Why do people do this ?

ceebeeby

Ahhhh, I'm soooo slow sometimes! Oh yeah - doh!

gingin_2

ceebeeby wrote: »

Ahhhh, I'm soooo slow sometimes! Oh yeah - doh!

Lol. You and me both!

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I dont think there was any nasty comments on the wardrobe thread either.

Granted - there was the chocolate comment but to be fair - i think it was said more in jest and notmeant to cause you upset (TBH it made me chuckle - but each to their own)

I know your disabled and wouldnt be able to move the wardrobes yourself but is there not someone you could ask to help? friends/relatives etc?

KiKi

I also read your other thread. I saw no sarcastic comments at all. The one about 'chocolate' was meant to be funny - and the fact that you have a disability is completely irrelevant to the joke she posted, as her joke was in no way was rude about disability, and only derogatory to chocolate. She even apologised to you.

You said you couldn't get the wardbrobes upstairs because of a tight corner. You didn't say you had a disability; there is no way anyone could have known. Yes, people made an assumption, but it wasn't an unreasonable one. People can't post a comment about how to get a wardrobe upstairs, and ensure that they cover every single individual's situation 'just in case' it applies to you!

Even if you are annoyed that you can't take up their suggestions, they still weren't sarcastic. I'm not really sure what you're upset about.

KiKi

pinkshoes

I've also just read the wardrobe thread, and have no idea what is wrong with any of the posts. Other than a slightly tongue-in-cheek comment about a chocolate teapot, the rest are helpful.

As it said they were too tight to go round the corner up the stairs, I also assumed you'd tried this, thus the comment to un-assemble them was also valid, and how were they to know you were disabled.

I'm afraid your post having a go at people was a little out of order, as they were trying to help.

BAILEYS6904

I think you're just being overly sensitive to be honest. No one meant any harm

scooby088

I post on here and pass comment, i hope that i am being honest and straight to the point, some may agree some may think i am being rude, if you post on a public forum and then dont be surprised when you get unhelpful comments.

Jake'sGran

And, finally, a comment from me. I have not read the thread being referred to and this is the first time I have ventured into this forum. I am better known on the Banking & Investing forums where people tend to be quite polite.

Does it not seem obvious that IHD may have not mentioned her disability because she wants people to treat her the same as other posters e.g. not in a sympathetic way. I can see that not knowing about it might have affected the tone and usefulness of the responses that were given.

I have a serious heart condition but I love to post on MSE and get so many useful responses that I am very reluctant to mention it when, to be honest, it has no bearing on the question being asked. Obviously for IHD this was not the case. She may come to realise that.

Tropez

Jake'sGran wrote: »

Does it not seem obvious that IHD may have not mentioned her disability because she wants people to treat her the same as other posters e.g. not in a sympathetic way. I can see that not knowing about it might have affected the tone and usefulness of the responses that were given.

I have a serious heart condition but I love to post on MSE and get so many useful responses that I am very reluctant to mention it when, to be honest, it has no bearing on the question being asked. Obviously for IHD this was not the case. She may come to realise that.

I can quite understand wanting to be treated equally but when the thread relates to the positioning of wardrobes in a home and the difficulty one has encountered in moving said wardrobes to the bedroom due to it being too tight a fit, it lends itself to the responses that were given to the OP - ie. take them apart first before attempting to move them. This is a reasonable and practical suggestion. The fact that the OP took offence to this suggestion and accused those who offered general, rational and reasonable advice of making sarcastic comments is unjustified because while the OP then chose to divulge that he/she suffers from a form of disability, which does indeed negate the acceptability of the advice offered, there was nothing about the original post that would lead one to draw such a conclusion, therefore the advice given was sound for the majority of situations.

While I understand the OP's plight, the fact is that the quality of the advice cannot be criticised for being unhelpful (and certainly not sarcastic) when those who attempted to help were not in the possession of the facts that have since been angrily thrown at them.

It is the rather extreme reaction that appears to have baffled people here, rather than the fact that the OP has a disability.

But for whatever reason it was that caused such a reaction, whether it be a genuine misunderstanding or something else, I do hope that the OP finds a suitable solution for her wardrobe problem. Some other reasonable advice has now been offered on that thread so hopefully something good will come of it.

Pollycat

IHD
I too have read the 'wardrobe' thread and I think you have been unfair to the majority of posters who replied.

Believe me, I've seen some really sarcastic and/or clever comments to some posts on here - you really need to learn not to take offence when there is none intended.

I think the point made about not knowing about your disability because you didn't mention it is a valid one.