Pregnant married with 2 kids and only £5 till end of month

nu1isit?

honeybear68 wrote: »

I must admit having read all this through again I agree, I often say you can't help someone if they can't help themselves: my dad always said to me you can offer advice and you can listen to advice but you dont have to take the advice, I guess in this case it's the later, shame I've done rather well with all the advice and comments have been taken on board.

theres a lot of help on here and a lot of support I do hope sugarpants comes back and takes on board what has been said.

Do you think she's coming back honeybear68? She's not replied to anyones posts...It would be nice to know her and the family are okay. Hopefully they've at least found a temporary solution for now (for the food shortage)...But will work on a long term plan later.

Savvy_sewing

nu1isit? wrote: »

Do you think she's coming back honeybear68? She's not replied to anyones posts...It would be nice to know her and the family are okay. Hopefully they've at least found a temporary solution for now (for the food shortage)...But will work on a long term plan later.

sugarpants posted on the OS threads a couple of days ago.
So she has taken some advice and is looking for solutions there. I hope she finds the challenges a help and gets the bug like a lot of us!.

honeybear68

Thats good to know that she is looking around the boards, hopefully sugarpants will come back.

dollybeads

SeriouslySeekingtoSave wrote: »

I totally agree with this. I know that people sometimes have problems with money but if they are here for advice then if you have the time please remember to be a little gentle. You may be completely right about 'well it's good advice and if the person doesn't wise up then they are going to be in a huge amount of trouble and it will be all their stupid fault' but if you really want to help someone, then a kind word can help a spoonsful of salt go down a little easier. If you don't care that being harsh can scare people who are already in trouble away, then are you really here to help or maybe just here to feel good about yourself?

I could be wrong and I don't want to get blasted by people who disagree with me. I just know that Martin set up these forums to be supportive. Yes, I agree with constructive critique but remember some people are hurting and maybe not so good with money as you might be. We all have faults and realising it and asking for help is the first step.

This is a really lovely post, I hope that when I am next in need you might be available or someone like you to post on my thread. (I have had some fantastic support and advice by the way). Am totally stupid with money but working hard on it now thanks to MSE and DFW. Well done you for being so very kind, encouragement has always worked wonders for me. Dolly x :A

cyclura

nu1isit? wrote: »

I don't know if it's any help sugarpants, but ways we've saved money on the little 'uns, essential costs in the past is:

*the wife breastfed them both;
*reusable nappies (not for the squeamish, but your gonna have to be close to poo at some point if you've got kids ). If you don't want to, or it's not practical for you to use them, own brands at boots, asda, tesco are often just as good;
*the wife would puree the food we were having, so the little un could have the same. Saves on expensive jars. If you want jars there's plenty of supermarket own brands, or wait until the main brand has deals...
*If you need prams, etc. carboots, thrift stalls/markets, ebay. We payed £6 for one :j, that was a 'get by' pram (it looked newish). It lasted 7 months, thats not bad going - under a pound a months use. Some people pay hundreds for a pram they'll use for just over a year and a bit. Then it ends up in a skip :eek:...
*Clothes, toys etc. can be bought at, charity shops, car boots and NCT sales. We've saved a bit in the past doing that. Some people have turned their noses up at us, when they find out we've bought stuff there. But if we can buy good quality clothes for £1.50, that should cost 100% more, then we'll do it. Who's more fool when they hand over their money . Kids grow out of stuff pretty quick, and get bored of 'stuff' quickly too. As you'll know having two too.

Hope this helps in some way sugarpants, and good luck. Hope you and your family are okay....

we do/did exactly the same and it saves a fortune, I am one of the few out of my friends that does not have to find the extra £10-15 every week for nappies etc as I just bung mine in the wash. If you are poo squeemish I do recommend boots own nappy liners as you just throw them away and they are only about £2.50 per packet (which lasts ages). You are not working so its not going to be too hard for you to put a wash on every 2-3 days with nappies, I was in full time work (on maternity leave atm) and did it no problems, its all about routine.

As the other poster said puree your own food or BLW your child, breast feed and dont be shy about going second hand with toys and clothes, they get through them so fast it seems daft to buy new.