would you stay with your partner if you have a child

themull1

pamelamalcolm wrote: »

Maybe he needs to get out of the house for a little while so he can work with that "stress". I don't see what's so stressing, having a child is the best feeling in the world.

Having kids can be very stressing!! it depends on how the child is and how the parents cope. I found my two incredibly stressful when they were younger. I don't rate it the best feeling in the world either!!

cazziebo

Deals wrote: »

even if he is always grumpy and frustrated and really a pain to live with and he says it is all down to stress (or you guess it is). would you do if for the sake of your children who need a dad or mum around? as this can affect your own well being but you want to help your partner and make the relationship work?

Yes yes and yes. You're not saying here you don't love him, you're not saying here it's the end of the road. what I'm hearing is that you're not happy with the situation and you want to make it work.

When there are children, parents owe it to them to do everything in their power to keep the family unit together and rebuild the relationship. Only when every avenue is exhausted should anyone walk away.

Too many couples give up too soon. You say you "guess" the issue is stress - you owe it to yourself, your children and your relationship to find out what the problem is.

Wishing you all the very best.

Deals_2

and yet his actions show otherwise.

pamelamalcolm wrote: »

Maybe he needs to get out of the house for a little while so he can work with that "stress". I don't see what's so stressing, having a child is the best feeling in the world.

Deals_2

is women feel underappreciated! and shouted and moaned out!

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Haven't read all the posts but my twopenneth worth: relationships take effort - it is so easy to take the other for granted and therefore not treat them in the way that you did at the beginning. When you have children it is very easy to let your relationship slide as there are a million and one things to do and you forget that you need time to feel close to each other. Look at what attracted you to each other in the first place and try to maintain that - don't let life get in the way of each other - be friends and appreciate eachother.

Deals_2

he is also macho, no two conversation, he is right and i am wrong.

cazziebo wrote: »

Yes yes and yes. You're not saying here you don't love him, you're not saying here it's the end of the road. what I'm hearing is that you're not happy with the situation and you want to make it work.

When there are children, parents owe it to them to do everything in their power to keep the family unit together and rebuild the relationship. Only when every avenue is exhausted should anyone walk away.

Too many couples give up too soon. You say you "guess" the issue is stress - you owe it to yourself, your children and your relationship to find out what the problem is.

Wishing you all the very best.

Pink-Angel

Deals wrote: »

even if he is always grumpy and frustrated and really a pain to live with and he says it is all down to stress (or you guess it is). would you do if for the sake of your children who need a dad or mum around? as this can affect your own well being but you want to help your partner and make the relationship work?

Hi there, just read your thread. As someone who is an adult brought by in a family where my mum stayed with my dad because she thought it was for the best, I would say think very carefully. I wish my parents had split up, it was horrible being brought up in such an unhappy atmosphere. There is relationship counselling of course, but if you are really unhappy, think about the effect this might be having on your children - they will pick up on it. It's better to have two happy parents who are apart than two miserable ones together.

happy35

for me it would depend on how unhappy this is making you, if you are really unhappy your children will pick up on this

my OH is grumpy and a complete moaner he does get on my nerves sometimes but it is usually treated as a joke in our house with a here he goes again attitdue

OH knows he is a moan and does admit this now and again, I have days when this grinds me down and i think there must be someone easier to live with but most of the time I am happy

Deals_2

i am always the one to carry. and i am warn out.

happy35 wrote: »

for me it would depend on how unhappy this is making you, if you are really unhappy your children will pick up on this

my OH is grumpy and a complete moaner he does get on my nerves sometimes but it is usually treated as a joke in our house with a here he goes again attitdue

OH knows he is a moan and does admit this now and again, I have days when this grinds me down and i think there must be someone easier to live with but most of the time I am happy