Landlord selling house and I'm 6 mths pregnant

thequant

abby1234519 wrote: »

I'm looking at places taking those up to 3 months old. I have been in contact with a few childminders in Leeds but they are all apparently in Meanwood and I am in Burley. So that means going out to a childminder and then back in to uni. I'll only do it if its cheap!

Nursery places at your uni oversubcribed are they ?

Wee_Willy_Harris

thequant wrote: »

Nursery places at your uni oversubcribed are they ?

You really are an odious little man, aren't you?

sp1987

thequant wrote: »

Nursery places at your uni oversubcribed are they ?

One of my old uni's female professors had 3 under 5. So I would expect that answer to be a big yes, except not from the students. :rotfl:

neverdespairgirl

GDB2222 wrote: »

We used to send our kids to nursery school, but not until they were over two, and then only for half a day. The bursery schools weren't interested until the kids were house-trained. Are there nurseries taking very small babies these days?

Nursery schools are the Kindergarten type - 2 or 3 mornings a week, from the age of 2 or so.

Nurseries are for childcare - often open from, say, 7am to 6pm, although not all the children will be there all the time. They usually take babies from about 2-3 months old.

silvercar

abby1234519 wrote: »

I'm looking at places taking those up to 3 months old. I have been in contact with a few childminders in Leeds but they are all apparently in Meanwood and I am in Burley. So that means going out to a childminder and then back in to uni. I'll only do it if its cheap!

I would think you would struggle to find suitable care for a very little one that is cheap. Young babies require very intensive caring and its probably only possible to look after one at a time if you are going to do it properly, so the cost will be prohibitive.

Add to that, the 3-in-1 or 4-in-1 injections are given at 2, 3 and 4 months old, so I doubt you want your baby mixing with a lot of other babies for an extended length of time before at least the second jab.

Nursery places for babies over 6 months will probably be much easier to find.

abby1234519

thequant wrote: »

Nursery places at your uni oversubcribed are they ?

Yes Leeds University's nursery is over subscribed on some days of the week.

abby1234519

silvercar wrote: »

I would think you would struggle to find suitable care for a very little one that is cheap. Young babies require very intensive caring and its probably only possible to look after one at a time if you are going to do it properly, so the cost will be prohibitive.

Add to that, the 3-in-1 or 4-in-1 injections are given at 2, 3 and 4 months old, so I doubt you want your baby mixing with a lot of other babies for an extended length of time before at least the second jab.

Nursery places for babies over 6 months will probably be much easier to find.

I can't wait till 6 months, I'd have to teach myself semester 1. Which to be honest wouldn't be too hard. I've already gotten the handbooks off my tutors I plan to spend my summers bedrest starting the work! For instance in "The Victorian Novel" I know the first assignment is a 750 essay plan for a question we make up. And thats perfect for me as I tend to do it anyway!

But at the moment it looks like I'll be having a childminder as I am veering towards the more personal approach ie Joshua getting attention!!

Just have to sign my contracts for my new house and get the ball rolling with saving the rent for July, confirming childcare, getting my exam out of the way and my last 2 assignments done this month then I can relax!

silvercar

But at the moment it looks like I'll be having a childminder as I am veering towards the more personal approach ie Joshua getting attention!!

I would start looking now. IMHO there are a very wide variety of childminders around, some you wouldn't want to leave your pet goldfish with. A lot of childminders won't take babies under a year as childminders generally need 3 children to make the money pay and babies require too much attention. (or at least too much attention if you are going to do a decent job.) You may find those that are (a) good and (b) prepared to take very little ones are more expensive.

GDB2222

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Nurseries are for childcare - often open from, say, 7am to 6pm, although not all the children will be there all the time. They usually take babies from about 2-3 months old.

Hmm, yes I am obviously very old-fashioned, and quite taken aback. I guess this is the price that working mothers pay these days, but somehow my mother worked without sending us all off to nursery at that age. She didn't do it all herself either, as we had live-in mother's helps, but we were at least being cared for in our home surroundings and by the same people all the time. I know I am being judgmental, but it doesn't seem right to send a virtual newborn off to be looked after by strangers for 12 hours a day. Of course, someone in Abby's position has some really hard choices to make and just needs to make the best of a difficult situation she didn't plan to get into, but for ordinary working mums I wonder whether the balance is right?

I hope I'm not making anyone feel guilty - that wasn't the point - I'm just musing aloud about whether people are being pushed more and more in the direction of putting career ahead of kids' wellbeing. At one time, women in the civil service had to resign if they got married**, but maybe we've gone too far the other way.

** This led one rather amazing barrister I knew to have her children out of wedlock - this was in the 1920's, so she was well ahead of her time. She was still working well into her seventies, known as Miss XX, and cheerfully showing off pictures of her grandchildren.

I'll stop rambling now.


Edit: Joshua? You know his name already?

abby1234519

GDB2222 wrote: »

Hmm, yes I am obviously very old-fashioned, and quite taken aback. I guess this is the price that working mothers pay these days, but somehow my mother worked without sending us all off to nursery at that age. She didn't do it all herself either, as we had live-in mother's helps, but we were at least being cared for in our home surroundings and by the same people all the time. I know I am being judgmental, but it doesn't seem right to send a virtual newborn off to be looked after by strangers for 12 hours a day. Of course, someone in Abby's position has some really hard choices to make and just needs to make the best of a difficult situation she didn't plan to get into, but for ordinary working mums I wonder whether the balance is right?

I hope I'm not making anyone feel guilty - that wasn't the point - I'm just musing aloud about whether people are being pushed more and more in the direction of putting career ahead of kids' wellbeing. At one time, women in the civil service had to resign if they got married**, but maybe we've gone too far the other way.

** This led one rather amazing barrister I knew to have her children out of wedlock - this was in the 1920's, so she was well ahead of her time. She was still working well into her seventies, known as Miss XX, and cheerfully showing off pictures of her grandchildren.

I'll stop rambling now.


Edit: Joshua? You know his name already?

Scan shows a 75% percent chance he is a boy, although the er object between his legs could maybe have been a fist, he refused to open his legs, was more concerned with fighting off the invading ultrasound lady throwing a few punches at the wand thing!

So as I love the name Joshua, I've started calling him that, was better than IT or the Thing.

I agree abotu the childcare, I always had the romantic image of being a stay home mummy, but the reality of my particular situation is I need to get the last two years out of the way and then I can think about whether I want to go onto post graduate study or take a couple of years to raise him to school age before doing something like that. I already don't like the idea of being away from him (and he isn't born!) whilst I am at uni but I'll just have to get all my work done ultra fast so I can spend time amusing myself with him.

It will be a hard slog but the end of the road is much prettier than if I didn't finish.

I just don't know how to find a reputable childminder, first time and all that jazz