Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

thorsoak

Mooloo -you HAVE to say firmly - and like a broken record BUT THIS IS NOT YOUR HOME!

Hard as it is with your girls' learning difficulties, they have to learn that they are now Grownups (albeit young grownups) and that THEY DO NOT LIVE WITH THEIR PARENT!

If necessary - put the cat among the pigeons and suggest that as their father hasn've moved (has he?) that his home might be theirs .........

BUT ON NO ACCOUNT MOOLOO SHOULD THEY COME BACK TO YOU!

Savvy_sewing

Thier father lives at the otherside of the county. Kettering direction. He remarried (not long after I did actually), and has always just been with his new(er) wife and daughter. He never could cope with them when they were little, and only puts in a token appearance every now and then, on a blue moon! But I know where you are coming from.

I think I would be a nervous wreck if I had any of them back at home, and the rest of my hair would turn grey! if not be pulled out!!

Time to get on, get DGD ready for Nursery. She has just dropped her cereal in her lap! Here we go.

floss2

Mooloo, maybe you could say that the Housing wouldn't agree to her coming home as she is an adult, and also that it may have an effect on your benefits & fostering money. If she argues about DS being there, while he is at college he is still technically a "child" until the September after his 18th birthday while you are receiving child benefit for him.

Savvy_Sue

And remember, NO is a complete sentence ...

gizmo111

floss2 wrote: »

Mooloo, maybe you could say that the Housing wouldn't agree to her coming home as she is an adult, and also that it may have an effect on your benefits & fostering money. If she argues about DS being there, while he is at college he is still technically a "child" until the September after his 18th birthday while you are receiving child benefit for him.

Don't know about housing but I think SS would have something to say about the emotional impact this would have on DGD. It would be very destabilsing for her to have her mum living with her for a while then moving out, the child won't know who is her parental figure.
Tough times ahead Moo's. - reckon you could do with this :grouphug: a hug from us all.

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

Don't know about housing but I think SS would have something to say about the emotional impact this would have on DGD. It would be very destabilsing for her to have her mum living with her for a while then moving out, the child won't know who is her parental figure.
Tough times ahead Moo's. - reckon you could do with this :grouphug: a hug from us all.

Tough Love called for. I am not allowing Twin1 or twin2 to come home for that matter.
When/if DS moves out, then I will move DGD into the bigger room and use the smaller room for my sewing. As it is all over the place at the moment.
My focus is on DGD.
The funding for the solicitors fees has now been agreed. I believe the letter has gone to the legal department and once they have agreed this to my solicitor we are then able to apply to the courts for the Special Guardianship.
The funding of £120.44 a week has been agreed for two years.
So this is the basic fostering allowance minus the childbenefit for a second child. It is also without the birthday, christmas or holiday moneys, which is about another £700 odd. But at least then DGD will not be a LAC and will be my responsibility and I can make all the decisions for her.
Mum will have to up her game and find the support from else where. I am not withdrawing the support I offer, as such, but I will steer her into the hands of the correct people. (I hope). That can assess her, and deal with her needs on a more regular basis.
She seems to have picked up with an old school friend who works with a youth club, church club etc and he seems to be taking her here and there, and has helped her apply for a job where he works. So we will see?
Twin2 is still not back from her jaunt with the other girl I am not keen on. (Used to be the bain of twin1's problems a while back, the one that threatened to "Burn me in my home one!!" Nice girl.
That was when i was first in the cottage I think?
Today I will have to venture to take DGD to Nursery, then her Mum home, this afternoon Molly's daughter comes to give me a hand, and he health visitor is due to meet DGD at 3pm.
DS is surfacing now and off to College. So we will see what disciplinary he ends up with. Ihope that he will no loose his place. He still talks of continuing with his studies next year? So I hope he will scrape through this course and get to grips with the work ethic.He really could do with a part time job.

Molly is due to go back for that Transfussion today, so lets hope that there are no more false starts etc! She has had enough.!

I lay awake earlier with all sorts of ideas going through my head, for bags and other accessories, after a visit to Bicester Village with Molly yesterday, the arrival of my latest Sew magazine, (which has a bag on the pattern sheet), and watcking Gok on the TV.
I just wish I could drawer/sketch so I could get my ideas onto Paper before I forget them!.

MatyMoo

Hugs to you and Molly that today is a better day.

Savvy_sewing

I believe Molly may have had her transfussion today. She definitely went for it anyway.!
Had a relaxed day really for me in the end. We took DGD to nursery and then I went on to take her mum back to her house. I called in on my parents, and had a couple of cups of tea, while looking for pictures of Westies on the computer, and setting up my Dads caravan awning on ebay!
Then mum gave me bits of velcro and other odds and sodds, and Dad gave me some bathroom fittings that were mine! 10 years ago, still in the box. I had bought them for a house, then had to move!.
I always seem to come home with more and more stuff from them!.
I stopped off at the local charity shop on the way home, and then had a very slow saunter around the antiques centre.
When I got home it was lunchtime.
DGD had been picked up by Molly's DD for me.
I managed a rest in the afternoon before the health visitor arrived. She is worried DGD may have a squint. I am not sure, if she is just tired, but will keep a watch out now!
The Social Worker faxed over the letter to the legal Department of the council for the funding costs etc? Permission that twin1 is not going to appose the Special Guardianship, 9th March. So we are now in thier hands. Once they give the go ahead to fund to the Solicitor, then we can put the court application through. Then its dependant on court times.
This evening DGD just wanted Pasta so that was easy.!
DS is not coming home again! So peace and quiet and I can choose my own TV programmes.
Tomorrow its my day to go and see the boys.
unsurprisingly Twin2 is not back from her jaunt to town and therefore she will meet me there!.
When I rang her to confirm she had forgotten it was my day to go tomorrow.
Nothing surprises me with her anymore.

gizmo111

Permission that twin1 is not going to appose the Special Guardianship, 9th March. So we are now in thier hands.

Has twin1 got legal representation?

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

Has twin1 got legal representation?

yes she had a solicitor sort it out.