to reply to individual posts as I have no Internet access at home at the moment.

My son is back at boarding school but refusing to come home on Friday so is apparently moving in with my parents from what the school have told me as my family don't really talk to me.

I'm glad he is ok but disappointed that he is cutting me out of his life just because I won't give in to him but as he says he is 16 now & an adult so let's see how he gets on without me.

Vicki x

shellsuit

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Thanks to everyone for taking the time to reply & sorry I haven't been able to reply to individual posts as I have no Internet access at home at the moment.

My son is back at boarding school but refusing to come home on Friday so is apparently moving in with my parents from what the school have told me as my family don't really talk to me.

I'm glad he is ok but disappointed that he is cutting me out of his life just because I won't give in to him but as he says he is 16 now & an adult so let's see how he gets on without me.

Vicki x

How do you mean he is 'apparantly' moving in with them?

Have you not spoken to your son or your family about this?

It could be best for you and him actually, but being his parent don't you want to check seeing as you are responsible for him.

Ms_Magnetite

Don't be too harsh on BCS. If they refuse to speak to her, then there isn't really anything she can do to force a stroppy 16 year old or hostile family to communicate. She is fortunate that the school has informed her what is happening. Until he is 18, she has a right to receive progress reports from the school, whether he likes it or not. However, the police will not forcibly remove him to take him back to his Mum's due to his age - and if they tried, the odds are (as he is quite happy to flatten his pregnant mother) he'll find himself with a record for assaulting a police officer.


BCS, you will need to decide at what point you will accept that he is no longer living with you and advise Tax Credits and Child Benefit accordingly. They do give some leeway in cases where the teenager has gone off in a strop, but you can't leave it for months, or whoever he lives with could put in a claim and then all your money gets stopped whilst it is sorted out. Tax credits are usually happy to accept the date that Child Benefit takes.

It is hard, but giving in would make it OK for him to batter you next time - which could result in the loss of your baby. You can't hide him away from the police if he kills your unborn child, so for your own safety, this is a better result for you than it currently feels.

I hope that you experience some more peaceful days ahead, so you can relax a little and look forward to your new baby's arrival.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

shellsuit wrote: »

How do you mean he is 'apparantly' moving in with them?

Have you not spoken to your son or your family about this?

It could be best for you and him actually, but being his parent don't you want to check seeing as you are responsible for him.

Thats what he has told the school.

I haven't spoken to Ryan as he won't talk to me & neither will my family.

It doesn't look like I get a say or the right to be informed of anything they he decides.