four year old testing patience, how to manage behaviour?

mum2twinsx2

One of my little angels;) has turnt into the devil child:mad: over the weekend.

I currently use time out, as has always previously worked and taking away priviledges. She spent majority of the weekend on time out. She just being plain mean, kicking biting her twin sister and little brothers. Doing things like snatching toys away food dummies. Had the same sort of behaviour at party we went to.
Everything is such a hassle everything is:
No I won't put my shoes on."
"No I won't go to bed."
and the list goes on.
She disagrees with everything. At moment im between putting back on time out [for last hour been putting her back on, damn you supernanny rules] she as soon as we got home little boy next door came to play she just went up and booted him and hit him round the head with a barbie.
This morning school was a nightmare, she didnt want to go had and spent whole time at home creating havoc, so ended up scooping her up under my arm pushing double buggy and keep eye on her sister from the car to school. When we got there she wouldnt do anything but lay under table screaming.
The teacher rang at two pm saying could i wait until the rest class had gone to talk. So knew the poop had gone down at school, i gave her opportunity to fess up when i picked her up but she proceed to be imaginative with truth [lie basically] about situations that had happenned.
Both myself and teacher tryed to get out of her why she is being like this. God honest truth before the past couple days she wouldnt say boo to a ghost, odd tantrum and squabbles with her sister. But not to this extent. She totally a different child.

Do they do boot camps for children??:rotfl: Im hoping its just strive for independance and will pass???? Her twin sister has packed a bag and wants to stay with her grandma....
I really need to tips on staying calm and not loosing it??? As im so very close to it......

patchwork_cat

mum2twinsx2 wrote: »

One of my little angels;) has turnt into the devil child:mad: over the weekend.

I currently use time out, as has always previously worked and taking away priviledges. She spent majority of the weekend on time out. She just being plain mean, kicking biting her twin sister and little brothers. Doing things like snatching toys away food dummies. Had the same sort of behaviour at party we went to.
Everything is such a hassle everything is:
No I won't put my shoes on."
"No I won't go to bed."
and the list goes on.
She disagrees with everything. At moment im between putting back on time out [for last hour been putting her back on, damn you supernanny rules] she as soon as we got home little boy next door came to play she just went up and booted him and hit him round the head with a barbie.
This morning school was a nightmare, she didnt want to go had and spent whole time at home creating havoc, so ended up scooping her up under my arm pushing double buggy and keep eye on her sister from the car. When we got there she wouldnt do anything but lay under table screaming.
The teacher rang at two pm saying could i wait until the rest class had gone to talk. So knew the poop had gone down at school, i gave her opportunity to fess up when i picked her up but she proceed to be imaginative with truth [lie basically] about situations that had happenned.
Both myself and teacher tryed to get out of her why she is being like this. God honest truth before the past couple days she wouldnt say boo to a ghost, odd tantrum and squabbles with her sister. But not to this extent. She totally a different child.

Do they do boot camps for children??:rotfl: Im hoping its just strive for independance and will pass???? Her twin sister has packed a bag and wants to stay with her grandma....
I really need to tips on staying calm and not loosing it??? As im so very close to it......

Why was her sister in the car?

Sublime_2

Have you watched any of the SuperNanny series? They're good for picking up tips re: behavioral issues. Also perhaps a simple reward chart?

I'll be printing one out for my naughty 6 year old tonight.

mum2twinsx2

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Why was her sister in the car?

sorry missed out the too the school bit. teach me for doing two things at once

dizzybuff

It seems to be a four year old thing, they try the patience once more. my 3 year old is going through it early as all his freinds are 4 . But hes just coming into his own again. Its a new independance thing . Good luck xxx

balletshoes

sometimes at that age there is just no reasoning with them - at all. keep doing what you're doing, if you stay consistent she'll not have anything to react against, and hopefully will turn herself around again.

soupdragon10

Has anything upset her that you are aware of? Does sound completely out of character and such a quick change too.

If this isn't the case then maybe if she says she's not getting dressed, instead of arguing say 'fine but you won't be able to..... without clothes on, so you will miss out on the fun'. Maybe a game in the garden, painting at the table, make it something that she won't want to miss so that she can see that her choices have consequences.

mum2twinsx2

Thanks for your replies. I know only stage, and wont be forever [I hope and pray...] just more surviving the `stage` to be honest..

The only thing i can think thats changed is i split with the childrens dad in october, and he has been very slack with seeing them. Like once since boxing day theyve seen him. I asked if she is missing daddy and she said `no he is boring...`

patchwork_cat

I only highlighted that bit as if her sister was off school ill it might explain it. So her twin was in school, too? Apart from the obvious things that could be wrong and dealing with them ala supernanny way with reward charts etc. Have you thought about doing a bit of child yoga and not so much meditation, but quiet time? Are you struggling to give them all plenty of time, ( I would be!)Perhaps some one to one with each girl and then just them together when the boys are asleep?

mum2twinsx2

patchwork_cat wrote: »

I only highlighted that bit as if her sister was off school ill it might explain it. So her twin was in school, too? Apart from the obvious things that could be wrong and dealing with them ala supernanny way with reward charts etc. Have you thought about doing a bit of child yoga and not so much meditation, but quiet time? Are you struggling to give them all plenty of time, ( I would be!)Perhaps some one to one with each girl and then just them together when the boys are asleep?

I will totally hands up admit i dont spend enough time with them seperatley. Is finding the balance. Its probabley why she dislikes me alot at the mo:(.

Bedtime wasnt too much hassle, all the kicking an screaming must have been tiresome as she has flaked out now.

Ive just started a behaviour reward chart [thanks to supernanny] and thinking up some golden rules.

meritaten

so what happened on Friday or Saturday? to turn a little angel into a monster? Think hun, this sort of behaviour sounds like she is in a rage with someone. doesnt have to be you - you may just be getting the brunt of it. did her sister upset her?
This may sound silly - but did she EAT something which has triggered this? my son couldnt eat foods/sweets with artificial colourings, and episodes like this could last up to 48 hours before the danm stuff was out of his system!
I do hope you get your angel child back!