Debenhams direct have messed up gift from wedding list

Torry_Quine

Katie-Kat-Kins wrote: »

Well that says a lot about the people who's weddings you are going to.

Our list included items starting from £2.50, there were lots of items across our list for under £20, in fact the feedback we got was more that there weren't enough "large" items for close family who wanted to spend more. If you can't find something you like the look of then you can always give cash, vouchers or a gift that it "off list". The list just helps people to know what the bride and groom would like, without them having to take a wild guess or call one of the Mums.

Most lists include crockery, glassware, and cutlery etc and you can normally get single items on the list rather than full sets which can make for a relatively cheap gift.

it would never cross my mind to contact the family of the bride/groom, mostly don't even know them if they are friends. I think a gift is a very personal thing and tend to find lists don't allow for individuality.

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upallnighteatingcheese wrote: »

What a ridiculous comment. I swear some people just post rubbish on here to get a rise.
Do you speak like that to people in real life?

We had a wedding list becasue like it or nor, a lot of people will want to buy you something and we thought it better to give them options rather than recieve 20 toasters or 50 towels.
This wasn't 'a reward'...(how offensive and patronising by the way) some people bought us a gift off the list, some people gave us money, some people didn't give us anything and we were happy they could just make it to our wedding regardless.

Im glad you've told us your views on wedding lists as it's very helpfull to the original posters question....no wait...no, it wasn't at all helpfull.

Those that wanted to buy me something, I asked that they make a donation to their favourite charity. If they maintained that they wanted to buy something for me and the other half, we suggested a bottle of wine. I paid for absolutely everything at my wedding - travel, food, drink, accommodation for our best man and partner; I'd hate to feel that people were spending their money on my account. They were there to share our day, not kit out our house with new set of matching guest towels.

And as for being helpful; I've already posted my advice. Why on earth spend £160 if you don't have the money? But perhaps she felt obliged to on account of being faced with a wedding list?