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Conga Rats on the temp promotion SA, if you want to go full time with them will this stand you in good stead? I hope the door slamming has stopped!Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for thou art crunchy and good with catsup
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Hi SA, glad you are settling in at your job, sounds like you are enjoying it!
Hope it continues to go well for you, DJ:pB&SC No. 298
Life`s Tragedy is that we get OLD too soon
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Watching Royal Wedding on tv. It looks amazing. You could hear a pin drop outside!Aiming for a minimal spend 20220
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Bet even the Fatty's are silent!Aiming for a minimal spend 20220
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Wow, a few of you have popped by that I haven't heard from in a while.... even the elusive dojoman
The Royal Wedding was fantastic I thought - she looked lovely and it seemed to go really smoothly without too much starchiness.
And Now........
On a serious note - I was reading a few diaries last night and there is one particular diary on the board that just really gets under my skin. So much so that I was planning on closing my diary and leaving MSE today. I persuaded myself to wait until I had calmed down and think about it, and then.... my mates have all posted and I realise that I should let it go, but not without writing this.....
You may say that anyone has a right to write a diary here but we must remember that we are here in a bid to become or stay Debt Free and to help each other. If someone is continually writing with an all consuming negativity and not trying (in my view) to help themselves then how does that affect others who may be in difficult situations and don't need to be faced with daily tales of "woe is me" or even threats of suicide? This is not something either to write or imply lightly and if someone genuinely feels that desperate then they should seek help, not from virtual friends but from real, professional sources. This is not a phase with this person, it has been going on for months.
I once stupidly attempted something that ended with a 10 day stay in hospital and when I witnessed the effect that it had on my friends and family I realised just how selfish an act it had been and I sought and continued to seek help to this day. People often comment on my positivity - I have grasped opportunites with both hands even if it is a minimum wage job, for which I am hugely overqualified, if it means ending a spell of unemployment. Slowly and surely I have now reached a place where I am relatively happy.
This diarist owes it to themselves, and to the people trying to help them, to now do something about their misfortunes rather than put them out in the public domain on a daily basis. Negativity is not a good thing on a forum where people are struggling, with lots of things, and want to help and be helped.
I understand completely if anyone feels that I have overstepped the mark in this post, but I speak as someone who has quite possibly had much more than their fair share of misfortune - especially in the last few years. Life is what you make it, in my opinion. MSE provides me with friendship and camaraderie, and there is a wealth of advice and support on here.
I may have a couple of days away from the board, without posting, but I will be thinking of you all.
SA2011 - New year, New start, New me[STRIKE]Planning on [/STRIKE] making my dreams a reality0 -
SA just stay away from that poster if possible, post on your diary (and others that you enjoy)Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for thou art crunchy and good with catsup
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Hi SA
I know who you are talking about.
I have tried talking to them and saying about posting more positively etc, it gets their back up.
At the end of the day it is their diary and I think you won't be seeing much more posting on it soon. Or at least posting of the negative thoughts.
I know usually if someone is talking in such a negative way, it is a cry for help, as those who want to, will do the task and not keep talking about it.
This doesn't seem to be a cry for help, more like a putting down of thoughts, working through their feelings.
But can you not just ignore their diary? x0 -
I understand what you are saying, SA, but why do you feel you need to stay away, or even think about closing your own diary? There are probably a hundred diaries that aren't like the one you are talking about, and just that one that is. I don't disagree with anything you said, but just don't read it if it upsets/annoys you. I - like most people on here - pick and choose the diaries I read. There are just a few that I look for and read every new post - yours, Moo2Moo's, Cheery Daff's, Copperjar's, Lionheartedgirl's - about three that I check regularly, but don't post on, and a couple I dip in and out of. I have probably looked at most of the others, but if they aren't for me, for one reason or another, then I don't keep up with them.
Please don't even think about going away - for a few days or for ever. We need you - for your positivity (and gobbiness). Please."Green pastures are before me,
Which yet I have not seen;"
I'd love to be a good example - instead, I am a horrible warning.0 -
startagain wrote: »Wow, a few of you have popped by that I haven't heard from in a while.... even the elusive dojoman
The Royal Wedding was fantastic I thought - she looked lovely and it seemed to go really smoothly without too much starchiness.
