Debenhams direct have messed up gift from wedding list

rustyboy21

I hate it when I am invited to a wedding and it involves buying off a wedding list.

I went to my nieces wedding last year and was sent the details to buy from John Lewis. I always spend £50 with my nieces/nephews weddings.

I went online and saw what was left to buy. Single items were over the £50. it annoyed me that people were buying things like 1 wine glass out of a set of 6. Whats with that? If you were going to buy a gift, you would buy a complete set of something.

I ended up buying .... 1 face cloth, 2 wine glasses, a toothbrush holder, a rinsing glass for teeth, a soap dish, a bath mat, 2 forks and 1 knife and a few other bits and bobs !

I would rather just give them money !

Katie-Kat-Kins

If you'd rather give money then there is nothing to stop you doing that. Or most gift lists have an option to buy vouchers instead so the couple can use them on whatever they like.

We made sure that there was a range of prices on our list, from £2.50 up to about £90 I think. But some people do buy a selection, my sister in law bought us about 10 different items and spent enough to get one fairly large item, which surprised me but each to their own! We had two lists, so there was plenty of choice and we still got some off list gifts, some money and some vouchers.

Gift lists aren't compulsory and it can be nice to get something off list that is well thought out. Gift lists are just provided to avoid the brides mum getting a million calls asking what china they are collecting and then three different guests all buying identical butter dishes!

liam8282

rustyboy21 wrote: »

I would rather just give them money !

Why didn't you then?

Just ignore the wedding list and stick £50 in the card, job done.

tanith

I too would give the money either cash or a cheque

upallnighteatingcheese

fluffnutter wrote: »

Moral of the story? Don't have a wedding list. If you do want some reward for getting hitched, why not be really crass and ask for the cash?

What a ridiculous comment. I swear some people just post rubbish on here to get a rise.
Do you speak like that to people in real life?

We had a wedding list becasue like it or nor, a lot of people will want to buy you something and we thought it better to give them options rather than recieve 20 toasters or 50 towels.
This wasn't 'a reward'...(how offensive and patronising by the way) some people bought us a gift off the list, some people gave us money, some people didn't give us anything and we were happy they could just make it to our wedding regardless.

Im glad you've told us your views on wedding lists as it's very helpfull to the original posters question....no wait...no, it wasn't at all helpfull.

Torry_Quine

Personally I don't like wedding lists and never find suitable presents on them. They are marginally better than asking for money especially if for the honeymoon. People should be grateful for any present even duplicates.

Charliezoo

fluffnutter wrote: »

Moral of the story? Don't have a wedding list. If you do want some reward for getting hitched, why not be really crass and ask for the cash?

I do think in this day and age it is perfectly acceptable to have a wedding list. It usually makes life much easier for everyone and guests know that they'll be buying a gift that the bride and groom actually want and won't be duplicated.

mrbrightside842

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Personally I don't like wedding lists and never find suitable presents on them. They are marginally better than asking for money especially if for the honeymoon. People should be grateful for any present even duplicates.

But if you were going to buy someone a present, wouldn't you rather spend £10 on something that they'd need, rather than £10 on something they're going to get 3 of and would get no use?

Torry_Quine

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

But if you were going to buy someone a present, wouldn't you rather spend £10 on something that they'd need, rather than £10 on something they're going to get 3 of and would get no use?

If you can find something decent for a not extortionate amount on a gift list you're a better man than me.

When we got married we never considered a list and were very grateful for everything, including duplicates.

Katie-Kat-Kins

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If you can find something decent for a not extortionate amount on a gift list you're a better man than me.

When we got married we never considered a list and were very grateful for everything, including duplicates.

Well that says a lot about the people who's weddings you are going to.

Our list included items starting from £2.50, there were lots of items across our list for under £20, in fact the feedback we got was more that there weren't enough "large" items for close family who wanted to spend more. If you can't find something you like the look of then you can always give cash, vouchers or a gift that it "off list". The list just helps people to know what the bride and groom would like, without them having to take a wild guess or call one of the Mums.

Most lists include crockery, glassware, and cutlery etc and you can normally get single items on the list rather than full sets which can make for a relatively cheap gift.