Nursery.................

pupsicola

If you find a good one, children can benefit hugely from attending nursery/pre-school. My son started when he was 2 1/2 and absolutely hated the first nursery he went to. I didnt have alot of confidence in the staff myself and after speaking to other mums I removed him.

I contacted my oldest sons school and had a chat with one of the teaching assistants saying that I needed some advice re the local nurseries. She had to be careful how she worded it but she did say that they found that the children who came from x,y and z nurseries were well developed socially, emotionally and well ahead with their reading, writing, shapes, colours etc etc.

I then went round and viewed these and made my choice. It was the best thing I could have done and my son was happy and eager to go after a couple of days settling. He is now in foundation and well ahead.

balletshoes

lukemed1 wrote: »

Hi everyone,

Is sending a child to nursery really giving them the best/head start in life? My 3 yr old daughter has taken a dislike to one of the staff there and is adamant that she doesn't want to attend anymore, she gets very distressed as we approach the nursery and when i leave i can hear her crying, so what do i do?

send her or not? would be great to hear your opinions..........

Whether sending your child to nursery gives them a head start/best start is entirely subjective, each parent will have their own opinion on that, and will make the decision for their own child.

However, if you are sending your child to nursery, she's been happy there until now, and only now is she getting upset, and you know its to do with one member of staff, in your shoes I'd be trying to get to the bottom of why she doesn't like this person when she likes everyone else there. If you don't get anywhere with that, I'd be looking at moving the little girl to another nursery.

My little girl used to cry when I left her at nursery, but she was a lot younger than 3, she settled in fine, but then when she changed age group and class at the same nursery again when she was 2 we went through a period of her being unsettled and crying, but again, she pulled through it and settled down after a short period of time.

OP only you know whats right for your child.

balletshoes

lukemed1 wrote: »

Hi Faith,

she's a young 3 and is fine and happy when I pick her up, it's just getting her there thats the problem!

Ah, didn't see this when I replied to your original post - if she's fine when you pick her up, the crying is just to see what effect it will have on you in the mornings .

pupsicola

I agree that if she just cries when you drop her off then it is guilt-trippping you and she is fine there. My boys did this with me for a while. Made me feel awful, till I snuck round to where their room was and saw them laughing and smiling and playing happily two minutes later. Crafty little s"£$

Supermom

You have to do whats best for you and your child and that isn't always possible by following the crowd.

I am a mum to four, my eldest went to nursery and loved it my second hated every second and after 6 weeks I took her out and she is now at school and loves it has settled really well with no problems and is way more advanced and ahead in reading and maths than the rest of her class most of whom went to nursery so not going has not held her back.

My 4 year old started nursery last year and it's done him the world of good as he was a bit of a baby and didn't want to drink from a cup, use the big toilet etc and at nursery he is happy to do all these things, my youngest is only a year old so we don't have to worry about that yet.

I agree with the poster that said we send our kids to school to early, in the end do what is right for you and your little one.

ncsmummy

My eldest hated pre-school to begin with - to the point that he cried himself to sleep!! He was only 2 1/2 though so we took him out for a few months and when he restarted we had tears etc but i always rang them when I got home and by that point he was fine!! My daughter started 1 or 2 afternoons a week at 2 and loved it but then after about a year started playing up about going but it was just a phase and she was fine a few minutes after i left - I used to stand in the cloakroom where she couldnt see me to make sure she was ok! I think i was really good for them - they have both made good friends that they are still friends with now.

nuttybabe

have you spoken to the nursery staff about it? my daughter was a nightmare when i dropped her off and always screamed. Fine after I left though! And when i spoke to a different teacher she was shocked as dd always strutted around the school like she owned it when collecting the mornings fruit. But I would definatly mention to one of the nursery staff as it may just be that she was told off by one of the teachers so took a dislike to them.

Is there anyone else who could take her for a few days. Ds1 used to scream and cry when i dropped him off until dh took him for a few days and he was fine after that. just trying it on with me but wanted to be a big boy for daddy!

clairec79

I'd drop her off, hang round outside for five minutes then peek through the window to check she's alright, a lot of kids do it.

Also what is she like if your partner takes her, my second used to create no end of fuss when I dropped her off because she'd cry I'd try and reassure her and so on, her dad dropped her off said 'see you at eleven', gave her a kiss and left and she was fine

onlyroz

A 3-year-old really should be in nursery, at least part-time. It teaches them the social skills that they're going to need once they start "proper" school. If your daughter is fine when you pick her up then I don't think you have anything to worry about. Try to keep the dropping off period as short as possible. Take her in and turn around and leave. She'll soon learn that she's not going to get a reaction from mummy.

jonty1970

I would want to know why they don't like that person! After some of the stories in the papers, I wouldn't trust anyone and would be straight in to get it sorted.
But as others have said, nursery does help them with their social skills and most kids love it. I you give in now, what happens if she doesn't like school.
You have to be tough sometimes