am I wrong to be cross

thunderbird

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

I would not be happy with this. Are they getting their own back for a party you had when you were youger and they were on holiday? I'd be fine with them having another couple over for dinner, but not a house full of people. Do they live far away? Have they seen this as n opportunity to see people they don't often get to see? I'd would tell them how you feel, i'm sure it'll make them feel bad but they have to realise this isn't ok to do without asking first. Gosh, it's like dealing with teenagers isn't it!

lol I thought the same thing! Bit of role reversal with parents having the party while the kids are away. Although they are clearly amateurs as they have told you in advance!

I would be annoyed, I guess it depends on the relationship you have with your parents as to how you sort this out. I'd suggest, 'why don't we have it another time when we (you and your DH) can attend to.'

BitterAndTwisted

No, you are not wrong to be cross. I would be too. Quite honestly, I think you need to make your feelings known, possibly in the gentlest way you can find but make them known nonetheless. I fail to understand why anyone, family or not, could ever think that using someone else's home like some sort of party-venue for hire would be OK.

Jinx

I can understand totally you being cross. However, I dont think its worth falling out over.... Does your extended family live closer to your home than your parents? Or you have a bigger house maybe? If so, I can see it makes sense, I think they were just a bit thoughtless... I would hope that they just thought it wouldnt be an issue at all, hence the off the cuff request that its ok...

I cant picture my mum doing this to us but I wouldnt have an issue with it if she did... As long as my house was clean/tidy before they all arrived lol

linni

I'd be annoyed. I had a similar thing when a friend 'house sat' for me and she'd invited all her friends round for lunch and showed them round the house. I never asked her again..

celyn90

I think you are wrong to be cross to be honest. Your parents are giving up their weekend to look after your kids so you can do something you want to do. They are doing you a favour, they are sacrificing their time, they are taking responsibility for you children; so let them entertain as they wish. It's not like they are going to trash the house. Be grateful that you have a family that is so supportive and willing to do things for you - a lot of people aren't lucky enough to have that.

Jinx

linni wrote: »

I'd be annoyed. I had a similar thing when a friend 'house sat' for me and she'd invited all here friends round for lunch and showed them round the house. I never asked her again..

Ooooh thats bad!! Family is one thing cos their family is your family too.... But friends doing that. Bad bad bad, Id be livid :mad: Think Id react the same as you...

gill_81uk

I suspect they just want to show off their grandchildren to their extended family. If my Mum has my DS she will often invite her friends round. It's not the same as this is at her house but they probably just haven't thought it through. How many people are going to be coming?

PolishBigSpender

Well after all, they are sacrificing their own time to look after your children. If you don't like it, pay for a child minder!

Emmzi

I think you're over reacting. Unless your family are all crims?

MrsTinks

I think it's very rude to invite people to someones house without asking them before inviting the others!
Our homes are our sanctuaries - if we choose to invite people into them that is one thing - but for others to do so is so intrusive! I'm assuming that you are not very close to the extended family and so I'd view them as nothing more than someone my parents know, strangers almost to me... Why would I invite them to my home and safe place when I am not there???