Weekly Flylady Thread 17th January 2011

sockdrawer

pigpen wrote: »

Maybe he should message back

'Did you know where we lived? Did you have a phone number? And surely if you wanted to see us you would have made the effort even if it meant getting a court order'

:p

It is water under the bridge now and even if the children do get in touch with him it'll take about 5 minutes for them to form an opinion

And.. :T:T re CSA hopefully you will get a big fat cheque and KH can moan about that too!!

I think that's what he's planning to do, along with a few choice words about how he regards hubby as his dad (well, according to his big sister with whom he had a long talk last night and who phoned me later on thinking I might be upset) I-rather wisely I think- refrained from commenting too much about it to DS after he showed me the message. That old "don't want to influence the children either way" instinct kicking in! Hubby thinks he should message back and not just ignore it. Both DD1 and DS1 remember him, and also what he was like, and continues to be like, so it seems they've already made up their minds. DD2 and DS2 don't remember him at all given that DS2 was 2 when he last saw him and DD2 was 4. I think I was more cross about KH doing his usual and making it all about him, when it was DS1's birthday. He could have waited a few days, or sent a birthday card or something! He did virtually the same thing on DD1's 18th and she told him exactly what she thought of him.
Re the CSA. Yes, well that was a shocker in a good way. Phoned them and found out they've put a deductions of earnings order on him, (given his behaviour) so maybe, just maybe we'll get something the middle of next month.:beer:
Off to pull sheets of the bed.
HHC 11 00 anyone?

toochoosey

Back from the library with three good books, so going to do a HHC with Sockdrawer before I get my nose stuck into them....see you in 30 xx

Mollina_Girl

I'm running to catch up with sockdrawer and toochoosey!!

pigpen

socks.. I agree it would be rude to just ignore KH but choice words from DS would be appropriate and for hubby being his dad.. What a compliment! He needs to add at the beginning.. 'thanks for remembering my birthday' lol .. and maybe 'Can I have a card with cash in future' ..

toochoosey

How did you get on Sockdrawer amd Mollinagirl?

I don't think I got much done off the list but..
Stripped DD's bed
Put it in the WM
Put a load of clean clothes away
S+S'd the kitchen
Scrubbed the downstairs loo
Vac'd through downstairs

Going to get some food ready now and will have a look through the books I got......catch up soon......xx

Brighton_belle

Didn't do any flying yesterday, felt lousy: think my meds were playing up. Still sunshining today and feeling better.
Master bedroom actually not bad so I think I will tackle yesterday's jobs instead and skip MB this week.

When we open the front door, the hall is actually clear, as a) no kids, lol, and b) it's fairly narrow and we hate tripping over stuff.
But there is some clutter growing in the upstairs hallway and it all needs a good sweep/hoover.
Area understairs is just, cleaning tools hanging up, freezer and recycling bins and no rubbish.


Yesterday gave away:

• old but working blender
• car vacuum cleaner
• spare carbon monoxide alarm
• spare 4 socket extension lead

Getting rid of more of my stuff to make more room for OH's:

Dining room filled (totally) with OH's stuff he has finally moved it from where it was stored. Plus quite a bit in our front room too. So I am helping him gradually sort all this. Yesterday I shredded 15 years worth of petrol receipts:eek:. That is just a tiny sample. Introducing him to the idea of "letting go and moving on":D

Honestly sockdrawer - I despair of fathers like KH. Utterly selfish. Hope your DS1 is able to deal with it and tell him what he thinks. Huge compliment to your DH. There are a lot of fab men around like him too thankfully.

Serena - that was a very helpful post, thank you:T
Everything crossed for you shysarah at the med exam today. Hope you come away feeling heard and understood.

seafarers_wife

Sockdrawer Let DS reply in his own time to KH you've done an amazing job and DS will be well aware of what you've gone through and will let KH know in his own time. Im sure DS didnt appreciate the message anymore than you did.

right my list

right my list ....

pair socks
wash bathroom floor

main list
shredding
filing
pack clothes
pack wedding shoes
Monday ~ Kitchen, Utility and Dining areas - to be done after manager has been wed pm.
Level One
Sweep and mop floors - cant hoover till later because of the time, then floors being steam cleaned
Level Three
Throw away 10 items you have kept for ages but have absolutely no use for!.. - bread maker being decluttered but thats it!
Extras
Muck out the fridge.. - just dont want to do
Muck out the oven and hob - being steam cleaned at some point this afternoon
Muck out the microwave.. or other small appliance.. also being steam cleaned at some point this afternoon
Tuesday ~ Hall, Stairs and Landing! - to be done after my manager has been wednesday pm
Level One
vacuum floors.
Tidy everything you can see when the front door is open!
Level Two
Dust and deweb.. don't forget lightbulbs and shades!
Scrub front door.. inside and out!
Level Three
Empty and declutter the cupboard under the stairs.. you do not need the junk that has been in there for a million years!
Empty Vacuum cleaner, wash filters and clean brushes once you have finished vaccing.. leave to fully dry before rebuilding machine!
Extras
Wipe paintwork and door knobs
Wednesday ~ Master bedroom/second room
Level One
Strip, wash and replace the bedding
Level Two
Vacuum the floors.. and the cobwebs!
Level Three
Wash curtains and nets and windows
Empty and wash out upstairs bins
Extras
Sort through one box of stuff
Ring someone you love but haven't spoken to in a while.

