Getting married...with no guests

purplerose

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

The only thing glaringly wrong with the whole plan is the drive from Vegas to Orlando: that's about 2,500 miles!

You could always go to Disneyland in California instead? There's also the Knotts Berry Farm theme park and Universal Studios and lots of other theme parks as well as lots of beaches and pretty much all the same stuff you'd get in Florida. Shorter drive from Las Vegas!

I don't plan to get married in Vegas but when I get married I also want it to be just the two of us so let us know how it goes

shellsuit

Alyssa.C wrote: »

My partner and I want to plan a Las Vegas wedding, found a package for $150 with a 5 guest limit ($25 for each extra guest)

But we dont want any guests

How do we explain this to our parents / grandparents / other relatives / friends??

The reason being, we want to arrange car hire from Los Angeles, and spend a few days there,
then over to Las Vegas for the wedding ceremony, then drive from there to Orlando, and would like to invite our mothers, fathers and 3 sisters (to also bring our son) for a meal in Orlando then a fortnight in Disneyworld

Then hire a hall for back home to have a small party to celebrate our marriage.

So we can afford a holiday together and get married in one

We have told them about the Disneyworld trip which they are happy with, but havent exposed the rest of our ideas!

I dont want to upset anyone, but my partner and I feel, its our wedding and we want to enjoy it on our own...without being selfish...i guess it is kind of selfish but its what we want.

Help please!
Aly

How do you think they would take it, getting all the way there to spend a fortnights holiday/honeymoon with you, to find out you had just got married?

If you think they would be fine with it, go ahead!

If you think there could be friction, I'd forget it. The holiday together I mean, not the wedding!

ailuro2

We went and got married in Las Vegas without any guests, we just told them beforehand we were going to go and do it, and didn't ask if any of them would like to come...

We celebrate our 10th anniversary a few weeks from now.

When we came back we didn't have a party either, the family that we do talk to are pretty scattered, and tbh the rest of the family are not there during much of the marriage, so it wasn't a big deal not having them there for the 7 minutes it took us to get married.:D

Someone asked if it was weird not having anyone there at the wedding, and I said we did kind of miss the family on the day, but that was just to avoid hurting her feelings, we did EXACTLY what we wanted on our wedding day, and didn't have to worry about what anyone else was doing. ( DH still has fond memories;))

If you've any doubt about wanting family at the wedding then go book a registrar and make sure they are there...

babyboysmommy

If my kids went off & got married without me there I'd be extremely hurt/devastated. I'd get over it but it would really hurt for a long time. Just being honest. My kids would never know how I felt as I support them 100% but I'd cry many tears in private. I hope & pray that they would never want to do that but time will tell. I can understand not wanting many there, we stuck to immediate family but to excluded those who raised & love you may well hurt them even if they keep those feelings hidden from you. You need to be very sure you want your wedding like that if there is a chance you are going to hurt your family, it can't be undone. I hope your family are supportive of whatever decision you make.

Becles

I think I'd feel hurt if mine children went off and married in private, especially my daughter as I'd enjoy helping her plan her wedding.

We married in Scotland and had a small ceremony for close family and friends. That worked really well as it was intimate but all the important people were there. Had a lovely weekend :cool:

jm2926

Alyssa.C wrote: »

The reason being, we want to arrange car hire from Los Angeles, and spend a few days there,
then over to Las Vegas for the wedding ceremony, then drive from there to Orlando,
Aly

This won't work. Florida to Las Vegas is a 5 hour flight. Check out flights to Orlando or Tampa.

Remember when you arrive in Vegas tell your hotel you're getting married and ask for an upgrade Worked for us. We got married here and it was fantastic:

http://www.littlechurchlv.com/

rozmister

I understand why parents would be hurt if their child went off and married without them but at the same time it's the child's choice. If they don't want all the fuss and pomp of a proper big wedding and they're happy to share the photos and such with you I think it's one of those things where you have to accept it and let it go.

Do what makes you happy because it's your wedding day and you'll be the one who has to live with it everyday for the rest of your life. If you explain to your family it's not personal and you will have a party at home I'm sure they'll understand.

minerva_windsong

I'm with rachbc - let them think you're just going to Orlando/on the road trip and then at the dinner announce that you got married. But then two of my aunties got married in secret and only told the family afterwards, so I speak from a family with something of a track record at this (though I admit I couldn't do it myself because of how disappointed my parents would be).

I agree with everyone else who said it's your and your OH's wedding, and do what you like. Hope you have a lovely day whatever you decide to do, and a great holiday

Fang_3

meritaten wrote: »

the OP has said she wants to invite parents, grandparents and her son to the wedding - couldnt they be sworn to secrecy? but I wouldnt expect them to pay their own way! reception for everyone else when they get back? that sounds like fun!

She hasn't said that at all.

gingin_2

We took family to Las Vegas when we got married. I really regret it, as much as I love them, because I couldn't relax and enjoy it. They are just not Vegas people ( apart from my Dad, bless him, who got into his blackjack). I really admire you for doing it alone. It's such a fun place to get married in, though, if that is your thing.

I agree re. the Orlando trip, I find the jetlag going to LA/Vegas one of the worst, and so to get on another flight for 5 hours mid trip would really be a downer for me.The drive to L.A involves going through the Mojave desert. It's so beautiful and there are resorts that you can stop off and stay at.

Have fun

Edit : sorry hadn't read you were driving to Orlando. That's crackers!