Adopting when getting married

Britwife

Strapped, I just wanted to add that I'm sorry that happened to your husband. I do agree that school's shouldn't just change a name without legal proof. Obviously, his ex couldn't get a name change. Could he possibly try again.

I know it's hard but at least it's just at school and is just a known by. She will always have her daddy's name and that's the name that will be on all her legal documents.

esmy

Have a look here - gives you the basics about step parent adoption.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Adoptionfosteringandchildrenincare/AdoptionAndFostering/DG_10021340

HTH

edit; sorry already posted above!

Strapped

Britwife wrote: »

Strapped, I just wanted to add that I'm sorry that happened to your husband. I do agree that school's shouldn't just change a name without legal proof. Obviously, his ex couldn't get a name change. Could he possibly try again.

I know it's hard but at least it's just at school and is just a known by. She will always have her daddy's name and that's the name that will be on all her legal documents.

Thanks, it's become a moot point now (10 years later) because she's turned 18. BUT - it wasn't just school; her mum got her a passport in her "known-by" name, and registered her at the doctors, etc in that name too. So all her records are in her "known-by" name, so that has become her de facto legal name.

lilac_rainbow

veekay wrote: »

We went through the process two years ago.
The first condition was that we had to have been married for atleast a year before we started the process even though we'd lived together for four years already. Assessment took six months.
They required written consent from the biological father and talked to my family and my husbands family too.
Takes a lot of patience.:)

This was enough to stop us going through the process, that and we were told the ds would need to prove understanding of who his biological father was. I have never lied to him but I felt he was too young to go through it at the time. In all honesty, as time has gone on, the less important it became. My ds does know all about his biological father and his daddy is still very bit his daddy

lilac_rainbow

Cutterby wrote: »

Hello, just wondering what would be the best way to go about this? I've had a look on the internet and it seems you can change your child's name online through the several 'deed poll' websites - providing you have parental responsibility and the consent of the other parent (if needed) - but as there doesn't seem to be one 'official' site I'm confused as to if every site really can offer a legal name change? And for so cheap - starting at £10?

The story is, me and my husband want him to adopt my daughter (she wants it too) - we've been married for 15 months, together for 3 years, baby on the way and I'd really like for us all to have the same name - DD's biological father has been absent for 4 years, IS registered on the birth certificate but doesn't have parental responsibility (as registered before December 2003) - and for my husband to be recognised as DD's father - we were going to make an appointment at the CAB to see how we'd go about him adopting her and us changing her name but if we could start the name change process as soon as, and follow up with the adoption at a slower pace, that would be ideal! So could someone please point me in the direction of a 'good' website? Or do we have to go and pay solictors fees? As you may expect, money isn't exactly in plentiful supply at the minute so we'd be grateful to avoid that route...

I used these:

http://www.deedpoll.org.uk/

Had to write a letter confirming i had sole parental responsibility for ds and have used the paperwork to get a passport since