Mollina_Girl

In my HHC I managed the following:

Wednesday ~ Master bedroom/second room
Level One
Level Two
Vacuum the floors.. and the cobwebs! - done
Level Three
Wash curtains and nets and windows – cleaned windows, no nets and curtains are fine
Empty and wash out upstairs bins - done
Binbag dance!

Extras

1. Sort through one box of stuff
2. Find 5 items to sell/give away.. and list for sale if necessary
3. Ring someone you love but haven't spoken to in a while.
4. 15 minute sort out of those random bits of gibble that are strewn about the flat surfaces in your room!

Dailies
Tidy the kitchen.
Unload/reload DW.
Wipe surfaces.
Empty bin
Sweep & mop kitchen floor.
Tidy and S&S bathroom.
Tidy and S&S living room
S&S study, wipe over PC desk and keep free from clutter.
Hoover downstairs i.e. living room, hallway, bathroom, dining room and study.


Laundry – bedding washed, dried and put away.

Then my daughter rang so I was on the phone to her for 20mins so that's why I'm late posting.

I'm just going to have a cuppa and set on with my dailies.

xx

ETA toochoosey - did you get the book you wanted?

poohbear59

I got turned down for my business loan and am feeling carp. DH says he is going to take me out somewhere different so I can have the day away from all the paperwork.

On the positive side I have already been in touch with two more banks. Flying so far has consisted of tidying away all my papers to do with previous application. As Toots says 'head down....'

TD on and DW emptied.

sockdrawer

Hi All,
Back from my HHC, thank you to toochoosey and mollina girl for joining me.
Managed to strip beds, get a wash or two on and clean out a jumpers drawer. Relined it with pretty paper

Seafarers, Brighton belle and Pigpen
Thank you for being so supportive. Yes, it's a huge complement to hubby that the children feel that way about him. He totally deserves it too.
Just had a phonecall from my caseworker at the CSA to "bring me up to date" all good so far (it wasn't her I spoke with yesterday, so I was obviously on her list to phone) just what I was told about the DOE order, how much to be paid, and how much arrears. Then she made a strange comment about there being one more action she is going to take, then went a bit quiet about it. Said she would be "looking into his financial situation" but couldn't speak to me about it just yet, and would tell me more once the team had finished doing that. Very Very odd.

pigpen wrote: »

socks.. I agree it would be rude to just ignore KH but choice words from DS would be appropriate and for hubby being his dad.. What a compliment! He needs to add at the beginning.. 'thanks for remembering my birthday' lol .. and maybe 'Can I have a card with cash in future' ..

Snort!!! That was the undignified sound of me falling over laughing at the cash thing :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
Poohbear59 Really sorry to hear about the loan, and glad you are having a day away from paperwork. x
Wednesday ~ Master bedroom/second room
Level One
and replace the bedding
Level Two
For those who have been hiding stuff... Tidy under the bed!!!
Level Three
Empty and wash out upstairs bins
Binbag dance!



Extras

1. Sort through one box of stuff
2. Find 5 items to sell/give away.. and list for sale if necessary
3. Ring someone you love but haven't spoken to in a while.
4. 15 minute sort out of those random bits of gibble that are strewn about the flat surfaces in your room!

Monday DONE
Extras DONE
Tuesday

~ Hall, Stairs and Landing!
Level One
Tidy everything you can see when the front door is open!
Level Two
Scrub front door.. inside and out!
Level Three DONE





Extras

1. Wipe paintwork and door knobs
2. Sort coats and bags and shoes

Investigate fresh places for roadsigns

Speak to MIL regarding roanes and a roofer. Spoke to DH who will sort it out... gah! Too late!!!!
sewing re duvet covers.

1/2 hour Italian
1/2 hour photoshop
Make Wills
Take inventory of old shop stock WIP Done 5 hours
Poo Patrol
VAT
Finish online accounting
Personal accounts

Inventory current shop stock WIP done 3 hours

work through cleaning house pillows and duvets replacing as needed.
Phone sis & Dad... guilt guilt guilt
Added to daily list food and water for birds(Thanks Dusty)
Clean out remaining crafting boxes
10 crochet squares
HHHW
Finish a dressmaking project every two weeks
1 hr Yoga
Drink water
Psoriasis creams
DD2 1/2 hour violin priactice
1/2 hour dreamweaver
re-check accounts pending VAT at end of month
Do my spreadsheets
Update trade stand database Main ones finished. Speculatives to follow
Urge DH on to sort out his dentist bill
Sort out family pictures cd for sis, bil and Mil.
Remember to remind game dealer regarding order of pheasants, duck and partridge while it's still cheap Reminded him but will do again
Knit some of everlasting jumper. You know you love the jumper, so you deserve to be able to wear it Doing some every evening