And Now........
On a serious note - I was reading a few diaries last night and there is one particular diary on the board that just really gets under my skin. So much so that I was planning on closing my diary and leaving MSE today. I persuaded myself to wait until I had calmed down and think about it, and then.... my mates have all posted and I realise that I should let it go, but not without writing this.....
You may say that anyone has a right to write a diary here but we must remember that we are here in a bid to become or stay Debt Free and to help each other. If someone is continually writing with an all consuming negativity and not trying (in my view) to help themselves then how does that affect others who may be in difficult situations and don't need to be faced with daily tales of "woe is me" or even threats of suicide? This is not something either to write or imply lightly and if someone genuinely feels that desperate then they should seek help, not from virtual friends but from real, professional sources. This is not a phase with this person, it has been going on for months.
I once stupidly attempted something that ended with a 10 day stay in hospital and when I witnessed the effect that it had on my friends and family I realised just how selfish an act it had been and I sought and continued to seek help to this day. People often comment on my positivity - I have grasped opportunites with both hands even if it is a minimum wage job, for which I am hugely overqualified, if it means ending a spell of unemployment. Slowly and surely I have now reached a place where I am relatively happy.
This diarist owes it to themselves, and to the people trying to help them, to now do something about their misfortunes rather than put them out in the public domain on a daily basis. Negativity is not a good thing on a forum where people are struggling, with lots of things, and want to help and be helped.
I understand completely if anyone feels that I have overstepped the mark in this post, but I speak as someone who has quite possibly had much more than their fair share of misfortune - especially in the last few years. Life is what you make it, in my opinion. MSE provides me with friendship and camaraderie, and there is a wealth of advice and support on here.
I may have a couple of days away from the board, without posting, but I will be thinking of you all.
SA
Brilliant post SA, a pity that not all the peeps on here are as positive as you. I have a very good idea about who you are referring to;) and if it is the same person, I had a run in with them a couple of months ago, and was actually accused of being a bully:eek: It made me think very hard about posting on MSE if this was the response I was going to get. Whilst I read your diary most days, I actually spend most of my time on the BR forum, where, if I can I try and help/advise people who are going through a very stressful time. Please keep on posting as I find your words very uplifting and your attitude brilliant.:pB&SC No. 298
Life`s Tragedy is that we get OLD too soon
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OMG I go away to a party and i miss all this. SA I know what you are saying but dont you worry about anyone else. You have enough on your plate. We all applaud you in your sterling efforts, do you realise how many of us you cheer up with your winning battles? You overcome obstacles every day and find joy in small things. And we all love Mr T. I want to know if he will ever meet Mrs T and if there will be little T's? One day we may have a reunion too. I want to know if Mr Dojo has a white martial arts outfit. I shall insist on KungFu Fighting being played in the background. We can only do this if you are there. You have too many friends who would be genuinely gutted if you left. There are so many fantastic diaries - look at Firewalkers, 3dogs', unsubscribe from any that are causing you distress. I had to a while ago for the sake of my health.
Just because they don't think like us they still have a right to be here. Martin Lewis is not a dictator this is an open forum, anyone can post but we must exercise caution in not getting too involved and upset about things that are entirely out of our control. Even more importantly you have a right to not look especially if it is draining you. We have all had to step back from situations, remember me a few months ago? so many of you helped me. I can't help someone so i walk away, there are many motives for having a diary and we can't understand everyone all of the time. Sometimes you just have to shrug your shoulders and let it go. I have unsubscribed from some diaries and whilst i wish the people well i know i cannot help everyone all of the time without it impinging on my own health. I think you are stressed about other things maybe and this is the final straw. Dont look sweetie. Focus on happy diaries, Wordsmith's, Firewalker's, Copperjar's etc.
Please dont let it get you down. Keep doing what you do so brilliantly. Focus on yourself you are in a far happier place and have so many fantastic things to look forward to. We all think so much of you - you are such a bright light on this site.Aiming for a minimal spend 20220
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